Due May 2026 after loss

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi, I am nervous even making this thread, like it is too soon to be on the pregnancy chat, but I am not telling anyone in real life, so I feel like it would be nice to have somewhere to talk about things with anyone who would like to join me 🙂.

We started ttc this baby in September 2022, I had a mmc in December 2022 then another in August 2023, then for the past 2 years we have been ttc without success, but I just got my positive test on Wednesday!
I can't believe it, I am obviously very happy and grateful but also extremely anxious.

Congratulations on your positive test! I tested positive on Thursday so also very early days but would be due early May if dates are correct. I’ve also not told anyone else yet (apart from DH) and am reluctant too as it’s so early and I’ve very anxious too. Heres hoping for successful pregnancies! 🤞💕

Hello, I’ve had a faint positive this morning at 9dpo. I’ve had 3 early losses and a TFMR at 16 weeks in March, no living children.

@Raexxxx Congratulations to you too. It's incredibly nerve wracking isnt it, I find myself checking everytime i wipe at the toilet.
Yes we wont tell anyone else, for as long as possible if we are successful. Yes here's hoping, so much!

Hi @Notsure31 i'm sorry for your losses.

That is great you have a positive test, how are you feeling today?
The day i got my bfp, I was beside myself with anxiety, I couldn't sleep that night, although i was grateful, it was all alot to process, but I did feel better the next day and now.. a few days later I feel a little better again.

@Ladyinpink1 a bit like I can’t believe it yet. Found it odd that the first response was fainter than the easy at home but both lines still clearly there x

If it makes you feel better, I took one this morning (14dpo and the day of my missed period) and it is alot lighter than the other Boots early tests and clearblue i took a few days ago.
It really freaked me out except I took a cheap test with it which had a clear line progression.

The tests seem to have changed from what they were, definitely not as good. I recommend the Boots early test, a pack of 2 is about the same price of £8, they was very clear and solid line and more reliable x

Hoping to join this thread if its still going? I've had 4 prior losses and recently found out im pregnant. Feeling very nervous... did have lots of bloating but thats all completely gone now.

Hi @Babydust25 Yes, I am still here. Congratulations on your positive test. How far along are you?
I had no symptoms really before now, only now getting some nausea (6w+5d) so I think it's quite normal to have none.
Sorry for your previous losses x

@Ladyinpink1 hi! I'm only 4 weeks today, found out early at 3w which is very early for me. So trying to be calm about feeling nothing/bloating gone.
Will you be having an early scan? Mines booked for 7 weeks, seems an age away! X

@Babydust25 I found out early too... sometimes I think that's worse as everything seems to take longer doesn't it.

I'm sure you cant wait for the scan, hoping the time until it flies in for you.

I did have a scan booked at the epu for 7 weeks but I wasn't feeling good last week (not pregnancy related) so ended up with it earlier and I was fortunate to see the heartbeat too. It's was reasurring because I had concerns about ectopic. They do one every 2 weeks, so my next one is in a week. x

I'm due mid May, currently 5 weeks 4 days. I have a 7 year old son but had two miscarriages before him. This baby was conceived very quickly with my new partner,but it's very much wanted. He's experienced losses in the past too. I'm not feeling much symptoms wise yet, bar a fair bit of cramping and I am extremely anxious about it all. Hopefully all goes well for all of us, it's a long few weeks till that first scan. I'm in Ireland and will get that first one anywhere between 10-13 weeks. Considering asking for an early reassurance scan but haven't decided yet.

@Ladyinpink1 oh that's fantastic you already got to see a heartbeat! So pleased for you 😊. I'm not sure if mine will want to do another after the 7 weeks, I've not used this hospital before. Hope I can make it without going crazy!

Hiya @Willagorilla yes I did contemplate just trying to get to the 12w scan without an early scan but figured I'd rather know early if everything was ok. Sorry about your previous losses. It's tough!

Hi @Willagorilla Congratulations and i'm sorry for your previous losses.
I always find cramping reasurring that things are settling in nice and securely, but every tiny thing is a worry when pregnant after losses, isn't it.
I'm in N.Ireland, they give early scans after 2 losses so you may find your local hospital is similar if you decide it's something you would like x

I think it's quite a new thing at the hospital @Babydust25 that they do them every 2 weeks for pregnancy after losses. Mine were both mmc but had stopped growing at 8.5/9 weeks so for me I feel like i will feel much better if I make it to the 10 week scan with success. x

@Ladyinpink1 oh the constant second guessing everything is awful 😅. I did get an 8 week scan with my son and it was reassuring to see his heartbeat. I'll see how I'm feeling at the end of the week and decide if I'll ask for one this time..I know risk drops once there's a heartbeat so it could be nice. Hope everyone is feeling good today x

Yes @Ladyinpink1 with my daughter I had 6 8 and 10 week scans so hoping this hospital will do the same. Maybe once I see a heartbeat it will feel more real/safe!

Thought I would join this thread too, tested positive the other day so am 4 weeks and 2 days. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in July so im definitely feeling anxious over this one.

Hi @LunarBear similar to me, I'm 4 w 2 d :). Sorry about your mc. It is tough having a pregnancy after loss.

