Pregnancy after loss

[ChasingRainbow5]

Hi, I'm 4+4 after a loss at 6+5 in April. I don't want to join the 'due in January' thread yet as I joined the December one then had to bow out, but thought it might be nice to have a thread where anyone in a similar position could chat/vent? I can't see any recent similar threads, apols if I have missed.

I'm feeling a lot more nauseous than last time which I have read can be a positive sign, but obviously doesn't guarantee anything. Just trying to cling to any hope I can!

Hello lovelies,

I was kindly made aware of this group from @ThatMintMemberon a post I had made earlier today so I wanted to say hello and share my story.

I lost my first baby last year to a missed miscarriage and two days ago on 21st June I found out I was pregnant again after doing an early test and then I got my pregnant 1-2 week on the digital yesterday!

Since finding out I have been consumed with fear and worry, I am overanalysing everything and panicking that something is going to go wrong. I keep comparing to when I was pregnant before which doesn’t help but pregnancy after loss is so hard, you can’t help overthinking everything!

This pregnancy seems so different to my last one in so many ways and I feel like I am just constantly living in fear xx

Welcome & congratulations @AnonymousUser101

I'm pregnant for the second time, having lost my first pregnancy at 7 weeks. It really is a tough experience to go through & changes the way you feel for your second pregnancy. I completely understand how you're feeling. I'm 21 weeks now & am only just starting to feel excitement and letting my guard down that were having a baby. I've definitely been safeguarding myself and preparing for the worst.

Everyone here is super lovely and in a similar boat x

So pleased to hear your scan went well @ChasingRainbow5🥰

Hey @AnonymousUser101, glad you found this and congratulations on your pregnancy 😊

It's so hard and I don't have any real advice, but will be here when you want to scream into the void! I was fully expecting bad news today, all is fine but was told it looks like I'll have a bleed in the future, so there's something else to worry about 😑

I'm also eating constantly, I feel huge! It's mostly beige with a little bit of fruit, basically my toddler's dream diet 😂

Some lovely updates on the thread, they fill me with happiness for you all.

@AnonymousUser101tentative congratulations, I think we can all empathise with how you’re currently feeling. It’s a very different experience coping with pregnancy after loss.

I’m 5 weeks today I think. I have a scan booked for next week when I’ll be 6+1. I thought I was doing ok but then had a bit of a wibble this morning when I took a clearblue weeks test and it showed 2-3. My phone app had used my last period to work out how far on I was and not my ovulation date so I panicked as thought I should be 5+4 so should show 3+ weeks. Anyway I’ve worked out my dates properly and feel a bit better now. No more testing until the scan now. It’s just making me spiral.

I’ve not had a scan with a heartbeat since I had my TFMR in 2024 and have had 4 miscarriages since so the thought of the scan is already bringing me anxiety and I’ve still got a week to wait.

Hello ladies,

I did a test this morning after my early positive on Sunday and my pregnant 1-2 on the digital on Monday.

Does this look normal or should it be darker?

I put this test into Google Gemini and it said that by now it should be a lot darker so now I am worried that something is wrong.

That test looks good to me for only just testing positive on Sunday ☺️ you could always do another first response in 48 hours and you’ll likely see it darker again x

Lovely to see some new people on this thread- I’m rooting for you all ☺️

I’m 3 weeks post D&C / ERPC today and got a negative test this morning. I thought I’d feel really sad but I’m actually a little bit relieved if that makes sense! I’m hoping that means things are getting back to normal and we can get back to TTC sooner than the hospital initially suggested 🤞🏻 I’ve found recovery from this surgery a lot tougher than my first loss both physically and emotionally but I think that’s probably just the back to back pregnancies and miscarriages playing havoc with my hormones. Anything seems to push me over the edge right now- I cried when Tesco had ran out of strawberry ice cream yesterday 😅 anyway I’m trying to stay positive and hoping it’ll be third time is the charm for us! x

Wishing you all the best for your ttc journey next time round, sending you lots of love and well wishes and I hope it all works out for you 🤍

@AnonymousUser101that test looks good. I know you’ll be overthinking everything right now because I did the same thing. I used the same brand of test (easy at home strips) and tested every 2 days until I was happy with how dark the line was. If you’re comparing different brands the lines can vary in strength.

How many days post ovulation are you? Remember implantation can occur several days after this so there is no definitive darkness that a line should be at a certain point. I didn’t get a line as dark as the control line until 17dpo this pregnancy.

