Due in September - over 40 :)

[Amuseaboosh]

Hello!

I'm 44 and have just found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant.

It's all a bit meh at the moment as I've been here before, multiple losses and all over 40. I'm putting it down to the quality of my old lady eggs!

Anyway, I'm back on that rollercoaster. I clearly love the stress of it all!

If anyone else is on the same rollercoaster or even in the same theme park, pop in and say hi ☺️

That's great news. I'm so pleased for you 😊❤️
You must feel relieved. Who did you do your screening with? I think ours will come back as 'high chance' or 'low chance'. We went through our private scan place, and they then sent it to Concepto, who I'm now led to believe don't give numbers in their results.

It's proving to be the longest week of my life! 😫😫😫

Your Dr's receptionist sounds absolutely lovely! I am desperately waiting for the results, I'm not assuming they'll be one way or the other, I just want to know. It's that perpetual feeling of being in limbo.

I'm going to most definitely try the Fybogel. I hope they work for me too. I feel 'full' pretty much all the time. It's not a good look 😬

I'm sending you all the positive vibes for a successful scan - I'm certain it will be. You're doing great ❤️

I got my NIPT results......

All low risk - I am speechless, utterly speechless. I can't believe it. I keep thinking, how, I'm 44, HOW!???? How are we this lucky!??

I'm in shock, but so, so, so happy ✨️✨️❤️

@Amuseaboosh 🥰🎉🎉🎉

@Amuseaboosh oh I'm delighted for you, what a huge relief! Ha I was the same, thinking how on earth is this possible?! But just goes to show that all you need is one good egg and one good sperm, and us oldies sometimes have them up our sleeve so to speak!

I'm so happy for you, I had my fingers crossed. I hope you can relax a little bit now and enjoy the rest of the pregnancy :)

@Amuseaboosh
What beautiful news 🥰🥰

Well that was interesting midwife appointments bloods showed my ferritan and red blood cells are low low. And I've lost another 6kg in a month!!! Will try and eat something but at the same time can't face it 😬😬😬

Such amazing news @Amuseaboosh!! So so happy for you!! 🎊🎊🎊🎊

@Amuseaboosh brilliant news, that must feel like a massive relief- that's another big hurdle done!

Hope everyone is doing well. I now have a scan booked in with the EPU next week when I'll be 10 and a half weeks. I'm debating cancelling it and just waiting for the 12 week, I'm that nervous and having an early scan won't change the end result. The flip side is that we're visiting my partner's family in the interim and wouldn't feel great about telling them without having had the scan to confirm. Will see how I feel later in the week.

Hello, can I join although late to the party? In more ways than one haha! I started another thread this morning before I saw this one. But then found all you oldies here :)

Got my BFP yesterday - on my 47th birthday! What a birthday present. I'm about 6 wks in already if my calculations are correct. It's my first. I'm terrified - so many things waiting to befall the little bean. But I'm mostly in shock and unable to think much really. I did manage to contact the midwife service and buy some folic acid but now I'm sitting at work not working just kind of sitting here being gobsmacked.

You are not the oldest ;) see above

Welcome @noraheggerty
congratulations!

So right now I'm thinking should I do another test in case it was a false positive

I used a Clearblue pack of 2, one standard and one digital. The standard one looked negative but there was no control line. So I followed the instructions that said if there's no control line it's null and void. But this is now preying on my mind.

I did the digital test and it said "Pregnant 3+". I figured that's a BFP because if it was a false positive (due to menopause hormones for example) it would not say 3+ as that means the level is really high, much higher than you could get with menopause.

But now I'm doubting it and thinking maybe I should test again just to be sure. That it could be a freak false positive somehow. Because of the other test looking negative

I have sore boobs and slight aches in my lower abdomen but that's how I feel before a period so basically I've felt like that for over a month now without the period

Fatigue as well but it could be emotional fatigue which I am prone to

Would you take another test or trust the digital one?

@SnakebitesandSambucas, thank you so much. How are you getting on? Have you managed some food? 😬

@CrepituErgoSum, it is a HUGE relief, I still can’t believe it and now don’t really know what to do with myself! I’m still a few days off 12 weeks, so I guess the next step is getting there and then well waiting. I’ve spent so much energy worrying, not intentionally, that now I’m thinking about what to do with the ‘extra’ headspace. It really does take one good egg, sperm is meh! That’s what I’m telling my DH anyway.
How are you feeling? ❤️😊

Thank you @MrsH26, we do love our rollercoaster lifestyle don’t we! Today, I just want to sleep, I have struggled to stay awake all day! 😳

