Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part IV------Welcome to Knicker Checker's Anonymous

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Ooops, the thread filling up sneaked up on us didn't it!

Can't see another one yet...so here we are

Tryingnotot...that is fantastic news . I hope you can enjoy your weekend in Barcelona. I heart Barcelona and am v

Welcome WMMC and congratulations!

ILTS my first thought when the battered sausage was mentioned was what does splishsplosh want her to do with it . Hope your lo makes an appearance soon. Try making some appts (hair cut etc) that you'd really like to go to - by applying sods law you are likely to go into labour shortly before the appt.

ronshar I'm only 16 wks but I get the odd shooting ligament pains occasionally when I pick up DS or if I stand up too quickly - it passes quite quickly though.

ILTS and cricri - yes, I was on the March 08 thread and briefly posted on the cake & chocolate thread before MN became too much of a distraction from uni work! There seems to be a few names from those threads here that I recognise. Hope you are all ok. Hi to everyone else too.

Dh and ds are down in the cellar having a jamming session on their guitars. Well, dh plays and ds just minces about breaking expensive equipment like only a two year old can. It is sweet to see him try to copy dh though . I am trying to get a little time to catch up on this thread, but ds will be up and wailing through wanting his bath soon, so it may have to wait.

Lcy - hope Saturday wasn't too bad for you. Have told dh not to make arrangements to meet up with his parents on BH Monday (as he usually does). Not sure if he realises why I want a day out with just me, him, ds and the dog without uncle tom cobley and all tagging along. Don't care if it is raining,hailing or snowing, we are going out and going to bloody well enjoy ourselves, whether we want to or not!

ah we tried sods law, dd1s birthday on the 27th of july, nowt, dd2s birthday on the 18th august, nowt, we now have to try and beat ds birthday on the 26th (yes I planned it very well )

Its like a little adventure

jules, one of the reasons may be that around the 6-8 week mark your supply starts to regulate itself better to the baby's needs and your let down calms down and becomes more gentle. Some babies get a bit annoyed about this as they aren't getting the drenching they have been used to and get understandably a leetle bit annoyed.

In some ways it's good you are getting it now as it means you are doing great wiht the feeding , but on the other hand it's hard when they won't feed as they had been doing. they also have a bit of a growth spurt around now as well which can make things difficult too.

this book was recommended by another MNer and is great at helping understand the fussy times and why they might be happening.

hi all been off mn for a few days as in laws are visiting.

mollie i am so sorry to hear what has happened!! i can't believe this - it's so unfair esp after seeing a hb in early scan. i know nothing i say now will really help - it's crappy that us ladies have to go through this. it really is. i hope you know that we are all here to chat and to support you - am sending you big hugs. i remember my first mc it was a big blow, but my second mc really knocked me and my confidence. it was a dark time and spent a lot of time crying randomly, but looking back i needed to go through that to come out of the other side - do cry when you feel like it and allow yourself to grieve. i wish you peace and future happiness mollie. big hugs xx

jules hugs to you for your little boy's anniversary date. it's hard isn't it. i am sure you are hugging beautifyl eleanor a little tighter this week.

hello to daisyj and welcome to our nutty worry filled world.

cricri, ebb i cant believe you are both so far along already!!!

ilts where's your baby??!

well, i wouldn't go that far jules, but your lovely DD is

hi bunny, hope you are well

just reading back and wanted to say welcome to wmmc too. you're my pg twin...i am also 13 weeks right now.

had my 12 week scan last week - was really nervous had a complete melt down the day before and threw up and cried at work and spent rest of day crying. scan went well though - little bunny was kicking about. i told myself that i would start believing and stop worrying after the 12 week scan. that lasted the weekend, and the worries are starting to come back - it's like a disease. anyone who has good tips for keeping the worry at bay please post!

Aha! Thought the battered sausage might have been a reference to some anatomical injury due to too much bedroom aerobics. Fnar fnar!

bunny - I was exactly the same. It wouldn't be real until I saw a scan. Just kept telling dh it was his job to find the hb with this baby - I hate it that you cannot see the screen right away. The lo did a couple of backflips during the scan and the pic (must update my profile one day) looks like it is playing the umbilical cord like a saxophone. Either that or it is trying to eat it - much more likely if ds is anything to go by . No wonder I am sooo knackered all the time!

But yes, the worry is still there like a nagging pain in my mind. If I'm honest, it won't really go away until the lo is here and safe in my arms. It's more a matter of keeping it at bay and getting on with life each day at a time, especially right now, and enjoying my ds.

It's my wedding anniversary tomorrow and have written an uncharacteristically soppy card to dh. Bah - am getting soft in my old age.

Am off to bed before I start singing sad songs (can that be done whilst sober?!?) and waltzing around the bedroom. Luckily, dh is out so won't know what a mad old bint I really am (until he opens his card tomorrow that is )

Nighty night all.

