Due 2 weeks before wedding!

[Colliedogwalker]

Hello,
I have just found out i am pregnant and due 2 weeks before my wedding. Unfortunately wedding insurance dose not help for this and alot has already been paid.
First time mother and needing to know really what its like the first two weeks after. I fully understand everyone is different but i want to be as prepared as possible.

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2 weeks after my due date I had been out of hospital for 1 day and had juuuust stopped being fully doubly incontinent. Baby was wanting to feed every hour or so. Had a blood clot in my leg and had to go back to A&E. They’d given me lactulose so I didn’t bust my stitches so I kept farting really loudly, often waking the baby who would then cry for half an hour.

I’d rearrange.

I was just over 30 weeks pregnant on my wedding day but it all worked out fine 🙂

My first baby was also a full 2 weeks late and so I’d have missed the wedding too.

I think you'd be insane to go ahead. Childbirth is a serious thing, you'll be physically and mentally exhausted. Google the baby blues too, you may find you're very emotionally unstable for a few days during the first ten days. First babies often come late and there are a while myriad of reasons why you could be readmitted to hospital too.

True, but I'm just making the point in response to that poster saying a pregnancy at a wedding is ok. It could be! Or not. However, that's not the OP's question.
Although you do have a valid point

This has to be one of the most bonkers posts I’ve seen in a while, surely this is a wind up?!

I was 1 week late and struggled to get dressed out of pjs never mind into anything like a wedding dress!! I felt an achievement when I went for a walk to the shop and back 5 days after.

Not only that I had a lot of fluid retention and was very swollen towards the end and it it lasted a few weeks after.

Then you will have a new born who will probably be cluster feeding and crying and pooping.

I think this is a crazy idea.

Take the advice about changing the dates! Surely, the people will understand and allow you to either bring it forward or push it back. It is a wedding and as many have mentioned you might not be out of the hospital yet. And even if you are, many are not ready at 2 weeks to do the sort of thing you mention, also exposing a newborn to many people and germs so early would make me uneasy. Newborns are vulnerable the first few weeks. Also, you need time to recover....I would not just assume everything will be fine and dandy, some people take weeks to recover.....Agree with the wedding event people you will either do the wedding months before baby is out or months later.....

I have had 3 kids and let me tell you, two weeks you will not want to do a wedding!

Everyone has given very good reasons as to why this is a very bad idea and I concur. The only thing to add, on a more selfish level is… this is your wedding day! You want to enjoy it and think only/mostly of yourself and the person you’re marrying. I got married with a 2.5 year old in tow and even at that age we slightly had an eye to whether he was happy or napping etc. But at least he was able to easily spend the day and night with grandparents. A newborn? They need you every and any second of the day. Do you want to be breastfeeding at the altar? Hear the baby screaming outside as you do your vows? I can guarantee you won’t be in the mood for wedding night sexy time.

I say this as someone who has taken a tiny baby to conferences, awards ceremonies etc - it will not be the wedding day you deserve. It will be a day where all you think about is that tiny baby while you bleed heavily and are an emotional mess.

Please move it back - ideally to at least a year later!

It is possible but might not be enjoyable. I actually went to a friend’s wedding at 4 weeks post partum and left by about 4pm as I was on my knees exhausted. so absolutely it will be possible if you’re early but would be very much pushing it if you’re on time or overdue.

I think the problem is some of the physical issues- I still has pretty heavy lochia up until about 6-8 weeks post partum and was quite uncomfortable for the first 2-3 weeks as I’d had a lot of stitches. feeding didn’t go so well either. You ideally want to feel wonderful and at your best when you get married and with the best will in the world- no-one is at their best in their post partum phase. I’d bring it forwards if you can so you can still enjoy it as a couple before you have to worry about managing the baby.

Bring the wedding forward a few months while you can still dance and have fun. I took my 3 week old new born to a friends wedding and had to leave when the evening music started as it was too loud for my tiny baby and I was done socialising and sitting and breastfeeding after a couple of hours anyway.