I’m still very nervous as haven’t had a scan yet but I’ve now stopped testing at home as it just builds my anxiety.

Home pregnancy tests (although I know we all use them this way) aren’t supposed to be used as a reliable way of tracking progression. Unless the lines are getting lighter I would try to stop testing or limit your testing to every 2 days with first morning urine as HCG should double every 2 days so that will hopefully show a better comparison.

Keeping everything crossed for you. Pregnancy after loss is a hard road

@sapphirerubydiamondwith the heat I think most of us would have cried if we were denied ice cream! I think a negative test after a loss can be a bit of a relief, it gives you a kind of closure. Fingers crossed this means you can start TTC once you’re ready.

Welcome @AnonymousUser101! That line looks fine, are you 4+1 now? I didn't get a dye stealer until 4+6 if i remember rightly but that wasn't on Easy at Home test strips. I second using the same brand otherwise it's hard to compare.

Good luck for your scan next week @Fullofconfusion!

@sapphirerubydiamond I understand your relief at the negative test, such a strange feeling but sounds like the surgery did it's job. Rooting for you when you next start TTC!

Hope everyone is coping in the heat! I think i was getting some Braxton Hicks yesterday, a quick Google said dehydration can cause them so trying to drink more today as they're making me feel nervous!

Hey everyone came to post just for some comfort really have my scan next week. And I have been a nervous anxious spiralling nightmare.
I spoke to my Dr and he was about as helpful as a chocolate fire guard . I've had nausea ranging from mild and all day to really short boughts of thinking I may just throw up immediately ,every day I've had some form of breast tenderness and and soreness that wakes me at night. I'm honestly best mates with chatgpt who tells me symptom tracking is not certain and can't really support a prediction. But after my last loss . I genuinely am beside myself with worry. Trying to take each day as it comes. Terrified of having a missed miscarriage and having another miscarriage . I can't cope with the pain of the miscarriage again.physocallu it was awful

Hi @Chillyegg I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. Those first weeks are so tough mentally aren't they! I found the symptoms come in waves so tend to come and go which doesn't help either.

I'm also best mates with ChatGPT 😂 it's been amazing for finding out chances of a successful pregnancy, possible reasons for bleeding that I was able to discuss with the doctors and even just checking food safety things! My midwife told me to reach out if I'm struggling with my mental health but feel like I've already got a therapist!

What day is your scan?

I am in the same boat - I had a mmc last year and now I found out I am pregnant again three days ago and my mind is spiralling into a million things, I have next to no symptoms this time round which makes me overthink everything even more. I am constantly talking to ChatGPT for reassurance! I am terrified I am going to experience another loss and it’s an awful feeling, the constant fear and overthinking so I really do understand how you feel 🤍 I am sending so much love and positivity your way, I really hope all is well. You’ve done the right thing by voicing your feelings in this group, every one here understands how you are feeling and has been in your shoes so you are not alone xx

No ice cream is heartbreaking!

I'm glad the negative brought you some relief. Did you have it confirmed whether your pregnancy was molar? Sorry if I’ve missed xx

Sending massive hugs to everyone feeling anxious, @Chillyegg @Fullofconfusion @AnonymousUser101 the wait for scans is absolute torture xx

Not yet unfortunately! The secretary rang me with an appointment for last week so I spent the days up to it panicking, turned up for said appointment and the consultant said he didn’t know why I was there and the results weren’t back yet 🙃 xx

@sapphirerubydiamond that’s awful!! I thought you’d said you had an appointment last week, so sorry you were messed around 🙁

Hello! Congrats to everyone with their new pregnancies and so glad your scan was good news @ChasingRainbow5 .
Thank you all for being so so supportive but I actually am going to leave the thread as I’m finding hearing about other people’s pregnancies very hard (and there’s plenty surrounding me in not online life!).

Just wanted to say an enormous amount of good luck and best wishes to all you mammas and I will keep everything crossed for you all having your babies soon ♥️♥️♥️ much love xxxx

@feelingalittlehorse that’s totally understandable. Take lots and lots of care of yourself xxx

The emotional rollercoaster is completely understandable @sapphirerubydiamondas hard as seeing a negative test can be, I'm glad you've not had any complications from the surgery.

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling @Chillyeggis your therapist helpful in this area? I was in therapy before I got pregnant and had a miscarriage but she wasn't the best in supporting through that. Could be worth seeing what your midwife could offer too

@feelingalittlehorseI completely understand your need to step back, you've got to do what's right for you. I really hope you’ll have a good news story soon. Take care ❤️