Due February 2026 ✨

[Bas27]

Tentatively making this bus, as I don’t think there is one yet. Got the start of my BFP yesterday, and I can see the line developing today. Going to continue to test until AF is due. So far due 2nd Feb 😬 Anyone with me?

I feel exactly the same. I keep swinging from excitement, to fear, to anxiety. So so different from my last pregnancy when I was ecstatic (and anxious), it's quite hard to get your head around. My husband is super worried as well so I feel quite guilty as termination is not an option, and I really want this baby, but my head is all over the place. I have also been feeling quite cross ha, must be the pregnancy hormones!

Just got access to my scan from the 4th. Actually says I was measuring 5 weeks. Not 5.6. So I’m back 6 days which I didn’t know about. So instead of being 6weeks 4 days, I’m 5 weeks 5 days.

which has made me feel worse considering how bad I currently feel. Also mentions pelvic free fluid. And no fetal pole was seen.

Have they said for you to go back for another scan? I’m so nervous for this happening at my scan, I actually have no idea when I ovulated. Hopefully when you have a follow up scan it’ll all be visible and the heartbeat will be there too 🤞🏻

I have another scan on 16th.

just annoyed now they didn’t mention I was measuring earlier. And with the added feeling like I have a flu, this is all just getting on top of me. The last week my mental health has been rock bottom. And I don’t mean to be a burden on the happiness within this forum, but I’m not having a great time at all. And I’m struggling to find any sense of happiness within this.

I don’t think you’re a burden on anyway so don’t worry about that. We are all in this together with our own individual struggles

I just feel so bloody terrible.

increased heart rate
increased PACs/PVCs
nausea all day everyday, unable to eat!
insomnia and barely sleeping.
pains everywhere! Legs arms, shoulders, chest.
feeling hot and feverish from chest up, took temp and tons slightly elevated.
dizziness
migraines

Even my teeth hurt!! My bloody teeth.
I have 0 energy and I feel so guilty because my DD wants me to play and be interested and if my head isn’t in a bowl it’s on a pillow, asleep.

Pair all that with angst, and anxiety already I’m at my wits end, and every day that passes I’m crying every evening after DD is in bed wondering if this is the right thing for us.

This pregnancy wasn’t planned and was VERY unexpected.

But I’ve really tried to be happy about it but I’m struggling, and DH has came to me today and sat down with a sad face and asked me point blank are you sure you can do this. And honestly, I don’t know.

I feel guilty even writing this, in this forum, because I know there’s so many people who are praying to be in this position. I know people are begging for nausea, and pregnancy symptoms.

I will just end this here with its probably clear I’m already and anxious and hyper aware person, whose mental health probably wasn’t 100% prior to this. But this has taken such a toll, and I feel so bloody guilty.

@blooshboon I’m sorry my lovely - that’s sounds like a lot to deal with. On the plus side it sounds like you have a really supportive DH. In my past pregnancy, my mental health got so low I checked myself in to the maternity ward under the psychiatric midwife. I felt like time had stopped. I kept my watching he clock and felt almost itchy because nothing was happening except that I felt so unwell. Pregnancy is hard on your body and on your mind. Make sure you’re kind to yourself!! If it helps to vent here then do 🖤🖤

@Raegs I’m also 4 weeks 4 days and due 12th Feb!😊

@blooshboon its such a lot to deal with mentally, please don’t feel like a burden.
your symptoms, whilst not nice to go through, do for the most part seem pregnancy related which is a positive sign!
Anxiety can obviously display physically differently in different people so maybe that’s contributing to your symptoms?

are you able to talk to someone? Or make some time for some meditation? Or something else you find grounding/calming?

I am also experiencing feelings of…not regret…but regret. I’m hoping they pass.
We gave really wanted a second but I certainly don’t feel ready.
I’ve been reassured by my one close IRL confidente that I won’t feel that way when they arrive

Thanks everyone for the support.

@Bas27 Thank you so much for the kind words, it’s just been a rough ride.

@Parttimepaula I appreciate your kind words, and it’s very hard. You don’t want to admit you feel regret, but you feel what you feel. And although I know people say that to help I really wish people wouldn’t say that, as a close friend was told the same as she felt regret in her second pregnancy. Everyone told her it’d pass the moment she laid eyes on baby… well it didn’t, and she suffered terribly with PND, and couldn’t bond with her son for months until she was on a strict prescription of anti psychotics and SSRI’s.

and please note, I do not say that with intent to scare anybody. Just as a heads up that if you do feel that way, seek some further support so you can make sure you’re doing what’s right for you.
as my DH said to me, we can always try for another baby, but there can only be one mum who carries baby.

As much as I’d like to say I can tough it up, I don’t think I can. I have work and I’ve missed so many days and have had to take unpaid leave, which will directly affect me and my family. I’ve appreciated this forum so much, as I haven’t told anyone outside DH.

But ultimately my mind is where it is, and I really do need to think about what’s best for my MH. As this will affect my daughter, who does need me and depends on us a lot as she has autism.

@blooshboon whatever you decide, your DH is right, there is only one you! Sending lots of love and support!

