Due in September - over 40 :)

[Amuseaboosh]

Hello!

I'm 44 and have just found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant.

It's all a bit meh at the moment as I've been here before, multiple losses and all over 40. I'm putting it down to the quality of my old lady eggs!

Anyway, I'm back on that rollercoaster. I clearly love the stress of it all!

If anyone else is on the same rollercoaster or even in the same theme park, pop in and say hi ☺️

Huge congratulations!! How's the pregnancy been for you?

Haha! I'm not sure either are accurate 😁 I'm yet to hear either one.

Although, getting my eyebrows waxed the other day and the therapist telling me in total shock that someone she knows, who is 44, is pregnant! 'Imagine having a baby at that age, how selfish, she'll be 50 doing the school run....'

I was lying there, 44 and pregnant! 😳

Oh gosh how awkward/insensitive/hilarious. What part of the country are you in? Around here (suburbs of London) most new mums seem to be in their mid 30s, being a mum in your 20s is more of the exception than the rule. I imagine in part due to the high cost of living/housing around here. I expect other parts of the country are heading in the same direction. It does make me wonder what my mum went through in the early 80s though as a mum in her 40s, as it would definitely have been more unusual back then!

Thanks so much for this lovely message. I've been super busy at work for the past couple of days; hence the delay, but it has also been an amazing distraction and I have hardly thought about being pregnant. I think I just need to be busy, so will be signing up for lots of extra projects- albeit temporarily: Lucky work! I have my booking in appointment this afternoon, and whilst they can't reassure me that everything's okay, it still feels like a bit of a milestone.

In other news, at 8 weeks I feel like I might be getting the beginnings of a bit of sickness, though fleeting, which is a bit of a relief- though I realise it could well mean absolutely nothing.

Hope everyone else in the group is doing well and wishing the very best of luck for any upcoming scans.

Well, this is today's offering.....

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Hello my lovely, distraction is so true! I do the same with work. And I'm sure your workplace is lucky to have you.

I hope your booking in appointment goes well. Mine is next week, I'll be just over 10 weeks. I have my NIPT the day before, so lots going on.

The nausea is the worst but also so reassuring, I keep being told it's a great sign, and so far, the pregnancy is going well, so it must be true.

I'm really worried about the screening tests 😕 but I know it's out of my hands.

What are you doing over the weekend? 🤗

@Amuseaboosh ❤️❤️

Oh LOVE this!! 9 weeks + with a heartbeat is sounding really positive. Nice way to go into the weekend :) Will your next one be at 12 weeks, or will you have one at the NIPT?

The booking in was great- such a lovely midwife and she made me feel very reassured. She said my only risk factor was being over 40 which was good to hear. My partner is French and she was asking if he'll speak French to the baby- I think it was the first time I've really stopped to consider that I might end up with a baby at the end of it. She's booked me in for an EPU scan at 9.5 weeks which will be a big help. She also said that two missed miscarriages in a row are very rare. So for now, pregnant until proven otherwise and roll on the weekend!

@Amuseaboosh partner is off skiing this weekend, so am making the most of having the bed to myself and catching up with friends in the evening- hope you have a great one!

How lovely is that?
how many weeks are you now?

@amuseaboosh
So lovely to see your recent scan pics!
I'm 40 and pregnant with my first. I've been somewhat hiding in the background reading this thread, but I wanted to say hello! I feel like you and I are at exactly the same stage.. I'll be 10 weeks on Tuesday - time has dragged since I found out and anxiety comes and goes!

I've really been feeling the nausea, too. I'm usually quite active, but I can't seem to do anything in the evenings and lay around feeling sick a lot of the time. Home-made tomato soup, pasta, or plain rice and dumplings seems to be getting me through! Missing tes and coffee a lot 😂

I'm interested in your NIPT scan, I'm so new to this. Do most people think this is a good idea to do outside of the NHS? I had my first midwife apt last week, and they took bloods but not for babies development. I too am anxious and worried about the baby being healthy. I have had 2 scans so far at 4 and 8 weeks, and all is doing well, but it doesn't answer that main question!
She also told me to stop running which is contradictory to a lot of info I have read online, anyone here still exercising at 'our age' and pregnant 🙈
Any advice is welcomed!! ☺️

Thank you!

Exercise wise, it’s perfectly acceptable to continue what you’re already doing. What isn’t advised is to take up something new and over exert yourself if you’re not used to doing that level of exercise.

This is exactly what I thought, I did question when the midwife told me not to bit she was adamant that I just need to rest and not do anything strenuous, which she described running as being
Definitely scared me a bit!

@justsarahinlondon I have only heard this if you are at risk of misscarrige, bleeding or cervix issues. But get a second opinion if you want to 🙂

Hello! Sorry I'm so late replying.

How are you feeling now? My nausea has eased off somewhat, I panicked at first, but I figure it is what it is, and I'll just try and not think about it 😏

I have my midwife today and am actually in a cab on my way to my NIPT appointment, which will also include a scan. I keep thinking there will be no heartbeat today, but that's my anxiety, and there are no signs telling me the outcome will be a negative one.

