Due 2 weeks before wedding!

[Colliedogwalker]

Hello,
I have just found out i am pregnant and due 2 weeks before my wedding. Unfortunately wedding insurance dose not help for this and alot has already been paid.
First time mother and needing to know really what its like the first two weeks after. I fully understand everyone is different but i want to be as prepared as possible.

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I am surprised you even have to ask tbh.
Even if you have had that baby early you are not going to enjoy your wedding the way that you can unless you postpone.

You could potentially be in all sorts of crazy. Bring it forwards 3 months or postpone for a long time. That’s just my experience.

Another vote for utterly insane idea. One of my friends got married about 4 weeks after I gave birth to my oldest, I was sure I was going to go (with the baby) at least for a bit with the baby, but once the baby was here I very quickly decided all I could manage was the ceremony. There is just no way I could contemplate my own wedding stress and newborn baby stress.

I’d book in for an elective section, my little one is 18 days old now after a section and I’m walking and feeling fine. A little tender and emotional and I’d personally not want a wedding but it is what it is - good luck and congratulations. They do make it all worth it.

You’ll end up walking down the aisle with a donut cushion under one arm and a pack of frozen peas stuffed down your pants to cool your throbbing undercarriage 😂

No option but to rearrange.
I bled for about 2 weeks with my first. As in floods which soaked through pads, knickers, clothes and the sofa! Milk squirted uncontrollably. I was absolutely exhausted like nothing I'd ever known. I was emotional. I could barely leave the house as I was in so much pain from the birth. Walked like a penguin. Looked hideous from lack of sleep and still looked heavily pregnant.

I would not have been fit enough to attend anyone's wedding. Definitely not have my own wedding! Absolutely no possible way.

Are some people really recommending elective surgery rather than just moving the wedding date! Dear lord.

There is evidence that active women are less likely to experience problems in later pregnancy and labour.
It's no guarantee obviously, but you can't dismiss that being fit/active having nothing to do with it.

my baby was 3 weeks old at my wedding and the day and even was perfect, luckily he was a good baby and I had my mum sisters and sil help with him so that I could still enjoy our day. I had a corset dress which was handy. But if you’re gonna breastfeed then make sure you have a suitable dress

I went to a wedding with my 7 week old. I was physically OK (straight forward pregnancy, labour and birth) but I was still adjusting massively to being a new mother.
At 2 weeks I think I was up most of the night establishing breastfeeding.

Yeah bad idea OP, baby could be late, there could be complications and you and baby could still be in hospital, baby will be cluster feeding so not off your boobs, you’ll be sleep deprived. I certainly wouldn’t be wanting to have my wedding at best 2 weeks PP. I was 7 months pregnant at mine (during Covid so it kept getting delayed and honestly wasn’t planned that way) I wish I hadn’t of been pregnant, it was so tiring so couldn’t even imagine PP. Definitely rearrange, shouldn’t be an issue if you have good suppliers!

Congratulations 🎉 And yes, rearrange. But I'd bring it forward don't postpone. That way you won't need childcare for the honeymoon and in second trimester you'd probably have plenty of energy to enjoy it.

You'll feel, emotionally if not physically, like you've been hit by a bus. You may look like it too... And that's if it's a textbook, strait forward birth! Your husband will also feel as though he's been knocked for six. Giving birth is MASSIVE, a total life gear change, and the cogs aren't gentle!

If she can't move the date without losing a lot of money, money which she might not be able to afford to lose especially with a baby on the way now then I don't see why not as long as she obviously doesn't mind the idea of a c-section.

How are you planning on feeding the baby? I just had a very straightforward birth and feel mentally and physically fine under 2 weeks postpartum BUT baby is attached to my boob 24/7 so I don’t think it’s possible if you’re breastfeeding even if the birth is good. Also this is my third, at this point with my first I was a mess.

