September 2024 - Thread 11

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New thread 😊

For all the bottle refusers, my first DS used to throw a fit if you dared offer him a bottle. He started at nursery at 9months - and the little rogue took a bottle for them immediately. No fuss, like he'd been doing it his whole life. 😂

@PinkWatermelon88 I'll definetely try the cicaplast! I know it sounds shallow but it breaks my heart every time a new clump of hair combs out with the cradle cap. & My first is a hugely selective eater too - he's a March baby so a little older than yours - and he ate a walnut while we were baking the other day. I'm literally still celebrating.

@TripleESept24 also buying a new soft brush! Hoping it helps. 🤞🏻

@kc92 you must be a mind reader… I’m here for bottle advice!!! Miss has had a bottle at least daily since birth, sometimes up to 3. Last week she had a head cold and wasn’t much into either breast or bottle but I put it down to her feeling miserable. She’s recovered and cluster feeding like bananas…. As in, every 30min the last 2 nights and won’t allow me to put her down. AND NOW SHES REFUSING THE BOTTLE!!!!!! I’m also planning on starting solids soon but I’m so done with feeding I want to wean. Then I read advice that says don’t decrease milk intake while weaning, and I know she doesn’t take as much milk via bottle as she does breast. Anyone any advice?

I’m just so done and so so tired 😭

Also @kc92 lololol at the sudden love of the bottle!!! They’d make you question your sanity at times 😂😂❤️

Also have a bottle refuser! Despite her taking one from months 1-3 😩 so I'm full blown trapped and look forward to it hopefully reducing when she's eating... but fat chance. I bought her a bottle thing to use herself and put a bit of milk in it. She screws her face up and won't drink it 😆

She's also never taken a dummy, but now picks one up and sucks it. I swear these babies are taking us for a ride

@PinkWatermelon88 no advise but I know the feeling! My once lovely sleeper is now demanding to be in the bed, feeding every 30-60 min. I am withered, and my whole body hurts from co-sleeping. I want sleep, and to wear clothes without my boobs looking lopsided and halfway to the floor! I feel so irrationally guilty at the thoughts of stopping though. I fed my eldest to a year & a half, & feel like I should give them both the same start to life. 🙈

@WinsandSam what a cutie!!! When my September baba arrived, my eldest Dodie refuser decided after 2 & a half years he HAD to have one too. Genuinely can't with these kids!

Can I ask those who've started weaning, do your babies actually swallow much? Mine is 2 weeks in, and still just poking it about on his tongue.

@kc92 I'm totally in the same position as you with the sleeping. Although Ruby was never a great sleeper, she would occasionally do 56 hours in a row. Now she's every hour and a half to 2 hours and constantly wants to be on my boob. Like you, my back hurts, my neck hurts and I just can't sleep comfortably as she's in the bed with me. We even bought her a compact coat to replace the next to me hoping that would help. I should have more space but it doesn't.

We bought a compact cot to sidecar recently too. What happens in practice is that I lie him in the centre of it and lean in to feed him to sleep. Then over the course of the night he shuffles and rolls on his side such that he’s eventually on, or even crossing, the join between the two mattresses as he just wants to sleep touching me.

I had hoped it would mean I could lie in my own space back in my natural sleeping position and hopefully my painfully sore lower back would start to heal, but it’s not happened. I’m not sure where to go from here!

@PinkWatermelon88 which Frida comb do you have, it seems they have three different ones for cradle cap?! Thanks for the Cicaplast tip as we are in the same situation, the cradle cap looks sore and DS scratched it in his sleep one night so I think I need to help it go, but it’s so sad when it takes out his hair with it!

This one @Decaffe - DermaFrida the FlakeFixer the 3-Step Cradle Cap System by Fridababy. His poor wee head!! I found it amazing. Use a soft baby shampoo to soften first, I just use the Johnson and Johnson one and then use the comb. I really hope it helps him now, you hate to see them suffering.

@kc92 ive tried my lady on solids the last 3 days. She’s like yours, kinda pushes it out with her tongue I think I get maybe 3 spoons in?! It was the same with my first but I’ll keep going as I know she’ll get it eventually.

im sssoooo done with feeding off the breast. She finally took a bottle again for me this week but she has to be hungry. So I’ve dropped 2 feeds a day now. But sure she feeds all night then 😂

@Decaffe oh my it's funny you say that because since we've had the compact cot Ruby has also been shuffling in her sleep and ended up half in her cot and half on our bed. I'm scared she's gonna end up under the covers or down the tiny gap. So like you, it hasn't resolved anything.

I remember when my first DS was around 1 I wasn't worried about co-sleeping positions or pillows anymore because he used to take over the bed - but that feels a long way away. 🫠 My eldest used to cosleep just fine with his dad, but this one is like a mom seeking missile who just keeps rolling until he finds me! Glad to know I'm not the only one with a killer back though.

@Decaffe I get so teary when the hair goes too!! My DS had so so so much hair until he was 3 months. I've never seen another baby with so much - we had random midwives and doctors pop in to ask to take his hat off on the ward. And now he's half bald. 💔

We started weaning this week! Esme is definitely pushing a lot out but she is loving it and definitely swallowing some as I've seen some broccoli and carrots in her poo and her poos are a slightly thicker consistency already! 🤣

Anyone else's baby crying at the same time every day? Esme has started hysterically crying at around 5pm every day. Her bottles are all still the same. She's started food but only vegetables. She's never had colic can they just suddenly get it at 6 months? I've been rubbing some teething powder on her teeth which sometimes calms her down but not tonight

@TripleESept24 we had the same around 7pm every night until his bottom teeth cut. 🫠 Bonjela baby was a must for us, and Calpol when it got really bad. Think his top ones are cutting now, but luckily cool cucumber sticks make him the happiest baby ever.