I like to live by the motto ‘I know it’s the right decision because it’s the decision I’ve made’ it helps me through tough spots to remember that living in regret is not helpful x

Some good line progression i think!!

top pic 11 DPO
bottom pic 14 DPO (taken just now, just in from work and have drunk plenty of liquid today, so im pretty happy 🥹☺️

Stick baby stick 🙏🤞🌈

@laurajane07Looks absolutely great 😍

Even my closest family and friends that doesn’t mean no harm, still manage to make my worry about MC as they always mention ”and we’re here for you if anything happens” and so on. It made me think about how no one really takes your pregnancy for real before the 12 weeks. I’m over the moon and just want to enjoy being pregnant without worrying atm. Anyone else with same experience?

@BerrieSweetthank you so much!!

We told both our families as soon as we found out with both pregnancies that ended in loss. We're all very close and we wanted them to know straight away because we were so excited. This time round we are waiting, for as long as we can. IF we can stick to it that is 🙈🤣

I totally understand, the last thing you need is comments from friends/family that almost set you back and cause more stress. Its hard to know what to do x

@laurajane07 we aren’t telling any family until at least 12 weeks, but hopefully closer to 20 😅

So sorry for your losses ❤️‍🩹 yes you really wanna tell them straight away as you’re so excited 🥹

It’s your favourite worrier! I’ve been trying to stay off the internet. I’m not even an anxious person normally but my anxiety is through the roof! I had a lot of pain in my left side on Friday and some bleeding- so of course that was me sobbing. Phoned 111 and they sent paramedic's so that had me even more worried!
I didn’t realise bleeding was common in pregnancy- never enough to fill a pad and ranging from red to brown. Phoned the fertility clinic more times than I’d like to admit and we’ve moved my early scan to this Thursday. Did some more tests today even though I know the hcg would stay in my system- it was nice to see it say pregnant 3+! Has anyone else had any bleeding?

@blooshboon totally see where you’re coming from, I’m feeling really down today as well. Just kept thinking..what are we doing. I know the first trimester is really tough on mental health anyway so I’m hoping things will improve as the pregnancy progresses.

Hey everyone. Lots to catch up on as always. @blooshbooneverything you’re saying is so valid. It’s a tough situation and no easy answer.
To those anxious and having a tough time with symptoms, it’s horrid isn’t it? You wish for symptoms to know something is going on and then immediately wish them gone when they’re there! Is anyone around 4+4 or so and finding you’ve got some upper stomach discomfort? I’m thinking it’s indigestion or heartburn as I had this all through with DS and was one of the unlucky 20% that don’t get rid of it after they’re born. But of course, like all of us, I’m like hmmm is everything ok whenever anything hurts 😆 I’ve read progesterone slows everything down, so I assume it could be that too?

Hey everyone,
Wow so many posts to catch up on!

No preg symptoms here, apart from a higher heart rate and waking up at 4am. Had a tough day as I had to travel to London (from Durham) for work.. very social in the office all day and then a night out with work friends. Disguising not drinking was interesting! Got another tomorrow afternoon at a works drinking event too and home late on the train.

It's keeping me busy I suppose, as this early scan on Wednesday has flown by! X

Hi everyone. I am tentatively joining, I tested positive a couple of days ago. I have a beautiful 3 year old but unfortunately have had 3 miscarriages since I’ve had her. I can’t even get excited about this pregnancy because of what I have been through before. I can’t believe there are so many of us who have suffered losses 💔💔💔 it makes me feel like I’m not alone.

@A2025 ah amazing! How you feeling so far?

I have my scan booked for 30/06 so will be almost 8 weeks.

@Raegs Feeling good so far! Not many symptoms yet. Had a bit of cramping here and there and my boobs are a little sore today. That’s it really! What about you? You are on the countdown to the scan I’m sure. I hope all goes well for you! I’m going to the GP tomorrow to confirm the pregnancy. Then it will start to feel a bit more real! Still so early but hopefully it will stick.

I had some bleeding on 7th June it was more like brown/maroon cm type thing. No pain or cramps. Seems to have cleared up now. Had a very small bit of orangy/brown tinged cm yesterday, nothing today.

I think it was just the baby getting nestled in because I started to get nauseous, which has thankfully eased up a little today. Taking the win where I can. I've also booked a scan for Thursday 12th more for my hubby, he wanted me to do it to make sure things were ok after Saturday. I'll be 6 weeks on Thursday.

I think unless it's gushing red and pain, it's probably just you body adjusting. But no harm in having an early scan just to see what's going on.

@blooshboon not much more to add than to take care of yourself xx I completely understand where you coming from..

@AnonowlIthink I’m 6 weeks today, and yesterday I’ve noticed my heart rate being higher, started panicking (which doesn’t make it any lower 🥲). Then I read it can be one of the pregnancy symptoms, it completely freaked me out, it’s about 15 beats higher than usually. Did you know it’s something to expect??

Is anyone planning the NIPT scan? I had a Harmony test done at 9 weeks before (they’re not doing them anymore, I think…). I’m thinking about booking a reassurance scan just after 8 weeks (had a MMC at 8 weeks before) and then a NIPT scan at 10 weeks…