Pregnancy after loss

[ChasingRainbow5]

Hi, I'm 4+4 after a loss at 6+5 in April. I don't want to join the 'due in January' thread yet as I joined the December one then had to bow out, but thought it might be nice to have a thread where anyone in a similar position could chat/vent? I can't see any recent similar threads, apols if I have missed.

I'm feeling a lot more nauseous than last time which I have read can be a positive sign, but obviously doesn't guarantee anything. Just trying to cling to any hope I can!

Hi guys it's reassuring to be hearing others are in similar places. I had my first very young and she's currently 11, a skin care specialist and nearly taller than me 🤣 I waited along time to try again and me and my husband are so excited. However a few years ago we unexpectedly got pregnant ( we didn't know) and then had a miscarriage and it was the most traumatic thing I have ever gone through. I'm pregnant now and I think I'm 7+3 but my lmp would suggest I'm around 11 weeks. I've struggled so much with anxiety and has to tell work due to my job and colleagues as I work in a semi unsafe environment. I know that there is nothing more I can do than be healthy walk, take my vitamins and try and stay of chat gpt at 4am. I've had some real anxiety spirals. But getting some quite strong symptoms so I'm quietly hopeful.

Welcome @Chillyegg, you’re in good company here 😊 Are your periods irregular if you’re unsure on dates? Do you have any appointments or scans booked in yet? x

Welcome @Chillyegg! This is a really great place for support!
I had my eldest really young too, he’s almost 20 now!

Thankyou 🙂 yeah super irregular has every test under the sun apparently nothing wrong - but last year when I was on a really strict eating regime and weightlifting and doing a ton of cardio they became monthly . Either way I'm due in Jan and will be electing for a c section if this one makes it.

Argh that’s frustrating! The NHS like to go by LMP (or they do here anyway!) so you should have your dating scan soon?

I’ll also be having an elective if we make it that far.

Welcome @Chillyegg ! Congratulations on your pregnancy :) have you had any scans yet or any coming up?

Can I ask why you and @ChasingRainbow5 are planning for an elective csection? I have been considering it this time around.

Welcome @Chillyegg !!

Another one who will be opting for an elective section here. I've already had two, first baby was in a really dangerous position and the second was absolutely huge (10lb5). I know I can cope with the recovery and feel like the chances of an emergency C-section are high given my history, so I'd rather have a planned one instead.

@ThatMintMember my first was a failed induction ending in emergency section, by that point I hadn’t eaten or slept in 48 hours so I was a wreck and they got him out just in time. The recovery was loads better than I expected so for me it’s a no brainer. Plus if we know when it’s happening we can have childcare lined up. The only thing I’m worried about is not being able to lift my toddler for six weeks, my partner won’t have that long off work but we’ll figure it out.

Hello ladies - please can I join you? I’m sorry for your losses ❤️‍🩹. Are there any strategies you ladies are finding helpful for coping?

I’m 5+1 today IVF pregnancy (endometriosis and a clotting issue). I had a miscarriage end of Feb / into March. If this works out it will be my first baby. I’m 36.

My first scan is at 7 weeks in the IVF clinic. Assuming all goes well with that, I’m thinking of getting a few private scans in between then and when we go on holiday around 12 weeks. I just don’t want to be in a MMC situation. My friend who had a few miscarriages told me she found scans every 2 weeks helpful until she could feel the baby moving.

I have started casually mentioning being pregnant to people if it comes up. I’ve just found the journey to get here just exhausting with surgery, IVF etc and I just can’t pretend this part of my life isn’t going on anymore. I also found the only thing that made me feel worse during the miscarriage was trying to pretend to people like it wasn’t happening. So I don’t want to find myself in that situation again. Plus I don’t think there’s any stage where I will feel safe in a pregnancy now.

wishing you ladies all the best ✨💫

Hello @SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite 😊

Really sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your current pregnancy. I haven't really found any coping strategy, I just tell myself today I'm pregnant, and trying to accept that it's all out of my control is sort of helpful and frustrating in equal measure...

I totally understand wanting to talk about it, and I haven't had the journey you've had! It's such a huge part of your life. I told a couple of people about my miscarriage who hadn't known I was pregnant, including my mum as I just needed a hug. It's definitely not spoken about enough.

