Due May 2026 after loss

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi, I am nervous even making this thread, like it is too soon to be on the pregnancy chat, but I am not telling anyone in real life, so I feel like it would be nice to have somewhere to talk about things with anyone who would like to join me 🙂.

We started ttc this baby in September 2022, I had a mmc in December 2022 then another in August 2023, then for the past 2 years we have been ttc without success, but I just got my positive test on Wednesday!
I can't believe it, I am obviously very happy and grateful but also extremely anxious.

@Ladyinpink1 thank you! Mine in later this morning and I'm absolutely convinced it's going to be bad news. 7 weeks today and no real symtoms, and I feel like the faint ones I have had, now don't exist anymore. Just want to to get it over with tbh 😕

Hi everyone. I’m currently 5 weeks today. My blood draw last Friday was 399 and then 909 on Sunday. I know I shouldn’t but I’ve taken a clearblue digital this morning and it only says 2-3. The HCG required is 2700 and I should’ve passed that by now. I’m so scared. I only have 1 tube because of a previous Ectopic. I have a scan booked tomorrow but I’ve convinced myself it’s another Ectopic 😭

@marshamallow321 those numbers are great! Especially since they've doubled. The range at 5 weeks is 200-10000 so id say you're bang on! Hope your scan makes you feel better.

@CloudyIvy55 Sorry you are feeling this way, it is so hard when you don't know what is going on, every day is a worry. I really hope you get reasurrance today and feel much better coming out of your scan. x

Sorry you are feeling worried @marshamallow321 I'm not familiar with the hsg levels but as @Babydust25 says, they sound good. I tested at 5 weeks expecting 3+ too and it was still 2-3, I worried myself sick but tested a few days later and it was 3+. I think the tests aren't exact, and although it does help to see the weeks go up, it's such a stress when it doesn't happen as you expect. Maybe if you could test again on Sunday? x

The scan went well, measuring on track for 6 weeks 6 days and a perfect little heartbeat 🥰

I'm so relieved - the anxiety is no joke! Now I've just got to keep it together for the 12 week one 🤦‍♀️😂

Oh @CloudyIvy55 I'm so happy to hear that. Congratulations 💕

@CloudyIvy55 that's lovely news, what a relief for you. The anxiety is definitely no joke!
I also had my scan this morning and measuring exactly 8 weeks with a lovely strong heartbeat. I felt in a daze afterwards, but starting to sink in that things are fine for now. Phew

Hi ladies. Just wondering if I could ask your collective opinion on sex in the first trimester after losses. We did the deed this morning at a slightly different angle and immediately afterwards when I went to the loo I had some very light spotting. I immediately freaked out of course. There's been none since but I'm so worried. I was feeling extremely rough all week but yesterday and today don't feel any pregnancy symptoms. Well I had a slight touch of nausea yesterday but that's it. I had a horrible stomach bug last weekend so now I don't know if everything I was feeling was actually just recovering from that, or real symptoms. Also we have had a long string of listeria outbreaks here in Ireland the last few months and I'm terrified what if that's what I was sick with and something has happened to the pregnancy. Anyway, I remember speaking to a woman when I was pregnant with my son , when I told her I had had two previous miscarriages she advised me to not have sex for at least the first few months. I've decided now that there'll be no more action till 2nd trimester, if we get there,but wondered what your take on it is

@CloudyIvy55 @Hopingrae congratulations on the happy scan news, so pleased for you both.

I have mine coming up next week and am absolutely dreading it as I've never had good news at a scan. Need to keep myself distracted, but it's so damn hard. I also had a huge temp drop on my fitbit which has freaked me out a bit, but may be because we're just back from holiday where it was significantly warmer.

Sending lot of good luck to all.

@Hopingrae @CloudyIvy55 lovely news on the scans.

@Fletchasketch I’ve also got a first scan next week. I tend to get good news at the first scan and then bad news at the second. But I’m still nervous about this one, just trying to ignore it at the minute that it’s coming up

@Willagorilla I’ve got cervical ectropian so anything can cause spotting for me, so we’ve been kind of put off dtd as even though we know the cause of spotting it’s still not nice to see. But there’s no need to abstain I don’t believe. I too have been having symptoms one day then very mild symptoms the next

@Figtree11 I remember your username from previous threads. It's so terrifying isn't it? I have everything crossed for you that this is your time. All the best for next week x

@Fletchasketch thank you, it really is terrifying. If I think too much about picturing myself sitting in that scan room I start getting a racing heart! Sending all the luck your way for this week x

@Willagorilla unless you've been advised not to then sex is totally fine. It's also normal for cramping/spotting afterwards but obviously anything more than that should be checked. I wouldn't worry. We did it the other night too and I felt a bit uncomfortable the day after. Try not to panic, which I know is hard! I felt like that in my first pregnancy after 4 miscarriages. Decided that this time I'm going to be more relaxed as nothing I personally will do will change the outcome.

