Due February 2025 - Thread 2

[UrbanSquirrel]

Hello all, just creating a new thread to lead on from the existing Feb 2025 thread - which is speedily filling up!

@susie1984234 I’m so sorry, this is such heartbreaking news. Please look after yourself and give yourself as much self-love as possible.

I had my booking appointment today and I must admit… I found the midwife quite dismissive, she didn’t give me any clear answers to my questions or any direction and o left upset and confused.
I suffer with hypertension and I felt that this was dismissed. I was told to ‘go to your GP or something’. She did note it down but otherwise didn’t seem bothered despite NHS website stating it could be quite risky. I can’t even explain to you how the whole appointment made me feel. I cried on the way back, feeling very fragile today. My partner is away on a lads holiday right now as well and it’s not helping things.
i stayed up last night with the most horrible diarrhoea as well which the midwife said wasn’t normal but didn’t give me any indication of what I should do. She bombarded me with forms without explaining much, honestly I feel awful and like nobody cares. You’re just left alone until the next one which won’t be until September.

So sorry Susie ☹️

ThisLime That doesn’t sound good. In my previous pregnancy I found the booking in midwife unpleasant. I did complain and my care was moved to a different midwife very quickly and easily. There’s also a service in my area where you can call in and speak with a midwife, it might be worth checking if you have one too? You could ask your questions of them, you shouldn’t have to wait until September.

@susie1984234 I am so sorry and sad to read your update, I know how hard it is to get that devastating news. I really hope you take the time and space to grieve and heal and I hope so much that there are no complications. Thank you for all your kind words on this thread xxx

Thank you everyone for the kind words, it really does touch my heart ❤️
Nothing really prepares you for this unfortunately, it's a sore one.
I'll be keeping an eye on you all and I'm hoping to be back on my own journey when it's time.
Sending love to you all 💗

@susie1984234 so sorry to hear your news ❤️

I have to share that I am in the same upsetting boat. We had a reassurance private scan yesterday before going away with family in law next week as we wanted to tell them. There was no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing about 5 days ago. It was quite a shock as an early scan the week before at EPU had confirmed all well and good heartbeat and I've had no worrying symptoms. Diagnosed MMC and they got me in to EPU again today to confirm. I'm at a loss and just processing.

Sending you all wonderful wishes for your pregnancies and beyond xxxx

Oh God @WildFinch that's an awful shock, especially when everything seemed to be going absolutely fine a week ago. I am so, so sorry. And so soon before your holiday as well. My heart goes out to you. Please take care of yourself - it's absolutely brutal, especially when there seems to be no real cause or reason for these things. Sending you lots of love and hugs.

What a sad day it has been here today... xxx

@WildFinch I'm truly sorry, it's difficult to navigate.
I'm here if you need to talk and please, if you can, take some comfort in the fact you are not alone in this 💗

Oh @WildFinch I can't believe another loss today. I'm so sorry and feeling really heartbroken for all you lovely ladies. I hope you're able to enjoy your holiday and have lots of nice food and drinks, although I know that's not likely to make you feel any better right now. MMC is so cruel. Thinking of you and sending hugs xx

@WildFinch and @susie1984234 i am
so very sorry to read your updates.

Please do look after yourselves. Sending you both a big hug xxx

@WildFinch @susie1984234 Absolutely heartbreaking news. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Sending love to you both xxx

Good morning everyone. Sending love to you all after another week with some sad news for the group.

If I remember correctly, some of you have first scans this weekend? @superj21 don't you have yours today? And was there someone else, or am I getting confused? Hope all goes well for you, and do let us know how you get on! 🤗 x

So sorry for you loss. Take care of yourself x

oh I’m so sorry, can’t imagine what you’re going through. Take care of yourself x

Well remembered @UrbanSquirrel! Yes I've got mine at 11:30 this morning. Have had no nausea again for the third day in a row and trying to take it as a positive after having felt so unwell but at the same time feeling a bit worried 😓. Not long to wait to find out...

@superj21 Good luck!!! x

So sorry to read of some more very sad losses :( It's a feeling like no other. Be kind to yourselves and take all the time you need to process it. It's so unfair.

I've still had no symptoms whatsoever, which was the case for my last two pregnancies (both losses), so I'm laying low and expecting the worst too.

I've not started a Pinterest board, but the baby name list is growing well.
I'd like to be quite minimal with this baby, I've enough experience now to know what my baby actually needs versus all the other stuff that becomes redundant and ends up just being in the way.

Sending love to all those who are struggling this week. I'm in a living nightmare with my Mum, and don't quite know how I'm managing to get up, nevermind get to the hospital each day. She is my hero, just the most amazing woman who embodies everything it is to be a good human, and I'm so lucky I get to call her Mum. I hadn't told her about this baby yet, I whispered it to her when she was in resus, and I really hope she heard me.

Morning all. I wanted to say thank you for all the well wishes and concern from everyone. Sorry I can't tag you all there's been so many. So grateful for such a supportive group in what is such an anxious and upsetting time.
I'll still lurk on this thread to see how you're all getting on. Wishing everyone well on their journeys and with scans coming up.
Thank you again xx

I feel some guilt posting this after all the sad news so I hope I don't upset anyone.

I finally had my first scan today and having been so worried, was relieved to see the little bean measuring bang on track at exactly 9+2 with a strong little heartbeat. Waving arms and kicking legs all over the place! It was crazy to see but feeling very relieved.

That's lovely, @superj21 - I'm really pleased to hear all went well! Sounds like the baby was super active ☺️ So happy that it was good news, and hope it's reassured you x

Thank you @UrbanSquirrel 🥰 definitely feeling reassured although I know we're not quite in the "safe" zone yet! It makes me want to tell people because now it seems so real!

Thank you @Lemonbell, all feels very surreal after 4 years of infertility!

@superj21 wonderful news.

Early pregnancy is such a difficult time to navigate. It can be really quite isolating if you are trying to keep it quiet. It’s great to have this thread & be able to support one another.

xxx