This is completely unrealistic

Only two words apply to this . Completely impossible!

I mean, you might be fine. I had an emergency c section and I’ve just looked back, and 2 weeks later I went to a fancy afternoon tea (taking public transport there and back).

I was in a lovely newborn bubble and just happy on hormones.

BUT, you just won’t know. You might have a baby who cries all the time, you might be overdue, you might still be in hospital.

You can’t go ahead because the chances of it being fine are overall pretty low.

Totally NOT the norm… but possible. My 3rd was born 4 weeks early. I went home the same day and cooked a roast dinner (it was a Sunday and the baby was the guest of honour!!). When he was 3,4 and 5 days old I sat exams. At about 17 days old I went to an award ceremony. The day before his due date he was with me at a wedding! Strange things do happen… but I wouldn’t count on it.

Yeah I couldnt pee after they took the catheter out so they put it back in for a couple of days and had the option to go home or stay in hospital.

OP - if you can push for a elective C section at 39 weeks you might be Ok... otherwise definitely reschedule!

You will likely be able to change the wedding date if you coordinate something that works for most suppliers. My daughter was born 10 days late and we were still in hospital 2 weeks after her due date having gone 40 hours in a row without sleep (not wedding chic!) We came home the next day and you have to stay in for midwife appointments etc, my top priority was establishing breastfeeding and sleep.

First of all - congratulations!

For wedding though I can't see it working well. My first was evicted at 41+2 by EMCS after getting stuck following induction. I'd had an EMCS so obviously stitches there, stitches down south from a failed forceps attempt - basically I was more stitches than human on bottom half 😅. Day 5 I was just on my first trips walking VERY slowly with the pram, I couldn't have gotten married and certainly not worn a wedding dress.

Given its so far out, could you bring it in a couple of months if there is availability? Usually cancelling you'll not get anything back but rescheduling may have more flexibility.

Don’t mean to scare you, but I had a really good pregnancy and went into labour a few days early, was in labour for 3 days, couldn’t sleep and was really sick, and ended up with an emergency c-section, which went wrong, so was in hospital a further week and had a urinary catheter for 6 weeks after. I’m sure nothing as extreme will happen to you, but you just never know what’s going to happen with your labour.

Definitely try and put it back a few months or so, or bring it forward. You want to be able to enjoy it and enjoy your pregnancy too, without worrying about a wedding. God luck and congratulations!

Never made it beyond 37 weeks. First born at 37 weeks second 35. So by your timescale baby would be here. And the last thing I could have coped with would have been a wedding. I would have bailed on anyone else’s let alone my own.

Plus your brain is programmed to keep the baby alive so you literally don’t care about anything else at that stage. Definitely cancel.

OP, you could also consider a maternal request c-section IF you feel ok about having a c-section. You then definitely won't be going 2 weeks overdue and will know for sure which date baby will be born on which would usually be around 39 weeks.

Baby would still be very new of course but it might help to plan things better if you really can't change anything.

Move it OP, even if it costs you a fortune. Honestly you won't want to do it then even if you can, and there's a good chance uou won't be able to as you will still be a wreck from birth or maybe not even able to move post c-section.

Either bring the wedding forward or push it back.

Congratulations. It’ll all work out ❤️

If you want to enjoy any part of your wedding day, or enjoy any plans surrounding your wedding, then change the date.

Good luck.

I cannot imagine anything more stressful. My wedding was hell ish in terms of stress and I am pretty laidback. I’ve told Dh that he can’t divorce me because I refuse to ever go through another wedding again. 😂

Having a baby was also pretty high up there in terms of stress. I lost a lot of blood and was only just about past the gasping for air and nearly passing out walking to the loo stage by 2 weeks. There is truly no way you can have a baby at the same time as your wedding. I wouldn’t even go if it was someone else’s wedding and only required me to turn up for 2 hours and make a polite appearance.