Due December 2024 - thread 3

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Thread 3 - for those of us still waiting on our babies, and those whose babies have arrived safe and sound.

Previous thread:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5202240-due-december-2024-thread-2?page=40

@Twinkletwinklelil I've got a midwife appointment on the 2nd so I'm going to mention it to her, as I am already on treatment for depression (have been for many years). Just can't tell if this is a case of hormones/recovery or something more. But I'll definitely have a conversation with her about it so if it is early signs I can get ontop of it beforehand xxxx

Stopping/starting breastfeeding also messes with your hormones and moods too - just as a heads up

fun being a woman isn’t it 😆

@Twinkletwinklelil no one told me that stopping breastfeeding would cause my hormones to go wild. It’s obvious as your hormones go crazy when your milk comes in, but after 14 months of breastfeeding, I thought nothing would happen when I stopped as it was a gradual decline but I couldn’t stop crying etc.

Frazzled and out of it, obviously she arrived Monday morning not today (Tuesday).

@Lunamoon23 sorry you're struggling now. No experience unfortunately but it sounds like you're doing the right thing asking the right questions.

I wasn't diagnosed with PPD but retrospectively I think I had PPA with DD1

You're going through an enormous life change, your hormones are still settling down, you're post partum. Ask a lot of mums and they'll tell you they don't feel like their out the other side of pp until 18m-2y

What you have done is not a small thing, I feel like it's not talked about enough because it hit me like a ton of bricks with number one as well. The way you talk about your body genuinely breaks my heart, I was thinking about what you wrote today. What your body has done is amazing, I hope you really realise that over time as your little one gets older. You have made a person, give your body and your mind a lot of time to adjust, like A LOT.

Also in terms of your body, I would take some pictures now because it won't look the same later and also it's really good to refer back on if you ever decide to have another baby to remind you ♥️

I still have my picture, my tummy looked like a deflated balloon with lots of stretch marks and it kind of shocked me at the time. This time I've taken it all in my stride and it doesn't bother me at all, in fact I feel quite proud of myself and I have shown my daughter my tummy and talked with her about the way it looks and what my body has done.

9 days overdue here and feeling quite grumpy!
Thinking of you all.

@LilyJessie I felt like this yesterday and I’m not even overdue yet. Had a big cry this morning as I’m booked in for an induction
tomorrow at 39+5 and really expected my body to go into labour naturally by now, so feeling very disappointed, which I know is ridiculous.

I don’t really want to push the induction back as I have gestational diabetes and recommendation is to not go over 40+5, so even though I have some more time, I wouldn’t handle if something went wrong due to my desire for a VBAC.

All the feels and hope everyone else is in a better mind frame!

Hi girls I'm very slow at keeping up with messages but I wanted to reply to you @Lunamoon23 - your birth experience was very very similar to my first birth and I did end up being diagnosed with PND as a result (many other factors too) It's normal to feel up and down in the first two weeks but if it's not getting better after that it's definitely worth raising with your HV and GP. I'll send you a wee message soon xx

I'm so sorry @RedRobyn2021 especially as you were able to feed successfully last time. Honestly it is so, so hard isn't it 😢 here's hoping the weight-in goes well today 🤞

Thanks girls for your replies to my breastfeeding post. We're still topping up with formula and while DH has been a bit better it's still worrying seeing my supply go down. I did have a really reassuring chat with my HV yesterday though (I love her, I'm so lucky to have such a great HV) who is coming back next week to work through an active management plan to try and bring my supply up (but not at the cost of my sanity!!) and was able to share some resources with me to show DH about breastfeeding to help him understand. So I defo feel a bit better about things.

Sending you all love and looking forward to hearing about the final babies on their way!!

@Firsttimetrier -
I hear you. I really cried last night as I was just so fed up. I feel silly as I know no matter what she will get here... But with the naff weather, I can't even get out for a nice long walk or something (as nothing waterproof fits!!!) to try and get things underway and also just get out.

@HelterSkelter224 -
So glad you're feeling more positive and have a good and supportive health visitor!!

@Lunamoon23 -
How are you feeling?

Don't blame you, they will be here soon I promise you won't be pregnant forever.

