☀️🏖👶🏻🍼🤰Due in August ☀️🏖👶🏻🍼🤰

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Starting a new thread and hope it will fill up in the next few weeks

I am a bit nervous starting this group as I am still SO early, only just testing positive this morning at 9DPO, ive taken 3 tests just to be sure. Hoping for a sticky bean, I am not a stranger to chemical pregnancies so really keeping everything crossed, its so nerve wracking!

I've gone off 'conception date' rather than LMP as I ovulate late, and for me, its more accurate - this brings me to due date 1st August 2026.

If others would like, I can start a Facebook group, maybe in a few weeks, I found the group sooo useful with my first little one! Let me know 🥰

How is everyone? Any symptoms yet?

@givingitanothergo i hope you’re ok 🫂 it’s so hard not to think the worst. I’ve been bleeding a lot today the heaviest it’s been , like a full in mild period but I just did a clear blue digital and it’s gone up to 2-3?! I’m hopping that could mean everything is ok but then it doesn’t explain all the bleeding? Try not to panic, I know that’s so much harder said than done!!! I nearly vomitted when my little boy did a poo which prompted me to take another test I’m in shock. Sending positive vibes your way x

Tentatively joining — due 27th, first time pregnant so no idea what to expect. Very much wanted but still took me by surprise.

Trying not to get too attached just yet as I’m a bit older and heard a lot of scary stories. Already kicking myself for not taking folic acid for the last months, still drinking until the day before I tested :( telling myself that plenty have come through worse but it’s not the ideal start.

@1sttimemummn im sorry to hear, i hope everything will be okay though! Are you going to contact your drs or epau?

I fell asleep last night around 8pm, felt easier to just shut off and have woken up and I’m sure I have some sort of pain or ache I don’t know 😭
I think ill contact my drs on Monday

I had one clear blue digi left that I was gonna take on Monday but now I scared it won’t say 3+ like it should (I’ll be 6 weeks on Monday)

Hello everyone, also tentatively joining… I’m estimating 5+2 - I don’t know for sure as this has been a complete shock! I’m 41 and have a nearly 2 year old from IVF. Never imagined that we’d conceive naturally but here we are! I’m feeling absolutely knackered with a few waves of nausea. eating helps although I don’t have my usual appetite. Had quite a bit of cramping over the past few days but it seems to have settled down now.

I think I’ll get an early scan and am trying not to get too excited until/if I know everything’s OK.

@StrictlyComeRamblingI also haven’t been taking folic acid, and I also had a drink the day before I tested! I don’t think it’s a massive deal, don’t beat yourself up.

I had brown discharge and a small bleed with my successful pregnancy. None of that with my miscarriage. It’s very common and definitely doesn’t mean something’s wrong.

Hi @CJade1993 - what did they say at the private scan? And who did your hCG blood tests? When I had my hCG blood tests through NHS last time, they knew what kind of progression they were looking for and what different rates of progression may indicate. I also had an early scan which didn't show anything in my uterus and at that point, it was determined as a PUL (pregnancy of unknown location). My experience didn't end well, and I don't want to indicate that the same will be the case for you - but if you'd like to know more about my experience and what happened, I can let you know. Hopefully the scan on Christmas Eve will give you some more definitive answers.

@givingitanothergo and @1sttimemummn sorry you are both having bleeding. It's obviously going to immediately take you to a bad place. Is there anything you'd like to talk through? Is there anything we can do to help?

