OCTOBER 2024 BABIES - Thread 5

[CluelessInLondon]

So I guess this is the one where all of our babies will be arriving, eek!

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Oh you’re braver than me, I said absolutely not to a
manual turn!

@Mitsky I had to try it, I didn't want a c section but at this rate it may be the easier option and safest to deliver him if he is breech!

@Mitsky. Everyone woman is different but i had my c section 5 days ago and just went out for lunch for a couple of hours so for me the recovery has been pretty good!

Any updates as to a plan for you @Sara1988

I think I posted a couple of times on the previous post. C section booked on Monday at 38 weeks! It was moved forward from 39 weeks as I've had a lot of issues with severe preeclampsia in the past. It was only booked weds so I've told my mum for childcare reasons only. Haven't told in laws yet. Has anyone else kept theirs on the down low? They mean well but I feel like fil will be knocking on the door right away and we don't want visitors when I've been cut in half! Dh was the one who suggested we don't say anything and just announce the birth soon after. They live pretty far away too.

I was actually wondering about this. I’d ideally like to keep the date a secret from everyone as it feels so personal but not sure if my parents would be horrified!

We're keeping any progress quiet apart from my Mum (dog sitting!) and will tell people when we're ready. We don't want phones going off etc when we'd like to just value the short time where it's just us 3 that know about our bubble.
Stuff anyone else needing to know immediately.

@mrssunshinexxx we're booked in for a section.

Had a second opinion and they agreed the baby was very large and we decided that with such a high risk of emergency c section, we'd rather take the elective route.

All the prep we're doing for it now has reassured me we're doing the right thing, as obviously we'd get none of this if it was an emergency.

I am gutted not to be getting the birth I planned but wouldn't live with myself if I put the baby at risk.

@Mitsky we didn't tell anyone when I was in labour with DC1 and my DPs and DB were fuming afterwards which I hadn't anticipated. I don't think we were unreasonable at all though - I went to hospital at like 11pm when they all would have been going to bed! They would have just worried all night long and also badgered DH who absolutely wouldn't have answered any contact anyway. We let them know as soon as I was well enough to after the birth so it's hardly like they were told ages later or anything. I didn't have a choice with DC2 as they were looking after DC1 and I hated it. I found it really intrusive that they knew - especially because they saw me in labour when I was really struggling and I hated that. But I didn't have a choice and it will be the same this time.

@Sara1988 Sorry to hear that you've had to change plans, but you're absolutely right to focus on making sure baby can arrive safely. A couple of my antenatal group ended up having planned sections and said they actually had really positive experiences and good recoveries so I hope that's the case for you. When are you booked in for?

@hihihithere I think it's fair enough if you don't want to tell all the family the date of your section in advance - it's not quite the same as we didn't have a date in advance but we didn't let any family know that I had gone into labour, the first anybody knew of it was when we called from the hospital to let them know baby had arrived. Didn't want to be getting messages asking for updates! Do what feels best for you and take the time to enjoy your baby bubble before bringing all the family into it.

@hihihithere defo keep quiet if you think they would irritate you in anyway!

@Sara1988 sorry you aren't getting the birth you wanted/ hoped for I can completely empathise after 2 emergency sections and I'm also booked for an elective I don't want but I know it's safest option for us both. I wrote my birth plan and printed it out this afternoon that made it feel more real/ in control

Anyone else due today and not a single smidge of baby so far?

Hi all. Pleased to update that my little man arrived yesterday. Labour started the evening of the 3rd and he was born the following morning. 2 weeks early and a tiny 2.6kgs.

My little insurance policy of banked colostrum has come in handy and paying off. His top up feeds are all pre-prepped, locked and loaded and he's doing so well. Nursing is going well and I still hand express post each feed. Milk hasn't come fully in but I have more than enough and some to spare.

Congratulations @Oct24 ! Did you get your vbac?

@Kate9423 I'm not due for another couple weeks but desperately looking for any signs already 😅

Feeling very emotional and sensitive today. I'm so uncomfortable as well, I've got really painful spd and a sore tailbone which I've had throughout my entire pregnancy but it's been so bad the last few weeks

Hopefully your little one arrives soon

@Oct24 congratulations! Wonderful news xxx

@Oct24 big congratulations! Hopefully we get an influx of some more babies!

@2doggos. Unfortunately not. Another emergency C Section. After 10hrs of labour I started bleeding. Not a huge amount but enough to call my dr in. We monitored for a couple more hours and his heart rate was dipping but recovering fine. 2 more hours and his heart rate wasn't recovering as well so we all decided together to just get him out now. 14hrs of labour total and got to 5cm. We made the right call though. My placenta had started to come away. Hence the bleeding. Thankfully it was only a minor abruption and no damage done to either of us. But it could have been a lot worse if we had left it. Our biggest worry was a uterine rupture but my uterus was just fine. She held strong.

I have been told though no more attempts at a virginal delivery. If we decide to have number 3, it must be a C Section at 38 weeks. Between two C Sections and a Placenta abruption, it's not worth the risk. I'm okay with that. Rather know all the facts upfront than play stupid games down the line and win stupid prizes!

Really sorry you didn't get your vbac @Oct24 I know first hand how disappointing it can be , for the third time now ! Healthy mum and baby is always the outcome we want but if you do feel disappointed that's ok and very valid . I'm really mourning never having a vaginal birth x

@Oct24 Huge congratulations to you on the birth of your little boy! 🩵 Sorry to hear that you didn't get the VBAC you were hoping for, but more important than anything is that baby was brought into the world safely and with the least risk to you. Hope you are enjoying getting to know your new arrival. 😊

@Oct24 congratulations! As long as you and baby are safe that's all that matters.

@CluelessInLondon my section is tomorrow. I've been crying on and off since I made the decision.

I'm so scared I'm doing the wrong thing. I've tried to do my own research and keep coming to the conclusion I should try for a vagaihal but a lot of what I've read is about 9lb+ babies not 10+ and our babies AC is way off the charts. I feel like I'm mourning my birth plan or doing the wrong thing.

@Sara1988 massive hugs, I am also really scared and upset about having one soon. I hope it all goes ok xxx

I'll be sure to update afterwards with lots of positivity! Hope everything goes well for you.

@Sara1988 thank you xxx same to you, soon you'll meet your baby!

C section tomorrow. Super nervous! I'll be 38 weeks. No mention of steroids but I was given a risk of around 5% of breathing issues. I'll be relieved he's out and I'm quite nervous to still be pregnant as I've had so many issues with preeclampsia in the past. Did anyone need steroids at this stage? My son was born at 34 weeks and had them. I know what to expect as had a c section in 2020 but still getting jitters!