I think it’s madness to proceed. You’ll either be heavily pregnant (the very most they’ll allow you to go over is 40 wks plus 14 days) so literally due on the wedding day. Or you’ll have a newborn. When I had my first I couldn’t really walk well or even sit down for a week. Heavy bleeding, night sweats, bleeding nipples, cracked, open nipples, leaking boobs. Infected 4th degree tear. No sleep. I remember coughing very gently when I had a week old baby and felt a gush. To this day I have no idea whether it was pee, pooh or blood, because the pads I was wearing were so gross, I couldn’t tell.

I’m not telling you this to put you off but why would you want to get married so close to the due date? You have no idea what your body will go through. It can be brutal. I had to attend a wedding with a two week old baby and I just couldn’t figure out what to wear and was taking pain killers and antibiotics. Pre baby I was a size 10, two weeks after baby I was a size 18, I just hated what I looked like at that wedding and I was only a guest.

With my other babies I had c sections which were easier to recover from, but still no way up to being a bride and life and soul of the party.

Postpone it all by a year. It’s still miles away, the suppliers won’t be out of pocket.

If you intend to BF you’ll be naked waist up for the best part of the first three months too.

As I said upthread, I was a competitive gymnast. I did yoga throughout pregnancy. I couldn't have been fitter or more flexible. There were still problems and I had to have a C-section. Some things are out of your control.

For my second one (straightforward elective section) I could have just about done this. I would have been very sore, hips and pelvis aching like mad. I would have had to sit down most of the day. I wouldn’t have been able to dance. I would have had to wear a maternity type dress because your tummy is still really bloated at that stage. You also won’t have slept really at all for two weeks so you’ll be exhausted. Your boobs will be massive and leaking, you’ll need a proper nursing bra and pads on. No sex obviously. Lots of painkillers which don’t make you feel great. Hormones all over the place so I would have cried several times. Skin also totally messed up and wouldn’t have liked the look of my fat spotty face in pictures. And I had a good recovery, this is best case scenario - I was driving at 2 weeks post section and people were amazed. I know people who could hardly walk after two weeks. So I theoretically could have done it but I really wouldn’t have enjoyed it so I strongly recommend not to.

Why on earth did you try for a baby knowing it would clash with your wedding?!

I would try and bring it forward if you can - registry office and cancel or postpone the big do.

Just to add also, I think you are exempt from sitting on a jury for a specific time after giving birth (I’m not sure if this is the case where you live) so I’m not sure you could legally sign a marriage document if you were just after giving birth that day, or even it would be valid if you were high on the drugs they give you during labour.

You definitely need to push the wedding back(or forward). I was in hospital for 10 days after giving birth. You could go over your due date, you might be unwell, baby might need special care etc. You will have very little sleep, if any. You wont be able to make plans and organise anything with a 2 week old baby! You would be insane to think you could go ahead

Alongside all the physical symptoms mentioned (continence issues, stitches from tears or c section, leaking sore boob's, piles, spots from hormones, no sleep, constant breastfeeding etc) I found that from about 7 to 14 days after having my babies I was too emotional to leave the house due to sudden change in hormones. I would cry at the smallest thing and it wasn't just a little cry, it was full on hysterics! One child was a c section and at that stage I was still having to inject myself in the leg each day with something, not sure what.

Yes, which why I used the term "evidence" and "no guarantee". I was responding to the poster who said being fit had nothing to do with childbirth experience.

Definitely need to re-arrange. Being as vulgar as can be - I was still weeing every time I coughed, being woken very 2 hours in the night, having to manually disimpact stool, not able to walk without pelvic heaviness, and leaking milk everywhere at week 2. You would be a walking zombie and not enjoy any moment of your wedding. In my opinion the months after having a baby are about operating in survival mode. Depending on your baby and partner support, you may not be able to easily shower. I wouldn't even go to a wedding as a guest until at least month 6. Getting married myself - at least 1-2 years.

Ok, I see. Point taken. I genuinely thought I was in for an easy time though 😕