@taysonic Thank you. They couldn’t locate any sac but my lining was 2.1cm thick and they could see some cysts (making it difficult to distinguish the sac). They said it could be to early as I should have been 6 weeks exactly based on LMP. My GP requested the first two and then I have another through the EPAU and have a another booked today, no one has said about how they are progressing so I will ask at EPAU. My concern is PUL too, so if you're able to share your experiences I would be grateful x

I'm also tentatively joining. Tested positive on Friday with a surprise, but very wanted, 3rd baby. I've done a couple of tests so far but they're fainter than I would have thought they should be - although I can't really remember from last time. I estimate I'm around 19 DPO so just crossing fingers. Due date would be 25th August 😊

I know it shouldn’t automatically mean anything bad but it’s the exact same point my first miscarriage started :( it feels sort of similar in amount and gradually got worse over a week
then with my last pregnancy I had a lot of bleeding at the start as I was losing the twin
it’s traumatic to see any at all

I did my clear blue digi today anyway and it only said 2-3 which was not reassuring as it be exactly 6weeks tomorrow
im completely out of tests so ordered more

I don’t think I’ve had any pain since getting out of bed but I feel less pregnant ? ( as less pregnant as you can at almost 6 weeks )
many symptoms are gone and I just feel normal :( I felt like weirdly full even though baby was the size of a tiny seed and now I feel empty

@ThisGiddySeal welcome and congrats! Also pregnant with a third- how are you feeling about it? How old are your other two? My girls will be 3.5 and 5.5 when baby comes. I go between being excited and absolutely terrified/worried I’m making a big mistake and our lives will be ruined. The constant nausea isn’t helping my headspace. :( I’m 6+3 and have started taking anti-sickness pills which are sliiiightly helping.

My last pregnancy was considered a PUL/suspected ectopic. I'd had some bleeding at the start (which I mistook for my period) but when my 'period' ended and I tried to track ovulation, I immediately got strong LH tests and pregnancy test was positive. Progression was slow to start but it was progressing. And the bleeding had stopped so I was cautiously optimistic. About a week or so later, I had some red blood again. Booked myself an early private scan at just over 6 weeks.

The scan was horrible. My uterus lining was thick, but no sac or pole could be seen in uterus. There was also a undermined mass they found which the technician at the time thought could have been retained products. They also found a large ovarian cyst (bigger than a golf ball). I was urgently referred to EPAU who got me in for a scan the next day.

They couldn't find evidence of retained products and put it down as PUL at that point. They said it could have been too early, I may have already passed the loss or it could be ectopic. What followed was about two weeks of bloods every 48 hours. The hCG levels were reducing so it confirmed a loss of some description... But then, out of nowhere, the levels rose. At this point, I had some options.

I could have waited and let nature take its course and they'd continue to monitor me every 48 hrs until hCG levels dropped to negative or they'd treat it as ectopic. I was due to fly out to Greece for my best friend's wedding (!!!) so we decided to go for the methotrexate treatment. Just to get it 'over with' and it was the least risky option that still allowed me to travel.

It was three injections into the bottom, and I was signed off work for two weeks. It was worse emotionally than it was physically. And we weren't allowed to TTC again for three months after. Which, to be honest, was probably a bit of a blessing in disguise as it allowed us to properly grieve and process the loss.

I really hope it's just a bit too early for you and a second scan provides a bit more reassurance. Either way, make sure you've got as best a support network as you can in this limbo period. Be kind to yourself. Take as much pressure off as you can. Take time off work if you need to. It's a lot to deal with.

@LoveYouHoneybear thank you, and congrats to you too!
I have a son and a daughter who will also be 5.5 and 3.5 when the baby's here. And I have to say I feel exactly the same. I'm very happy! But so worried about having three and how we'll cope, and then all the practical things we'll have to change too - like I'll need a bigger car as mine won't fit 3 car seats in the back.
Sorry to hear about the sickness already, I can feel it creeping up for me too. Did you have it badly in previous pregnancies?

@ThisGiddySeali also need a new car 😂 My husband is excited and quick to give me an encouraging word, but I am just so ill and riddled with hormones, it’s so easy for me to be pessimistic! I had awful sickness with my first until about 24 weeks. My second wasn’t so bad and I was better by 16 weeks. I’m really hoping to continue the trend with this one! It’s making it hard to enjoy anything right now. I feel like such a grinch.