@Figtree11 thank you for the reassurance, about the coming and going of symptoms too. @Babydust25 thank you as well. I know logically that if anything goes wrong this early it's more than likely unavoidable, but god the fear and worry is awful. I got such a fright this morning. Brought back awful memories. My last pregnancy was my successful one, but it's so hard not to worry over every little thing.

Hope everyone is doing well today. Was happy to read people's reports of positive scan outcomes xx

@Hopingrae and @CloudyIvy55 Such good news about your scans x

@Willagorilla I never stopped in the first trimester, definitely did it alot less because it's the last thing I feel like doing right now lol but as far as I am aware, it's ok unless a Doctor says otherwise for a certain condition x

How is everyone else managing through this crazy stressful uncertain time of the first trimester after a loss? ... it's not fun at all, sure it isn't x

@Ladyinpink1 it really is not fun at all. I was a nervous wreck going into my scan this afternoon. Fortunately we had good news for the first time ever, the baby is measuring slightly ahead at 7 weeks 1 day with a strong heartbeat. Both of my losses were later than this, but I'm reassured until the next one at least.

Sending lots of love to everyone going through scan stress or horrible symptoms.

I feel very anxious. I've just rang the epu to find out about scheduling. I know the consultant requested a scan around 7 weeks, and I'm about 6 weeks 4 days, so I'd like to know when my scan will be!

I feel tired, occasionally slightly nauseous and my boobs feel heavy.

Still taking the progesterone and still no sign of blood though so everything is crossed 🤞

I hope you are doing ok @Ladyinpink1

@Fletchasketch really great news, so pleased you had a successful scan. I hope this is the start of good things for you ☺️

@HollyGolightly4 hopefully they’ll scan you soon, I find the EPU really quick at seeing you as I guess they are used to not planning too far in advance. I am having the same symptoms as you, I’ll be 7 weeks tomorrow

Such good news about your scan @Fletchasketch!

It's only been 5 days since my scan where everything went well and I'm an anxious mess again! I'm considering booking a private scan but I know any reassurance will only be temporary so seems like a waste of money.

7 weeks 4 days today and I'm feeling physically fine....which isn't helping the anxiety. I had a MMC with my last pregnancy. Started bleeding at 11 weeks but the baby had stopped growing at 9. I think being so close to where it went wrong last time is causing me to spiral a little bit.

I don't know where normal pregnancy anxiety crosses the line to being more of a problem. I am thinking about losing this baby almost constantly. I've thought about speaking to the GP but also know there's likely to be a very long wait for any support.

@Figtree11 thanks so much, it seems we are very close in dates too. Sending all the good vibes your way, you really deserve a happy outcome.

@CloudyIvy55 I know what you mean about the anxiety. Are you managing to sleep okay? Magnesium can help a lot with that although it won't remove the anxiety. Other than that, I've found yoga and accupuncture to be a big help, though I'm not going to lie, I was a nervous wreck yesterday, and I know I will be before the next scan too. Sending you a big hug, these early weeks are just so tough.

@Fletchasketch so pleased to hear you had a successful scan. x

@HollyGolightly4 Did the epu give you a scan date? Hope you don't have long to wait x

I'm on constant worry mode but i'm ok thank you @Figtree11 Thinking of you today x

@CloudyIvy55 I'm really similar to you, my last mmc i was 11.5 weeks but it had stopped growing at about 8.5 weeks, and my mmc before this stopped growing at the exact same time
I am 8+6 today so this has been a tough weekend/week as the 8.5 week to stop growing seems to be a pattern for me. I had an extra scan yesterday and all was well, but the second i left i started worrying again. So I think what you are feeling must be quite normal but might be good to talk about it if it's really overwhelming... I was told my local hospital had what they call, bereavement midwives, that were available after miscarriage, could you ring and ask if yours has anything similar, even to chat with on the phone. x

@CloudyIvy55 unfortunately i think this level anxiety is quite normal in pregnancy after loss. I have the same feelings. Its extremely difficult. I tried counselling that I was offered through the EPU previously but didn’t find it helpful. But I know of 2 people who have had private counselling after loss/when pregnant again & they found it beneficial

@Fletchasketch thanks so much ☺️

@Ladyinpink1 ❤️

Some good news from me today, successful first scan. Saw baby & heartbeat and measured 6 weeks 5 days. I’m now on blood thinning injections. Not counting my chickens as I’ve been here a few times before with a good first scan. Good thing is she’s booking me in for 2 more scans at the miscarriage clinic

@Ladyinpink1 no 😓. I rang today and they told me to ring radiology, who told me the epu should have requested it. Feeling a bit frustrated!

@Figtree11 that's lovely news, a positive milestone. I remember you from another thread, I really hope things continue to go well. I'm glad you're being looked after medically and by epu as well.

@CloudyIvy55 when I was pregnant with my daughter I was referred to PETALS counselling service to help with my anxiety after loss. I found it helpful to be able to just speak to someone. Not sure if you can self refer but take a look at their website.