I'm taking it it's just her teeth then! We distracted her tonight and it was nowhere near as bad as the last few days.... X

When did he get his bottom teeth??

@TripleESept24 hopefully it won't last too long for you. 🤞🏻 First one was 5 & 1/2 months, and second was about a week later. Surprised me because my eldest's teeth always cut quickly within 24 hours of each other, in pairs.

Popped in for a rant! Had been away down to Cornwall and mentioned that Esme would be going into 6-9 clothing soon and we didn't really have anything would have to get stuff! Mother in law went on an absolutely RIDICULOUS vinted haul without asking us if we liked stuff.... Or what we needed. She's sent about 12 dresses! Mostly summery ones, 5 sleeping bags (she already had one in next size up so that's 6 sleeping bags!!) loads of cardigans and hoodies and tops and the majority of it I would never in my life choose and don't want to put her in it I've hid it under the cot 😐 also one thing came filthy and lots of it is VERY used and bobbly. I hate to sound ungrateful but I just wish she had asked first what we needed or wanted! She actually really needed babygrows and vests and socks desperately which I've had to go out and buy! And also leggings or bottoms. Anyway rant over. It'll go to charity shop so someone will get use out of it.
Has anyone else had this? Oh also I had to go on wild goose chases all over Nottingham to different pick up points for all of this 😭

We all have colds in this household first illness for baby girl. So feeling a bit sorry for ourselves and fed up too 😢

Yesssssss my MIL is constantly buying things I don't like for mine. 😅 Her love language is gift giving and I do appreciate that she cares so much about them! ...but it's a lot of toys I didn't want them to have (noisy / bright lights / weapons) or clothes I don't want to put them in, and there's no polite way to put your foot down without being seen as a nightmare DIL. My DH is super non confrontational too so he'll never have the conversation! The main reason it annoys me though is I'm trying to raise my kids to be non materialistic and I feel there's a huge focus on "look what I bought you!" In his dad's family. I wasn't raised like that at all, and I prefer not to buy my kids things unless it's a special occasion. I've tried to politely say that, and I get back "don't worry, we can afford to buy it for you!" And that's not the point at all. They basically think I'm too poor to treat my kids now, and short of showing them my payslips I can't fix that assumption either. 🫠

...so I'm joining you in the rant!! 🤣 But I don't have a solution for you. Super annoying you had to go pick them up too?!

I actually told her that it was so much that I doubt she will get to wear it all! (Cunning way that some of it is going chazza and she won't be seen in it) Lolllll

I just wanna be able to pick some stuff myself too! Which I did. It was all dresses mainly so I had to get tights! And she needed sleepsuits and like some leggings and bottoms as she had none!

I just did a big next sale order for 9-12 and 12-18 months so I'm gonna say we don't need anything now going forward 🤣🙌

Esme slept in her big cot in her own room last night from 9.30pm until 6am!! A straight 8.5 hours!! 🥺🫶 So good! Hopefully it's the start to some full nights sleep!! 🤞

@TripleESept24that's incredible!! Ruby’s sleep is shocking and she’s waking about 7+ times a night. I’m broken!!

Oh no bless you!! Last night wasn't quite as good, woke once for a bottle started stirring around 1.30 I try to just settle her but didn't work last night bottle worked and back to sleep till 6am.

Hopefully ruby improves soon!! 🫶

I don't know if you all remember me feeling lonely etc! I've now made 3 lovely friends from mother and baby groups 🥰

@TripleESept24thanks! I keep telling myself it’s all a phase 🫠

oh that’s so lovely. Pleased you’ve managed to meet some other mums and feel less alone. Makes a huge difference

Also joining in on the ranting except its my DM and DH rather than just MiL!

She's been doing the same as both of yours, but if its not bombarding us with clothes or toys we don't like or need when we have very little space, it's unsolicited "advice", tips, food Bear's not ready for or flat out should not be eating, criticism for what I'm doing/how I'm going about things, and worst of all passive aggressive comments about me breastfeeding as if she wants me to stop all together and is sick of seeing it.

All whilst telling me that I'm stressed, or panicked, or to calm down, about stuff when I'm not even remotely worked up about something.

It's just making me want to take Bear and run away off into the bloody mountains!

I just so desperately want to be able to pick my own things, Parent how I'd want to parent and be cut a little bit of fucking slack for how much I don't react to life going to pot around me at every turn. (Which it REALLY is right now and I'm doing my best to hold it together)

But nope, all she sees is when I'm at breaking point so that's all I'm ever seen as, even when I'm not!

And don't even get me started on DH piling on.
All my patience is spent on keeping it pleasant and happy and fun for Bear and grinning and toughing it out with my mum and her foul attitude, so when I have very little patience left for him being frankly a bit useless?
I'm then negative and am creating a bad atmosphere for Bear :') even though I'm just doing my best to get on with our lot and in return I'm getting piled on.

Maybe if I wasn't shat on and criticised so much every day I wouldn't feel like I want to run away :')

Anyone else getting that kinda stuff too?
I'm just. So. Tired.
Its so difficult to try and be positive and happy all the time for fear of everyone else's wrath for not being 100% perfect 24/7... 😫😫😫

On the upside, weaning is going well and he's been saying both dada and mummmm this week!