Partner sent me an eviction email

[Rhiannon1997]

My partner sent me an eviction email today at 07:30 I am 25 weeks pregnant living at his home. I straight away contact my local council on a Sunday morning for immediate help within an hour he sent round one of his family members to kick me out there and then. (He was out all night on a bender with his friends hasn't even come home) I've managed to booked myself a hotel for the night with the money I have left but completely broken and upset that my perfect happy family has been broken apart and now having to manage pregnancy on my own and no where to live. I don't have any family or friends around me and just feel completely abandoned. He does this all the time goes missing for days because he's gone on the sesh. I know I should want to walk away but the thought of doing pregnancy on my own kills.

You need to accept that his behaviour is awful, part of a pattern and isn't going to change, so bad for you and awful for your baby to go back to him. That he sent you an eviction notice, then sent someone round to throw you out is unforgiveable - never mind the pattern of drinking to excess and not coming home.

You say you would have had an abortion if he hadn't been supportive as you didn't want to be a single parent. Now you know that you will be a lone patent, would you consider adoption?

Something that Womens Aid told me when I phoned them in a terrible state in a very similar situation:

You didn't do anything wrong in believing what someone told you. It's normal to trust people

The shame is on him, not you.

Build a mental stone wall between you and that man now. Block him on everything. Move forward with your new life with your baby, it's you and them now.

Sixteen years on and our life is great. Not materially perhaps, but we're happy, secure and I clearly have more empathy in my little toe than some of the posters on this thread. All their apparent material security and wonderful decisions in life, and look how they're revelling in putting the boot into someone who's down. Hasn't turned them into decent human beings, has it? And at the end of the day that's all that counts.

But he wants to be free of her? Have you missed the point. She is the one who won’t go away

Of course you made terrible choices. When you are a mother are you going to continue to believe men who promise things? Or will you take responsibility for yourself and protect your child better than you have protected yourself?

OP can make a police report but only the police can decide whether to press charges.

Believing a man was your first mistake, from which all the others followed.

If I was Education Secretary, every girl would be taught from reception class not to get pregnant by a man until she has a marriage contract backing her up.

He didn't want to be free of her until after the time limit had passed. Duping OP into continuing with a pregnancy and then jilting her is a massive massive power play. It must have given him such a boner to fuck her over like that.

You've done nothing wrong op. Many abusive men only show their true colors once their partner is pregnant or after the baby comes. I can't believe how many #ssholish comments are posted here.They are cruel, dumb, unhelpful and sanctimonious.

Compare to another thread by a young woman who just gave birth and left her absusive older partner, and how much more compassionate the comments are. That poster is really struggling but at least has an irl support network.

I hope your ex could be made liable for yyour hotel bill, op.

What is done, is done.
Yes, you've made unwise choices.
But you were not the bastard who promised the earth to their partner, then kicked them out when they were absolutely vulnerable.

OP, work on securing a home for you and your child. Ask for help from your midwife, council and GP. And make sure you never again believe a man without financial and legal backup.

This is rock bottom. Bu you've dodged a bullet - he was never going to give up his party life, and at best you would be raising a child with a resentful, disengaged alcoholic. It will get better.

Sorry she didn't make herself homeless while pregnant fast enough for you. Wtf! Some weird mix of almost incel level victim blaming and Victorian prudness here. (Criticizing her for having a child out of wedlock.) And this is a young woman coming from a toxic home environment too.

We've encountered one of the worst men ever on Mumsnet here (getting their friend to do any immediate eviction on a pregnant girlfriend bc he's to cowardly to do it himself) and the comments are cruel and unhelpful unless you have a time machine to send to op.

May your new and loved baby bring you much happiness OP.

She has a job.

This is OPs 3rd (at least) thread about him kicking her out. It’s been a recurring theme for months.

youve read my comment in isolation. It was a response to someone claiming he intentionally waited until she was this far along, when OP has been posting about her partner trying to leave her for months.

rtft, she needs mental health and crisis support, there is a real problem here and a woman who (i suspect) isn’t taking her anti psychotics as she mentions

The earlier threads, which I was not aware of put a different perspective on matters.

