Due 2 weeks before wedding!

[Colliedogwalker]

Hello,
I have just found out i am pregnant and due 2 weeks before my wedding. Unfortunately wedding insurance dose not help for this and alot has already been paid.
First time mother and needing to know really what its like the first two weeks after. I fully understand everyone is different but i want to be as prepared as possible.

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It’s not just about physical recovery, I think even if you are physically fine you will be very distracted and probably not in the right headspace to enjoy your wedding, which is not ideal for what sounds like the fairly big day you have planned.

I was 12 days late. The birth took over 10 hours and there's absolutely NO way I'd have been able to rock up to a wedding a day later except possibly by being carried in in a Cleopatra themed sedan chair 🤣 good luck!

You are highly likely to be:

1. In hospital
2. Struggling with feeding
3. Suffering with raging hormones
4. Bleeding heavily
5. Unable to move well if you have a c section or tear

Would suggest moving it forwards about 6 weeks. Venues might be more amenable to that than a postponement

Congratulations OP, I’m sure your head is reeling right now with the wedding and the initial hormone influx of the first couple of weeks, but what lovely news that you have a baby on the way 🥰

I can imagine this thread has been quite an overwhelming and scary read - so I just thought I’d add that although I completely agree that you should cancel or postpone because as you can see there are just so many unknowns, please don’t worry about those first few weeks. No matter how hard they may end up being, you will get through them, the memory will fade, and you’ll have a lovely little family and a wedding to look forward to where your little one can be a part of the day.

once you know where you stand with suppliers, id give yourself a little bit of breathing room to get used to your new reality as it must be hard to think straight right now!

I wish you a healthy pregnancy and a wonderful wedding day when the time comes!

I could barely get out of bed for the first two weeks after having my first. Leaving the house was hard and looking even half decent was near impossible. Also first babies are more often than not late (I was two weeks overdue).
Obviously it’s not like that for everyone- I’m sure some will be along to say they were running a marathon in their size 6 leggings the day after birth, but you honestly don’t realise how much a difficult birth can batter you physically and mentally, not to mention getting used to the reality of having a baby to look after, sleepless nights, breastfeeding etc. You may well still be bleeding fairly heavily too.

Do yourself a favour and cancel the wedding or it’s very likely you’ll regret it.

I hope it’s not a child free wedding

My first baby was 14 days late. Apparently that is very common with first babies. There is no way I could have enjoyed a wedding 2 weeks after my first baby. I was exhausted, sore and not that confident with her out and about, unless it was a short trip to the shops or a park. We also had to go to see the doctor and then to hospital because she had a medical issue. My brain was taken up with all the practical baby stuff and coping with my own stitches and physical issues. It all settles down reasonably quickly but the first few weeks are pretty overwhelming.

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My life has just been one big adventure since meeting DH, might as well have a wedding slightly different from most 🙃 I still enjoy looking at the wedding photos as it's been a true picture of what my life story was to become - family life with children at the heart of it all. Got multiple children years later (they've all got the same Dad) and have no regrets about being pregnant on my wedding day. Life is what you make it OP.

OP you are really naive if you think you can pull this off.
Sadly it's a choice between your pregnancy and your wedding on that date.

Yes, I don't think anyone has said that there will be a problem if she's pregnant on the wedding day - it's the soon after birth/newborn scenario that's the issue.

I've not had a baby but I have had a wedding - and there's no way I'd have done that 2 weeks PP. Most suppliers have a cancellation policy, they should be ok with you moving dates?

You may still have a catheter in?! Surely it’s not common to send a post partum woman home with catheter in situ?!? Why?

I’ve literally never heard of this. Both my cathaters were removed about 12 hours after birth, days before I was released from hospital. They wouldn’t let me go until I showed them my piss 😂

Yes, you will have had to pass a TWOC test. If you don't pass the test you go home with a catheter!

wow. I’ve never heard of that (without serious injury of course)

who takes it out?!?

Can you push the wedding forward by a couple of months maybe?

This is a joke right?! Of course not. You may well not even have had baby at that point or if you have you don’t know whether baby and you will be ok or out of hospital. I had to stay in hospital for 5 days with my first and nothing particularly wrong. If you need a c section you’ll be in a lot of pain and you’ll definitely be bleeding heavily and leaking (even if not feeding). Plus likely to still be looking pretty pregnant. Absolutely not what I’d want at all. If baby was born they may well be cluster feeding and wanting lots of skin to skin. Way too much of a risk to plan a wedding for that time.

Usually it's in for a week, then you go back to the hospital to have it removed, and need to pass the test. It's grim... walking around with a bag of piss strapped to your leg, uncertain if it's going to leak in the night, trying to find clothes that somehow disguise it. 10/10 do not recommend.

If I'd got married when heavily pregnant (well anywhere past 20 weeks), I wouldn't have even been able to walk down the aisle, let alone enjoy the day. I think best postpone till 6 months after birth personally.

No one else knows either. It's impossible to know.

Real cases I know of in my circles -

One have her baby 2 mo early. Traumatic at the time, but could have managed her wedding after 10 weeks of recovery.

One who gave birth around her due date but had an awful labour and she and the baby were in hospital for ten days. Definitely wouldn't have managed a wedding two weeks later, she could barely walk.

One who was a week overdue but had an easy labour, easy recovery, easy breastfeeding and sleeping baby. She probably could have managed the wedding.

One who was two weeks overdue and would have missed the wedding as she was being induced.

One whose baby died during labour. She was understandably traumatised for a long time and definitely not up for a wedding.

There's no way of knowing. I'd do everything possible to rearrange.

Depends on your attitude?? Yeah, having a 3rd degree tear doesn’t hurt if you just think positively!!! 🙄

Christ no, that’s rotten. I didn’t think I’d feel lucky for not taking a bag of piss home alongside the baby 😭

Everyone is different.

My dd was 6 weeks early. and I know I was out shopping for her cot less than a week later and had left her at home with Daddy as apparently the midwife was surprised.
Her Daddy was perfectly capable of looking after her ! and he did a good job. Bottle fed baby so anyone / everyone could feed her.

My boobs only leaked once, and the bleeding was not bad, not bad at all.

Just get the date moved forward. It will be possible to organise if you act now. Leaving getting married until after the birth will be even more stressful.

Congratulations 🎊 on both accounts!

My first was born at 38 weeks and by 2 weeks+ pp, I would've been perfectly fine.

It's very unknown but not all first time mums go overdue or have hard recoveries. If you truly can't move anything and will lose money, hopefully it can work out.