anyone else pregnant with loads of kids already?? feelin bit judged ngl

[Chattymum23]

hi all not sure if i should post this but here goes

i’m 8+4 with baby no.5 (all boys 😅) n tbh i feel like everyone thinks i’m a joke. haven’t even told half the fam cos i know what they’ll say. last time i told my mum i was preg she rolled her eyes n said “again?” 😔

i know it’s not ideal but it’s happened now n i just want to be happy bout it. i love my kids loads even if life’s a bit hectic

i’m knackered n got sickness bad but still doin school runs n sortin all the meals n tantrums. nursery called again yday bout my 4yo n i just cried in the loo after

anyone else got a biggish family n feel like ppl look down on you? not after a row just want to feel a bit less alone

Hats off to you! I couldn’t manage 5.

If you read the post, it doesn't sound like she can manage the 4 that she has already.........

Just had deeper read of the thread.
You could be right.
She won’t be back to this thread anyway .

I didn’t mention private education and healthcare. 5 children with no real income is just irresponsible. This wasn’t planned this is idiotic. Unfair to the other kids and unfair to others who are in desperate need of welfare assistance.

This, exactly.

If the OP is what you consider a ‘capable and hard working mum’ you need to seriously reassess your standards. She has said she’s crying in the loo because her son’s nursery is calling (not for the first time?) and she flippantly says the father/partner of this latest child “don’t live with” her (appalling grammar not my own) as if that’s perfectly normal and acceptable. Her current family life sounds chaotic and stressful at best.

Many of the immigrants you speak so disdainfully of (doctors, lawyers, engineers) could actually provide for their families here if given the chance. Unlike the OP, who by the sounds of it has chosen never to work in any meaningful sense of the word, but would rather pop out children for the rest of us to pay for while she earns a pittance (likely cash in hand ergo evading tax) “cleaning round the school runs”.

This woman is exactly what is wrong with the world - multiple children by multiple fathers, none of whom will take responsibility for, so the rest of us pay. Yet people whinge about hard working immigrants who want to work - it blows my mind. Check closer to home.

OP - whatever you decide to do with this pregnancy, please consider contraception hereafter. Nobody owes you your children’s upbringing.

@Chattymum23
l haven't read that the OP has had multiple children by different fathers - just that the father of the baby she is expecting doesn't live with them. For all I know, she could be struggling because her one partner in life has left her. And
I'm not anti immigrant - but am definitely against illegal immigrants. My friends are from everywhere- Hong Kong, various African countries, Ukraine. All came here legally and all contribute meaningfully to society.

Congratulations!

Some people need to fuck off, and butt out of your business.

Helpful.

When I was pregnant I cried for more reasons than I could begin to list, I'm confident that didn't make me a bad parent.

Also fathers that leave and don't take care of their children are the problem, not the women left behind.

The women left behind could eventually implement birth control, however? How she has the energy to conceive another with 4 littles is beyond me.

Yes, if she is funding her own children.

However,if she is sponging off the state, the tax payer has every right to question her irresponsible behaviour. Do you really think children born to parents who lack basic financial planning provide an optimum home environment?

Well actually women who (repeatedly) have children with men they know aren't going to step up or stick around are also a part of the problem.