Hey @Fletchasketch, lovely to hear from you. I know how you feel about the scan; I think for me they’ve ended up being a way to manage my expectations. Each time I’ve gone for one, it’s been nerve wracking because I want the reassurance but then also, I’ve told myself that if it’s failed, I want to know sooner rather than later so I can deal with it – it’s an odd place to be. My 12-week scan isn’t for another 2 weeks, so I’ve booked a private one for next Monday when I will be 12 weeks. I also understand regarding telling people, it’s such a gauntlet of different feelings and emotions. I’m sure whatever you do decide will be the right thing for you.✨️😊

Welcome @norahggerty, yep, this is where is oldies are congregating, welcome, welcome, pull up a zimmer frame. Regarding the tests, the digitals are pretty accurate, although I don’t know if the HCG levels in 3+ are comparable to HCG that’s found in our system during menopause. The line Clearblue’s are notorious for their lack of accuracy. I think your 3+ confirm you’re pregnant, BUT I would do an Early Response test. They’re super accurate and will give you a definitive answer. If, however you’re wondering about Menopause mimicking pregnancy, I’d get in touch with your Early Pregnancy Unit and get them to monitor your HCG levels. It’s a tough place to be. It's better to put your mind at rest than not, though ❤️

Ha ha I feel like I need a Zimmer frame! My levels are 8.9! No wonder I feel such a zombie. No luck with the food. I want to avoid a drip at the hospital but it's not looking good. 🤢

@Amuseaboosh Thank you :) I looked up early pregnancy unit in Nottingham and there doesn't seem to be one as such but there is an NHS maternity advice line so I will call them.

It's just so weird, like I've gone through a portal into another world!

@noraheggerty it varies widely according to what trust you are under! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Morning all, how's everyone doing? ☺️

The suns out, always a good start to a weekend.

I'm 12 weeks now, baby is doing great. My exhaustion and headaches, oh, and the bloating, all making life joyous!
I keep telling myself I need to exercise, and usually, it's a huge part of my routine, but I'm genuinely so tired. I hope it gets better soon.

Morning! I'm getting ready for an iron transfusion the joy! No Sunday 🌞 for me!

It really is beautiful today, new daffs are out in the garden and off to a spa today, can’t complain! Have had mild sickness and a few twinges, but good otherwise. Don’t hate me!

@SnakebitesandSambucas hope all goes well and you feel better afterwards.

@Amuseaboosh Glad to hear the baby’s doing well, fingers crossed the tiredness etc eases once you get to the third trimester which is not far away now!

Oops, second trimester of course. Still half asleep!

@amuseaboosh I feel you! I run three times a week, and still was until a few weeks ago. Can't lie the last midwifes comments still playing on my mind - I have my '12' (will actually be 13) week scan next week so I'm going to get a second opinion!

I'm also tired, bloated, more emotional, and constantly nauseous (it's like constant travel sickness) - I'm usually so positive but I'm finding it hard, I can't be the only one?
Don't mean to sound like a negative Nancy, I just feel like I'm not living in my own body.

I'm scared and excited for my scan next week, hoping they can give me more confidence about the health of the baby 🤞 trying to subdue my nerves and YES I shall be out in the sun while we have it! Hopefully some vitamin D and blue skies will sort me out!

@snakebitesandsambucas I hope it goes well! I'm anemic but luckily my normal prescribed supplements have really done the job. Get out in the sun afterwards! 💕

@Amuseaboosh we got back from centre parks last night, so I’ve got a day of house chores! But tomorrow we’re taking MIL to Crufts, that’s going to be lovely.
Did a bit too much the first few days at CP and had lots of pelvic aching, so had to rein it in a bit and there was lots I couldn’t get involved in activity wise too. Was nice not to be at work though!

Bad news for me, sadly. Scan today showed the baby had stopped developing at 8 weeks, two weeks ago. I’d had no pain, no bleeding, just like last time which feels impossibly cruel. My partner has been amazing, but not sure he can go through this again, I’m not certain I can either, but time will tell.

I wanted to say a big thank you to this group, especially @amuseaboosh for your kindness and camaraderie. I sincerely hope you all have happy healthy pregnancies from here. If anyone ever finds themselves in the same horrible position though, I’m here to talk. Best wishes to all.

Oh, @Fletchasketch, I'm so very, very sorry 😞 what a truly heartbreaking time for you and for your partner. I know there are no words, and genuinely, I wish I could give you a massive hug or hugs! There just are no words 💔
Thank you for being part of this journey, I have appreciated you and your presence. Now isn't the time for anything other than to take your space and time to look after yourself. Do you have a plan for the next steps? And do you have suppprt around you? Sending the biggest hugs to you.