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IVF or am I being rash?

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FakeMiddleton · 24/05/2024 22:02

Hi All,

Trying to keep this succinct and would welcome thoughts on whether to just go for IVF now or chill out

  • I'm 37, partner is 39;
  • trying for 4 months, timed to ovulation:
  • I've got loads of follicles, textbook uterus and hormone levels etc:
  • he has 2% morphology albeit 5x reference range of sperm. Doctor has said IUI would be pointless and if we did do IVF, would have to be ICSI:
  • I really don't want a summer baby which means being pregnant no later than early Sept;
  • I'm also struggling to cope at work especially every time my period shows up and we are comfortable financially for me to never come back after mat leave. I detest my job and the toxic culture won't be changing;
  • we would like two kids so can't hang around too long to get pregnant with the second;
  • paying for IVF will not be an issue;
  • we would also do genetic testing in IVF so that somewhat combats the risk of miscarriage if I were to get pregnant naturally this summer

Partner would prefer to try naturally for 3 more months and if no joy, straight to IVF in January. But he is cognisant of my feelings and is happy to do iVF now if it's what I want.

So, I guess it boils down to: chances of getting pregnant next three cycles

I'm just so desperate for a baby

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Wavescrashingonthebeach · 30/05/2024 21:36

Well my birthday is late July and I'm a straight A student and also a gold winner in school sports days (long jump and running!!!). My summer baby brother is a highly successful businessman. Fuck the statistics. You can always defer them starting school. I'd love a summer baby. I've got a spring baby and a winter baby. Its an effing nightmare having a newborn in the middle of winter. I obviously wouldn't change a thing about him but if I could I'd have not had him in the depths of winter!
Kindly, please try and chill out.
I fell pregnant naturally quite quickly with my first but then took nearly 2 years to get pregnant again (didn't use any birth control after first but was breastfeeding).
I'm late 30s.
Best wishes on your journey x

jigglywigglyhungryhippo · 30/05/2024 23:33

What happens if you do end up with a potential summer baby?

Blondeshavemorefun · 31/05/2024 04:24

QuiltedHippo · 30/05/2024 21:22

@Blondeshavemorefun (I always reads your name as Blonde Shave ☺️) They've a very rare syndrome linked to pregnancy conditions and affected at the point I was having bad hematoma bleeds - which are much more common in ivf. Obviously will never know for sure and I probably shouldn't scaremonger as it's impossibly rare, was just sharing my experience

Oh wow. Never knew that

I think possibly in your case it was unlucky rather then ivf - but understand you will never know either way

Just I Havnt ever heard of ivf being a cause of issues iyswim

I did read ages ago that ivf babies are often brainer due to hormones /drugs but again I don't think any real proof

And yes many read blonde shave 😂 but def blondes have 😂

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