Bit of a different question to usual here! I had my first health visitor appt yesterday, I went into their offices which was nice because I didn't feel like my space was being invaded or scrutinized. It was quite a positive experience and I felt very reassured by her overall.
The problem is she asked about mine and my partner's upbringings and whether they were similar. I explained they weren't because everything was very straightforward/'by the book' for me whereas my partner was in foster care for a lot of his childhood before his grandmother adopted him (who he still has a great relationship with and we still see her at least twice a month). She said because he's a care leaver she has to refer us to the unborn baby safeguarding protocol, so they'll do more checks on his background and possibly be more involved because of it...
My struggle is whether or not to tell him. She said based on what I told her there's a 99% chance nothing will come of it (I told her he's had no behavioural issues since leaving secondary school and he's actually just finished his PhD so certainly no longer a "problem child"), and at most I'd get a 5 minute phone call asking how things are with him. I just don't want to upset him, because he's worked hard to get himself out of where he was as a child and I don't want him to think he's being singled out and still labelled/caused our little girl to be labelled as "child of a care leaver" before she's even born.
At the end of the day I know only I can decide whether to tell him or not, think I just wanted to write it down somewhere to get my thoughts down, but would love to hear opinions. If it was you would you want to know?