Social services referral?

[Kat140]

Hi so I had a midwife’s appointment today and she said that she has to refer me to social services because of my age, I’m 16 years old and will be 17 having the baby. I’m just wondering if this is true as it’s never happened to anyone I have spoken to that has had children younger than me?!
May I also add that I have no involvement of social service and never have nether has my baby’s farther and when the baby is here she has no threat to harm agains her and will be well looked after.

Just to say I'm in Wales too, if you want to DM me on here - I'm an ex social worker & may be able to suggest support services or at least a listening ear

@BOREDOMBOREDOM not at all. Older mothers are unbelievably selfish

And people who spend their time on chatrooms, trying to belittle other parents because of their age? Surely they are the most selfish and mean-spirited of all 😀@Dita73

Christ, you're on fire with your sweeping statements and ignorant stereotypes aren't you?

Anyone else you'd like to try and offend today? 🤣

@Gunnersforthecup is not just their age

@sel2223 thank you and I’m more than willing to give it a go 👍🏻

You say you’ve got everything in hand, and a great support network.

That’s great, but a relatively unusual position for a young mother to be in. Social work referrals work on a risk basis, and there are some things that make it more likely that a family will need support. Being a young parent is one of them.

Try and view it as that, a support and a check. If everything is in place, they’ll be able to check that. They may even be able to help you access some additional support you hadn’t thought of. There’s often some niche funding available for young parents who want to continue studies etc.

Its not to catch you out, it’s to help you succeed, and recognising that it’s likely trickier for you than for someone who’s 30, got an established full time
job with Mat pay, owns their own home and lives in it with their partner. That’s the comparison point.

Yeah, some people have nothing better to do

Meh. Not done gay mothers or black mothers yet so plenty of scope for the offensive to offend. Working class and middle class. Single mothers. IVF parents. Parents who work too much, stay at home parents, home educators, parents on benefits....I mean the field is open.

I'm sure the OP is sensible enough to know that posters with an axe to grind will always look out for someone they'd like to disapprove of.

@Kat140 you may face this in real life as well as online but try not to let it bring you down. Other people's opinions have nothing to do with you. Let them roll off like water off a duck's back.

Good luck with your baby. There are advantages to being a young mother. Glad you have support around you. Come back to other bits of MN, you will find them more amenable and accepting that AIBU which tends to involve a lot of polarised opinion and in fighting. It's like a slightly rough playground for adults.