Try to avoid any stress and keep doing things you enjoy. Also carve out quiet time where you're just relaxing perhaps just watching Netflix or taking a walk with a podcast, I've found being around others ( even my parents) has slowed/stopped my labour

@LilyJessie Solidarity, I feel like I’ve wasted the Christmas holidays wishing the days away. It’s horrible feeling in limbo just waiting for baby to get here, like I can’t plan anything else.

@RedRobyn2021 -
Ahhh thank you ❤️
Oh really! That's interesting . I'm just sat on the sofa now with the doggies and watching wicked little letters (and laughing at that).
It's so hard to stay positive isn't it.
Another sweep tomorrow, and the midwife is doing it at my house, so I can but hope that encourages things!!
How're you doing?

@MaybeBaby2024 -
Hear hear!!
I really thought it would be over for us now. But we gotta keep trudging along. We will get there soon with our babies!!

@RedRobyn2021

That sounds lovely and relaxing

I am trying to get my 3yo daughter to bed but she just had a wee accident on the bathroom floor. She also just hit me and screamed in my face because I said no more Bluey.

Feeding is going well and baby girl was weighted yesterday and assessed by a pead who was happy with her. But she hasn't pooped at all today so I'm feeling quite anxious again. She is feeding absolutely loads though so surely it's only a matter of time?

I'm exhausted. I think having the flu the week before I gave birth and the anaemia and the birth and the sleep deprivation and the stress about DD2 weight... I feel low. I feel lonely.

DP is really grumpy, really short with DD2 and is giving me basically no emotional support at all.

Every night is hard and doubly hard because of DD1 waking and only wanting me. Meanwhile I'm trying to feed and express and bottle feed and sterilise every 2-3 hours day and night.

I would feel so much better is DD2 would just do a poo, isn't that mad? 😂

@RedRobyn2021 sending you love.. it will get better. You’ve got this 💪🏽

having other kids and being preg/having a newborn is so hard when they’re all so attached but just remember you’re their safe space - that’s why they want you.

DP needs to reassess their mood as you’re really going through it right now and they need to step up and help.

Hope it gets better x

Well, nothing kicked off last night so it’s induction day today.

Mixed feelings about it all, but think it will be a long process as it’s the dilapan rods first, then waters being broken, then the drip at a very low level but I think I’ll opt for a section if that stage is needed.

BIL will be collecting our toddler in the next hour before he stays with my MIL for two days, then my mum for two days.

Feeling a bit guilty that he’ll return and his whole life will be so different. Although he seemed very excited and wanted the baby to come back and sleep in his bed last night, so we will see.

@RedRobyn2021 -
I am thinking of you ❤️

@Firsttimetrier -
You absolutely got this!!
Good luck with everything.

It'll take adjustment for your toddler yes, but how exciting ❤️❤️
They have a sibling coming! Exciting times!!!!
Xx

Good luck @Firsttimetrier hope induction goes ok for you.

Well, after a very fast labour, baby boy finally arrived this afternoon at 40 + 4

Only had gas and air and was a vastly different experience to my epidural and forceps delivery with DS1.

My body just completely took over, was actually very empowering.

Congratulations @MaybeBaby2024 !!!

And hope all goes well @Firsttimetrier xx

@MaybeBaby2024 -
Yay fantastic news!! So wonderful!
Enjoy your baby bubble ❤️

Amazing news and congratulations @MaybeBaby2024! Hope you are able to rest and enjoying the newborn cuddles.

First stage of the dilapan rods wasn’t that bad at all. Felt like a smear test as my cervix is looking good!
Also got sent home for 24 hours, which I wasn’t expecting!

Getting some mild contractions which were picked up on the CTG monitoring and now lots of pressure, so hoping something is happening 🤞🏽

Hoping this triggers something over night.

Congrats @MaybeBaby2024! Sounds like such a lovely birth experience, enjoy newborn snuggles ❤️❤️❤️

Hopefully soon @Firsttimetrier

@RedRobyn2021 sorry you're feeling low. The 24h feeding, expressing, bottle feeding cycle is bloody exhausting so it's normal you feel this way. And it IS lonely standing washing bottles at 4am! Breastfeeding is hard, bottle feeding is hard, why is it all so hard?? I hope you're getting some down time with your new baby, although I completely understand how hard that is with a toddler who only wants mummy, mine is the same. This will all pass ❤️

@Firsttimetrier -
How exciting!! I hope you progress well overnight 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 xxx