I'm glad to see this thread. I hope you ladies can provide support and comfort for one another during your pregnancies. I have been on the Due November after loss threads even though my due date was late September.

I started TTC my second April last year and went on to have two miscarriages in 6 months. I then fell pregnant again straight away without a period and was nearly 8 weeks when I found out. The pregnancy was completely different to my pregnancy with my daughter and my miscarriages as I had hyperemesis with them and had barely any symptoms in this pregnancy until the third trimester. Baby arrived at 37 weeks last week.

Remember all pregnancies are different, symptoms can come and go. Ask for as much reassurance as you need and I really hope you get your rainbows

@Willagorilla How did you feel when you found out?

I had literally a second of joy and disbelief then just pure anxiety and fear and still now, all I can do is worry. I cant seem to think to the future, just one day at a time but I assume that's just the minds way of protecting itself incase it happens again
Really hope that if I get to that 10 week scan I can start to feel some more. Sorry that was all a bit depressing lol x

@Babydust25 That would be great, only having 2 weeks to wait between isnt quite as bad x

@LunarBear Hi, i'm sorry for your loss, I totally get the anxiety. Hopefuly once you pass that 5 week stage, you feel a little bit better x

@Ladyinpink1 I felt happy but I couldn't believe it, and it's still only slowly sinking in. I'm 38 and was CONVINCED I was starting perimenopause so I thought it would take ages to get pregnant but it happened really quickly. Which was great and I feel very lucky but a definite shock as well. I've been broody for years too so definitely delighted but then full of anxiety about losing it. I feel a bit of added pressure too as my partner who is 45 has lost babies by ex's miscarriages and abortions so he's very happy and excited, and I'd hate to see his heart broken too. I can't imagine the pressure and nerves you are feeling after the long journey to conceive. Some days I tell myself pregnant till proven otherwise (which I saw someone on here say somewhere) and I let myself feel excited, then other days I think I'd better not think about it too much in case it doesn't work out. I also keep reminding myself that at this stage there's nothing I can do to change the outcome whatever it is, so I should try and relax and trust it will be ok and work out as it should. So some moments I can be very zen and philosophical, and then others I'm frantically googling "symptoms at 5 weeks". "Pregnancy cramps" " miscarriage odds" etc. Someone on here actually shared a link to a miscarriage odds calculator and at my stage of almost 6 weeks it's only 15% ish chance of miscarriage. It goes down every day. So it's reassuring to watch that too. I'll post the link here if you like. I really hope it goes smoothly for you and you get to that scan and can relax. We decided today we won't ask for an early scan and just wait for that first 12 weeks one. Obviously today I'm having a calm day 😅

@Babydust25awwww date twins! Hopefully our pregnancies are healthy with no complications ❤️

@Ladyinpink1thankyou, i think once I gwt my dating scan and theres a heartbeat I'll feel better!

Yesterday I woke up feeling my symptoms weren't as present as they have been and I started worrying. But they're back again. Weirdly comforting having the sore boobs and nausea 🤣

Hi, can I join? Due late May about 4 weeks 5 days. Had a miscarriage in Jan 23 and nothing since. Was meant to be starting IVF this month!

Feeling trepidation mainly - nerves, joy, but mainly worry!

@Willagorilla That was great it happened so quickly and a nice happy surprise for you, especially when you both want it so much 🥰

That sounds very sensible about being nothing you can do to change it. I think i just remember how I felt the last time and I feel like if I can protect myself more before hand then it will be easier to deal with next time. Which makes sense in my brain ha ha.
I have been having nausea which is good because it gives me some reasurrance. Last time it suddenly stopped at 8.5 weeks and never came back, so as horrible as it is i'm glad to have it as i feel reasurred by it.
I found this quote on an app which I found really nice, I will attach it. x

@LunarBear i had that for an hour or two and i was worried but then it came back, i think at this early stage that can happen. Weirdly enough, the morning is when I feel best at the minute lol. It's more afternoon/evening sickness and crazy hunger at lunchtime x

HI @HollyGolightly4 congratulations and i'm sorry for your January loss. I feel the same being mostly nervous, it would be great if we could fast forward this time until 12 weeks wouldn't it x

It really would, although my miscarriage was at 12 weeks - just to increase the anxiety more!!

Love that picture though.

I forgot to add, the hospital have prescribed me progesterone and have said they'll do an early viability scan at 7 weeks (sounds clinical, but reassuring myself it's just the terminology 🤣)

Hello all, joining tentatively at 5 weeks following two missed miscarriages in March this year and August last year. I’ve since had extensive testing and was found to have high NK cells so am on a cocktail of drugs and intralipids for this pregnancy. I’m also 42 so feeling pretty nervous about it happening again. Sending lots of love and luck to all during these anxious weeks that seem to go on forever. Xx

@HollyGolightly4 Sorry to hear that the 12 week mark will still carry anxiety for you, fast forward to 13 weeks for you then. I didn't find out about my last mmc until just before my 12 week scan, it's tough because you do get so attached abd feel like things will be ok by that point 🩷
How are you finding the progestrone?
I am on 400mg am and pm, but I have a runny tummy with it 😳 x

Sorry for your previous losses but pleased for your new pregnancy @Fletchasketch It's good that you got diagnosed and have relieved medication to treat it now, does that give you a little reasurrance? x