We decided to pay for the NIPT (£365.00) as we want to have as much information as possible. If we wait for the booking in scan, which is based on my age alone, 44, will show a high probability of Downs and then go for a NIPT, we could be weeks down the line.
I haven't even had my 12-week scan through yet. We also are struggling to keep it from close loved ones, and I'm finding myself avoiding life. If we get to 12 weeks and by some miracle, our NIPT is ok, we will then be in a positive position to share. I'm 10 weeks 1 day today, I'll get the results by the same time next week.

I'm just worried all the time, and I've made no decisions around the results and what they may mean - I'm anxious a lot, and figure knowledge is power and gives me choices.

I've arrived at the clinic, my DH is meeting me here, we've both come from work, and at this point, I just want to see the same strong heartbeat ❤️

Oh, and I'm a runner, I haven't been told or read anything telling me to stop, I've stopped simply because I feel knackered and nauseated. As soon as that passes, I'll go back to it at a comfortable pace as it's good for my mental health. There is advice around contact sports, skiing, and horse riding not being recommended, but I've never heard it for running 😊

Hey, how are you getting on?

10 weeks and 1 day today 😬

A bilingual little one, I love it! How was your weekend? You absolutely are pregnant until proven otherwise, I'm repeating the same thing to myself.

And yes, that shock moment of, hold on, there may be a baby at the end of this - I'm not quite letting myself believe that yet, but the thought does pop up.

When's your scan? I'm keeping everything crossed for you ❤️✨️

Good luck at your appointment! I am sending all of the positive vibes. You'll hear a heartbeat and hopefully will make you feel more confident. It's just so hard isn't it! I cant get my head around the fact that there is a baby in there. Anxiety comes and goes but I feel like you have the right approach - just make sure you are kind to yourself and keep believing! <3

I am still so sick. Everyday all day. Working is tough and I never want to eat. Mine also dropped off for a few days a couple weeks back and I also had the same anxiety that it must mean something is wrong... I was searching everywhere for the same answers that nausea can come and go and 'all pregnancies are different'. Now I am back to hating the sick feeling - we can't win!

Thanks so much for explaining your choices on the NIPT. I sometimes feel a bit alone with very few friends with kids, and none who are the same age with the same experience - the internet has proven not to be my friend in a lot of cases and I always appreciate hearing about others experience. I totally agree with the sentiment that knowledge is power. After some research me and my husband are still considering the test but are somewhat edging on not.. hopefully we don't regret that.

I really hope the appointment is going well!! Rooting you and a positive result, let us know how it goes :)
And thanks for the insight on running! I really was cross wit the midwife for even suggesting it - I am sure you can imagine being older and anxious it just makes you think you should stop when someone in the profession tells you to... I haven't ran since (also because of tiredness and nausea) but I may pick it back up when I am feeling better
xx

Hey all back in hospital as I'm having reduced movements. Baby seems happy on the monitor. But because I'm so high risk I'm getting a doctor to check my over as well. Into my third trimester tomorrow! Hope this baby starts behaving themselves!

Hey, how are you both doing now?

Hi currently tucked up in bed! My chest feels so painful and sore. HG is back in full force with a vengeance. Baby is wiggling and back to normal! 😂. Third trimester can't believe it!

Thank you! I had a lovely weekend, thanks. I met up with a couple of friends and decided to tell them about the baby. So glad I did, they were wonderful and it's so nice to be able to share excitement with people instead of just feeling privately anxious. I will need them in any case if the worst happens.

The midwife said she'd refer me to the EPU for an early scan, but I've heard nothing yet. If I wait until my 12 week, then that will be on 27th March. Part of me wants to do that, but we're seeing partner's mum in a few weeks and would rather be able to tell her then than on the phone.

How are you doing? I have my fingers crossed that your NIPT tests come back clear.

@Fletchasketch glad you had a nice time! It's nice having a support network. @justsarahinlondon I can relate. Feels like a permanent hangover...

Thank you, it really is! I hope your symptoms ease soon, sounds miserable. Congratulations on being in your third trimester though- amazing & gives hope to the rest of us.

Ooooh can I join? I think I will win the "oldest poster on the thread" award. I'm 47 (!!!) and currently 20 weeks with a VERY unplanned pregnancy. I have 2 teens (16 & 12) and definitely was not imagining another.

I only realised what was going on at 13 weeks then had a very nervous few weeks of tests and the huge decision of whether to continue. NIPT and some anatomy scans all came back normal which was a relief and now I guess I am committed!

I feel pretty fine actually, a little nauseous sometimes still and quite tired in the evenings, but otherwise it doesn't seem too bad. I have also been holding back telling many people but it's starting to be obvious really.

Best of luck to everyone waiting for scans or worrying about anything, it is very worrying, but I try to keep reminding myself that plenty of women have good outcomes even at older ages.

Welcome @CrepituErgoSum sounds like a fantastic surprise - and you already have ready made babysitters! ❤️😊

Just had my 24 week midwife appointment - lots of focus on my being an old lady at this one... Big talks about gestational diabetes risk and how I will be induced if I reach my due date as they will not allow me to go over as the placenta stops working properly. In some ways that's nice cause I know that come mid June the baby will be here no matter what but feels very scary to evict it before its ready!

but... listened to the baby's heartbeat and blood pressure and urine was all fine 😁
being referred to physio as my main side effect is carpal tunnel pain and it is really effecting me and is very painful... apparently that may be cause I'm old too!