@givingitanothergo cometrly get that. It’s such a horrible waiting game isn’t it! I have had some mild cramps but I did with both of my boys too in fact my first I had the most excruciating pains I’ve ever experienced (bar labour) and everything was fine. I’m still bleeding, literally have to wee roads etc I’m so confused! I’m in holiday and have two more digital left. I want to do another now but I know that’s pointless so I’m desperately trying to holdout. I’ve been messaging my friend who’s a midwife and I’m going to contact them as soon as I’m home. I don’t think they’ll see you before 6 weeks, just a horrible waiting game isn’t it. I really hope everything is ok for you! Maybe take the test in a few days when you well and truly will be 3+ that’s what I’m trying to do but it’s impossible isn’t it lol xx

@Taysonic i am so sorry you went through that, it must have been so heartbreaking xx

Has anyone else gotten quite emotional yet? I have cried twice today, I think it’s from anxiety and just exhaustion. Only 5w 6days so feel like it’s maybe too early for it to be my hormones but I just feel so teary.

@taysonic thank you for sharing what must of been a confusing and emotional time, not to mention scary! I hope you are doing okay now.

I've been spotting since the 3rd/4th Dec with a three day break. My results from my latest blood test today showed 8879 hcg, Friday was 8304, so it's not increased alot, hoping the EAPU will call tomorrow to discuss but I think I will have to wait until Christmas Eve and pray that all is ok, but it doesn't fill me with hope at the moment. I'm lucky that work and family are supportive but this will be our second loss in a row xx

@1sttimemummn sorry to hear you’re still experiencing bleeding. I hope your friend is able to help. I’m still getting spotting too but it’s such early days for me I know I just need to wait and see!

@givingitanothergo how have you been today? Hope all is okay. Completely understand what you mean - it’s such an anxious time.

@LoveYouHoneybear @ThisGiddySeal I’m pregnant with my third too! My daughter will be 4.5 and my son will be 2.5. I’m excited but also fully aware of how challenging it’s going to be, especially going back to the newborn days. I’ve also already started researching cars!

@Aquarius93 nice to meet another 3rd time mum, congratulations to you.
I'll be tapping into your car research one day, but for now I'm too tired!

Had a private scan on Friday and all seemed good! I was measuring 7w1d (so I guess 7w4d now). Feel so relieved! The scan place was full of teddies and baby scan merchandise so I was thinking god this is going to be a terrible place to find out somethings wrong.

Nausea/vomiting has been awful. I'm going to try and call GP tomorrow to see if I can get something to help, but doesn't sound like others have found great benefit 😫just praying it starts to ease up

Anyone else freaking out a bit? I’m about 80% delighted and 20% oh my goodness what have we done!? My career is, frankly, a mess and obviously won’t be helped by a little one. Husband is lovely but I can for sure see ways this will strain our relationship. And just generally feeling the hugeness of the disruption that might be coming… Oh my

Hi @CJade1993 - if it helps, those hCG levels are much higher than when I was having my loss. I don't think I've ever had a hCG test where it was above 500. So that's reassuring in itself and the fact it is still increasing is positive. If they were worried about the progression, they would say. Keep your fingers crossed, and I hope you get some answers soon.

@taysonic thank you. I'm keeping everything crossed at the moment x

Would also be a third time mum here if everything works out !! No idea what we’ll be doing about the car situation LOL!

@Aquarius93 yesterday I do think the spotting slowed down a bit and only having pinky stuff on wiping, thankfully no pain but I’m still super anxious. Still getting a pink tinge on wiping today but I really hope all is alright.

i contacted my drs this morning to ask to be referred to epau, as I have a history and I’m really anxious and the GP was like well if it’s a miscarriage the bleeding will get worse and you’ll pass the pregnancy. Thanks for that! He told me they can’t refer me for XYZ reasons but I didn’t get off the phone until he said he’d do it 😂 I suppose the epau may still not want to see me but honestly what’s the point in it if it’s not there for reassurance when people have had miscarriages and complicated pregnancies before ??