I'm not sure that anti-psychotics are compatible with pregnancy.

Yes. Believing a man and making yourself extremely vulnerable was the terrible choice! Can you really not see how your own choices have led you here??

Jeeze. The OP is human. Mistakes are made.

She doesn't actually understand or accept that she made mistakes and contributed to the situation she's in.

I just don't understand the story.

Everything was perfect with this wonderful man, who runs his own business and lives in a 4 bed house. You got pregnant and gave up your home and job for this new perfect life.

And then all of a sudden, because he likes partying, and while you were in hospital, he changed the locks, and sent his family members to visit you to threaten you?

None of this makes sense.

For one thing, how did you get back into his house after he changed the locks? When was the last time you even saw him?

Well good is it to kick her down now?

Oh dear, I'm so sorry about that. I think you should go to the council as homeless. Tell them you are happy to move away from the area fir housing. Don't stay tethered to this man. He is no good. I have read through the thread though.

You will get through this. You have to be strong for your baby. You will cone out of the other side🙏🏿🤗❤

@Rhiannon1997Ignore the snotty patronising messages on here. I hope today you can make some progress. Get to the council asap and hopefully you will be a priority. Apply for UC immediately. You will be ok. I can’t tell you how much easier it was parenting my children alone than with a useless “father”. I’d also try and make contact with your family if it is safe to do so. I hope you have a better day today 💐

How is that helpful? Why don’t you just put the boot in a bit more? The mind boggles at the sheer lack of compassion from some people.

@Rhiannon1997

Let us know how you get on with the Housing department this morning, OP.

I'm wondering whether you can speak to Social Services when you are there too. Do you already have an allocated Social Worker?

Touch base with your midwife today as well.

I know that the weekend was awful, but you're away from all that now.

This week should bring much more positive news, so hang on in there!

I hope that you had a nice breakfast in the hotel and are on your way to see Housing now.

That's one of the shittiest comments I've ever read on here and I've been here for years. What is wrong with you?

As I mentioned before, this is your 3rd thread in a matter of days:

Your first one was on 30th May,( last Sat night ) yesterday was 7th June

Pregnant and relationship break down
6 replies
Rhiannon1997 · 30/05/2026 22:05
I'm 24 weeks pregnant and completely alone no one to talk to.
I did have a very supportive attentive partner but he's turned to drugs and alcohol and is no longer there me
I'm currently in hospital due to stress and baby not moving so much and my partner hasn't come to see me but instead has gone out with friends.
he just told me he doesn't want me back at his house where I live and he wants me to take all my stuff out. The house is solely his but I have no where else to go

your second one was the very next morning, just a few hours later you could have just put an update on your first thread

Partner changed locks while I am pregnant and my belongings remain inside
6 replies
Rhiannon1997 · 31/05/2026 07:03
I'm 24 weeks pregnant and in hospital, my partner wants me out the house and has kicked me out and is saying he has changed the locks. All my belongings are still in his house what are my rights to gaining entry?
i know I have no rights to the property but I have no where else to go and want to sort my own stuff out. Does he have to give me a timeframe or can he just bag my own stuff up and chuck it out

and now just one week later you have done your 3rd thread, tho your first thread isn't full and you would prob have more useful replies if everyone had been able to read all your replies

Partner sent me an eviction email
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Rhiannon1997 · Yesterday 13:21
My partner sent me an eviction email today at 07:30 I am 25 weeks pregnant living at his home. I straight away contact my local council on a Sunday morning for immediate help within an hour he sent round one of his family members to kick me out there and then. (He was out all night on a bender with his friends hasn't even come home) I've managed to booked myself a hotel for the night with the money I have left but completely broken and upset that my perfect happy family has been broken apart and now having to manage pregnancy on my own and no where to live. I don't have any family or friends around me and just feel completely abandoned. He does this all the time goes missing for days because he's gone on the sesh. I know I should want to walk away but the thought of doing pregnancy on my own kills.

Apart from contacting housing yesterday morning, did you speak to the midwives or the duty social worker when you were in hospital, did you contact housing then as advised ?