November Babies: Thread 4 (Into the Second Trimester and Beyond!)

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Hi everyone,

New thread for those of us due in November 2024. Old faces and new: welcome!

The last thread got a bit quieter as the Facebook group seems to be picking up. Link is here: fb.me/g/p_dSrSRkjpYfziyYWj/jkEMUg9j
It will expire in 48 hours so just ask if you need a new one!

Looking forward to hear how everyone is getting on as we approach/enter the second trimester ⭐️

@LegoBear84 ahh I’m 25th November too! Exhaustion is killing me! I had my booking scan the other day at 13+3 consultant said all looked perfect and have a very cute picture of baby girls hand, nipt came back low risk (I’m only 29 but wanted to get it anyway) , but the anxiety is still killing me!! I booked an extra scan at 11 weeks and they said I was measuring ahead, now baby is bang on what I initially thought has anyone else’s due date not changed from period dates?Anyone else have serious anxiety about everything? Maybe it’s just because it’s my first pregnancy! I sound absolutely mad I know 🙈.

I'm feeling a lot happier since feeling movements, it's so nice. Hopefully everyone else won't be far behind. I'm 17+3 today. This will hopefully be my third child so I'm pretty sure this is my last pregnancy.

I've always really enjoyed being pregnant. However, the worry has been constant this time around. I can also feel her moving now at least once per day and I've had an anomaly scan (at 16 weeks) so that has settled my nerves.
I have missed alcohol this time though, which has never bothered me in previous pregnancies.

Did anyone see something between the legs during their first week scan, I have it in my head now it’s a boy 😂 or could it be a girl nub? It was quite big though (I’m 13 weeks)

@carlymarie24 yes! With my last pregnancy there was an unmistakable willy at 14 weeks!

I absolutely HATE being pregnant lol.
I’ve never been so exhausted.
I just can’t wait until I can actually feel baby move, I think I’ll be more relaxed, and happy, when I do.

I’m at that weird stage where my symptoms are easing but I can’t feel baby, so I’m like “are you still there? Are you okay?” Lol.

@Negangirlxx literally me 😂 was out all day yesterday, felt completely normal, wasn't until I got in the car to come home that I remembered! 😂 Also had a brief panic the other day when I saw my period pants in the laundry and thought that i hadn't had a period in a while. 😂

Just can't wait until I can feel the movement! 😂

Glad it’s not just me!

Also, the world and his wife seem to love commenting on how big my bump is. “Oooh your bump is popping”. “Ooh you’re definitely showing now!”

YES. I KNOW. I’M 4 MONTHS BLOODY PREGNANT FFS.

Honestly, you would think people had never seen a pregnant woman!

@Negangirlxx I can't match that one, I'm 13 weeks so bump is still easily hidden! Just can't believe people actually say that though!! 😂😂

I’m almost 16 weeks and mine has become very much like there’s a basketball up my top! 😂

I mean, I wasn’t slim to begin with, but I’m very aware of its general size. I don’t need people to point it out every five minutes,
especially since I’ve had to buy a whole new wardrobe to accommodate it 😫

@SouthwestSis - you got it in one: the hangover we don't deserve 🤣

Well, I'm glad I found my people! I remember swearing blind in my first pregnancy that I'd never do it to myself again, so I should've been prepared really. And obviously it is worth it in the end.

@1yearplan - I am also missing alcohol. I tried a single sip of wine the other night and it didn't taste right, so it didn't scratch the itch at all. I've already told my DH I'm having a boozy Christmas Day while he holds baby... I've earned that at least!

Oh, I can’t wait for Xmas.
Baby will be out, and Mama can treat herself! 😂
Daddy can be sober at Christmas for a change, it’s my turn!

I'm definitely looking forward to Christmas for the "no more pregnancy", but also slightly bracing myself for the well-meaning but altogether suffocating "but we have to visit, you have a new baby and it's CHRISTMAS", even though it's entirely possible DW and I will be feeling less than sociable.

Managing expectations is going to be key, as best we can, ahead of time. I'm hoping that maybe by then (baby due 14/11) that we might have figured out something about feeding, and be slightly less in shock from the whole experience... so we might be able to drop in on people and then just leave when we want to. And there's something to be said for getting all the visits done in a short space of time... maybe?

Would love thoughts and ideas from people who've done this before!

@ChocolateSaxophone my advice is that only let people you're comfortable kicking out come round to visit you. It can be quite nice to have people drop in to say hello as long as they don't linger when you're tired and just want to feed baby without eyes on you. Don't be afraid to ask people to help themselves to refreshments and make you a cup of tea while they're at it!

As far as visiting others go - I'm sure you'll be feeling a bit more confident about that a few weeks in, and it does give you control over how long you stay. Plus you don't need to worry about tidying the house 😆 one word of warning - my first went through a phase of hating the car seat when she was about six weeks and just cried all the time. It was quite limiting and hoping we dodge that this time!

@Negangirlxx I get that, it sounds really irritating!! If it's strangers doing it, I always think maybe we should just say that we're not pregnant so they stop saying comments like that!

Sometimes I am very tempted to just say “what do you mean?”, just to really mess with people. Nothing worse than when people just try to grab your belly without asking though. Gives me the ick. Don’t touch me, unless I’ve invited you to.

@Negangirlxx yeah for sure!! But can you imagine them doing it to someone who's gone through a loss, or can't conceive etc. like it's just so wrong!

Something about having a bump means that personal boundaries are out the window and people can touch whenever they like.

I know, it’s so wrong.
I feel like slapping people sometimes!
I am not a dog, do not pet me! 😂

I was given the advice that if someone starts touching my bump I should rub their bellies back to just highlight how absurd it is!

@Negangirlxx for sure!

@Welshcake15 AHAHAHAHAHA!!!! I love that! 😂😂😂

Can I join the FB group please?

The needing a wee constantly is really annoying me now !

I'm definitely in the minority here, but I don't mind people touching my bump. I saw my friend's mum at the shops yesterday and she touched my bump and asked when I was due. I was pleased it looked like a bump yesterday rather than just fat 😂
I'm quite a tactical person anyway.
However, have any of you seen the Paris Hilton picture where she's kissing a ladies tummy, thinking the lady was pregnant? She wasn't pregnant, it was just belly. It always cracks me up 😂

@Saffster2024 fb.me/g/p_suRc9j8hZFBLLqcM/nRLYjVRG

Hi everyone! I am expecting my 4th baby on 22nd November! Very big surprise for us! I've held off joining a group for a while as we were keeping it to ourselves for a bit and I didn't want other friends on MN to catch me out 🤣 look forward to chatting with you all, and I will read back to catch up!