And I get the extra scans too. I had one at 7 and my next one is at 10 weeks, then my dating scan if all is still well and I don't see how I'd make it to 20 from there, so I'd maybe book a private one. All ifs and woulds!

Wishing you smooth sailing and we're always here 💕

You’re in good company @SlightlyTerrifiedButPoliteeveryone here is so lovely and supportive.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Regular scans really did help me with reassurance up to the 12 week scan.

I was the same in being more open with this pregnancy. I didn’t tell anyone first time, but then told people about the miscarriage as it happened around new year when we were meant to go on holiday and I didn’t have the energy to lie about why we hadn’t gone. I found this time around I wanted the support of my family and friends. We were pregnant again very quickly too, so when people were checking in how we were coping I just needed to be honest that I was heartbroken/excited/petrified all in one go.

Similar to chasing rainbows I’ve had to just take each day as it comes & tell myself as far as I know everything is ok. Scans and stats helped, I read the miscarriage risk reduces to 1% after seeing a heartbeat at 9 weeks, so after my scan then I kept reminding myself I had 99% chance of everything being ok.

I’ve just catching up, so pleased your scan went well @Namechangedforthis60

We paid privately for NIPT at window to the womb, I think it was about £275 but worth it for the clarity I found

Whereabouts in the country are you? I'm in Cambridge and can't find it for any less than £400. Thinking we'll go ahead with it next week anyway.

Welcome @SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite keeping everything crossed for you! I definitely find regular scans essential for peace of mind after MMC in the past.

Hi ladies,
I very tentatively joined the due February 2027 loss thread but will join here too if that’s ok.

I say tentatively as I’ve had 4 losses and also a TFMR in 2024 at 22 weeks so a pretty turbulent TTC journey.

This year I fell pregnant in January and miscarried at 7 weeks (but baby stopped developing much earlier) and then had a chemical in April. I’m now 15dpo and pregnant again. Test lines have got much darker than the April loss so I’m trying to be hopeful but it’s hard.

Hoping to be able to go through this journey with others who understand how stressful it is. Definitely feeling more worried than excited at the moment but also trying to remember that I can’t control the situation and what will be will be.

@SwissmeringueI’m in Manchester. I did find a lot of different prices, our hospital offered us to have it privately through them but it was almost double the cost

Welcome @Fullofconfusionit sounds as though you’ve had a truly awful time & I’m sorry to hear about your experience so far.

Its absolutely understandable to feel worried, most of us have felt similar along the way & you’re in good company here

Welcome @SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite , congratulations on your pregnancy. I've had 2 MMC before this pregnancy and what I did to cope is to just keep busy for the first few weeks and try not to think too much about the pregnancy (I watched literally every rom com on netflix to pass the time). I then booked a private scan for 8 weeks as I know the scan would be definitive (it took 2 or 3 scans to confirm my miscarriages which was horrendous for my mental health, I preferred to let more time pass to know I'd have my answer at 8 weeks if there was a heartbeat or not).

Welcome @Fullofconfusion , congratulations on your pregnancy and I'm really sorry for your losses. You're in good company here though so you aren't alone in any of this.

Welcome lovely, I’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through.

keeping everything crossed for you xx

Sending you so much love. Pregnancy after a loss is such a mix of hope, fear, and anxiety. You're definitely not alone in feeling hesitant to fully embrace it yet.
Every pregnancy is different, and while symptoms can be reassuring, try to take things one day at a time. Today, you are pregnant, and that's worth holding onto. Wishing you a healthy and uneventful pregnancy ahead.

Hey, how is everyone getting on?

I've just had a scan at 10 weeks and all is well 😊 Booking appointment tomorrow.

Congratulations @ChasingRainbow5 !

That's lovely news that your scan went well @ChasingRainbow5!

I'm doing great thanks for asking :) i'm 18 weeks now and I've finally got some energy back so trying my best to just enjoy this part before I feel enormous or have anymore drama!

Glad you're feeling good @ThatMintMember ! I've been feeling really sick and this heat is NOT helping, manifesting getting to your stage 😅

Lovely news! So happy for you 😁x

Oh bless you! I don't think we've talked about morning sickness much on here yet. I got through by just eating constantly haha. I was pretty rough between weeks 8 and 14.