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Giving my son a 'girl' name

454 replies

Bowa · 21/04/2025 22:27

I am due soon to give birth soon to my first child who will be a boy. I struggled to think of any boy names that felt right. I had a long list for girl names, but I couldn't think any for if I had a son.

I found out I was having a boy at my 16 weeks scan and I still couldn't find a name that felt right at the time. Kinda like a missing puzzle piece if that makes sense.

A few weeks later, I was thinking about a movie I loved since childhood and one of the main characters (the character is male) and something clicked and I knew that was the name I wanted for my son. It felt perfect and exactly what I was looking for. I became excited and looked into how I could make things with his name for the nursery, nicknames and that.

I haven't told anyone what name I picked out for him as I wanted to get everything ready beforehand. I have also had some 'complications', so it felt like bad luck if I told people his name before he was born. When I'm by myself, I talk to my son and I will use his name then.

I was looking at something and saw the name I picked for my son. It had a few different spellings, but what stuck out was that apparently it's used more as a girl name. It didn't say anything about it being a unisex name. I assumed because the character who had the name was male (and refers to himself as a male) that it was wasn't a girl's name or maybe it could be a unisex name. Even the way it is pronounced sounds more masculine than feminine.

I feel conflicted. I can't think of any other name that feels right for him (he has middle names that are boy names), but I don't want him to be picked on if people knew it was used more for a girl. I have an unusual first name, so I have experiences with people not spelling it correctly or pronouncing it right.

His name isn't common for this area either, so I don't think anyone would assume it is used more as a girl name and the way it is pronounced is easy.

I know people have named their daughter with names that are more boy/unisex sounding like: Blake, Parker, Dylan, Toni etc.

His name isn't like: Daisy, Penelope, Sophia, Jane etc.

Would it be OK to stick with the name even if it's used more for a girl?

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Seawolves · 21/04/2025 22:29

Without knowing the name I think it's very hard to say.

Fingernailbiter · 21/04/2025 22:30

Unless you tell us what the name is, we can’t possibly help you.

MsNevermore · 21/04/2025 22:30

I think it depends on what the name is 🤷🏻‍♀️

A little boy named Avery for example - I wouldn’t raise my eyebrows at, even though every Avery I’ve ever met has been a girl.

A little boy named Lily? I’d think it was weird.

redphonecase · 21/04/2025 22:31

What's the name?

beccahamlet · 21/04/2025 22:31

Yes. You have to tell us the name.

Enough4me · 21/04/2025 22:33

Jamie / Jaime?
Robin / Robyn?
Sam / Jo / Beau?
Can we have a clue? 🤣

Pinkelephant66 · 21/04/2025 22:33

Is it Leslie?

lifeturnsonadime · 21/04/2025 22:34

or Dorian?

BadBerlin · 21/04/2025 22:34

Kim?

PeachPumpkin · 21/04/2025 22:39

Remy?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/04/2025 22:39

Depends on the name.
Most children own their name regardless of sex. There is a boy and girl named Raven in DD's school.
My nieces name, is a boy name, she was jeered in primary school, she loves it now.

Burntt · 21/04/2025 22:43

We need to know the name or we can’t really answer.

BathsAreBliss · 21/04/2025 22:46

i think Quinn? If so it’s more boy than girl

Bumcake · 21/04/2025 22:52

What does your partner think? Do you have a trusted friend or sister you could sound out?

Graters · 21/04/2025 22:55

Tracey?
Lindsey?
Sammy?
Kim?
Eden?

GeorgianaM · 21/04/2025 22:55

What name does your husband like? Is he ok with the name you want?

Is it Robin?

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/04/2025 22:58

Skye?
Hilary?
Vivian?
Evelyn
Billy?

we need to know the name 😁

UnderwhelmedEnid · 21/04/2025 22:59

Is it Jesse?

EveryOtherNameTaken · 21/04/2025 23:00

Ashley?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/04/2025 23:02

Rumpelstiltskin?

MotherOfMonkeys0 · 21/04/2025 23:03

Is it the boy from ET? That's a very unisex name and totally fine for a boy.

Stripeyanddotty · 21/04/2025 23:07

sue?

hereismydog · 21/04/2025 23:08

Really depends on the name.

Sophie or Jessica, probably not.

Something like Artemis? Definitely feminine but you could get away with it.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 21/04/2025 23:10

Sorry OP but you really can't name him Arabella Rose.

Enough4me · 21/04/2025 23:12

Wynter Rain?
Hunter Skye?
Ellie-Mai?