Bunny Thanks for crashing on the other thread, thought I'd reply to you here, thanks very much for your kind words and thoughts. I think I'm still waiting for it to hit me, but feeling quite strong at the moment. Taking it easy as ordered by you Wishing you a very long, healthy and worry free pg. I will lurk so I can keep updated as we've been on a few threads together. Good luck x x x

Hi everyone - gosh, what a lot of late-pregnancy action going on! and at people not giving up their seats. I must live in quite a polite part of SE London (when people aren't stabbing each other, that is), as I've felt really light headed and queasy a couple of times on the train in the morning and basically just had to crouch down where I was standing, so I didn't fall on someone, and both times someone has offered me a seat.

Anyway, scan last night, and apparently there's actually a BABY in there, with a HEARTBEAT and everything. Having a mmc first time round sure does mess with your head, as we all know, so DH and I were over the moon to see a really strong heartbeat, size just right for dates, and even saw the brain structure, with the two sides of the brain clearly visible. I couldn't believe we could see that much at 8+4! I'm sooo glad I decided to go for the scan - worth every penny to be able to believe in my baby - I really feel a bond that I didn't feel before. Woke up feeling incredibly protective and loving where before I felt like 'I hope I'm not feeling sick, hungry and achy for something that isn't even viable'. Not good.

Hope the good feelings get me through to the nuchal scan on 15 Sept.

Daisy and ronshar - hope you get some relief from the pain soon.

Lcy lol about your fat neighbour
xx

daisyj So pleased to hear about your successful scan I agree that mmc does mess with your head - I was a nervous wreck this time around for my first scan. The detail is amazing though, even so early on.
Bunny Pleased for you too No real tips for keeping the worries at bay, but you may soon start to feel some flutterings so that will help. Unfortunately as WMMC says, you keep worrying until you hold LO in your arms. Then a whole new set of worries start! I guess it's a case of taking it one day at a time and keep focusing on the scan picture.
WMMC Sounds like your LO has been inspired by your musical DH and DS Hope you have a lovely wedding anniversary today

bunny - so busy thinking about me, me, me, didn't even read the last few posts before I posted mine. Really hope your worries begin to ease. I'm sure mine will start to return too, but I already had in mind to do what cricri suggests and just focus on the scan pictures. I totally get what wmmc says about a 'nagging pain'.

Also, maybe try to remember how good the odds are for you now. I think sometimes when you spend a lot of time on mnet you get a slightly distorted picture of how frequently things go wrong, because we're often here to post about things that we need support with.

xx

Can't believe it. Have started bleeding . EPU shut at 5pm, I've just been to toilet and suddenly am loosing fresh blood. I can't believe this is happening a 4th time, how can I be told I'm just unlucky again. So much for 6wk scan showing all fine on Tuesday, knew it was too good to be true.

I'm really wishing DH was here right now, he's not due home till Wed night and won't get away before that.

I'm sorry to be a dampner again, just don't think anyone in RL really understands

Scotlass Sorry to hear about the bleeding It may not mean the worst - others on this thread have had big bleeds and have gone on to have succesful pregnancies. Jules was one - hopefully she'll be along soon with some better advice for you. Unfortunately it may just be a case of seeing what happens tonight and overnight which is horrible, especially if you're on your own. You can then go along to the EPU in the morning. Is there nobody nearby who could come to be with you tonight?
Thinking of you and will check in again later to see how you're doing.

scotlass as cricri says it may not mean mc, I bled for 2 weeks (8-10)with my ds1, consultant told me 30% of pregnant women do. However, I know how distressing it is esp with history of mc and awful to happen just as epu shut . Let us know how you are getting on.

Hi sorry had to search the street for DD, feed her and get her in bath. She's there now so will be quick.

TBH I think I knew deep down on Tuesday. MW said size looked fine but I felt as I was 6wks and sac looked small with only a white line to see was baby - no HB at that point. She said there was no areas that looked like they would bleed. I have been taking aspirin for past week and a half.

Sorry if TMI - I wiped before going to the toilet - as you do after X3 mc's - there was nothing, had a wee then there was a tissue full of fresh blood/a clot. More blood down toilet. Have had dark red fresh blood on wiping since. I haven't had a lot of bleeding during/after all my mc's so think this is definately a bad sign. I know loads of people do bleed and everything's fine but I don't even feel pg and I think my tiredness is stress related.

I just feel a bit numb, really wish DH was here. I'm really trying to keep it together for DD.

scotslass

but, these things can happen with baby hanging on under what seems like very unlikely circumstances. My SIL bled loads, with clotting and her twins were fine; a woman on my AN thread was told she'd had a mc, had a D&C, was still getting raised hormone levels and went back for another scan as they thought it was a partial mole.....and there was the baby waving at them

try to keep calm and not worry until you have had another scan. My scan at 6+3 wks was also too small to show a heartbeat (where with DD we saw HB at this stage) and I fretted myself silly about it. And here I am at 29 weeks.

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