Pregnancy after loss part 2

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After the lovely Hopingrae had created such a wonderful thread.

I wanted to carry this on, as many more women need that added extra support.

Previous thread: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5016264-pregnancy-after-loss-support?page=1

Hope everyone can find some support on this thread x

@DaringlyDizzy So sorry to hear that, how very stressful. Early pregnancy is the worst. Sending you a big hug and praying it all works out fine xx

@Mamaxo I'm 13 weeks and my ligament pain is sore, it's either a dull ache at one side at points or I'm sneezing and nearly injuring myself! So painful but hopefully it's a good sign it's everything stretching out.

Morning all,
I am really struggling with anxiety atm. I went for early scan on Monday at 6+4 due to 2 mc last year and fetal pole was present, measuring 2/3mm but no hb yet as so small, so I have to wait 2 weeks to see if the hb develops. The sonographer was very reassuring and said it’s what she’d expect to see as I was measuring just under 6 weeks and I was fine when I left the appointment…for about 2 hours. It is killing me and it’s only Wednesday. I’m so sure I’m going to hear those dreaded words again 😭 my chances of miscarriage went from 17% suddenly back up to 50/50 in the absence of this heartbeat ☹️

So so news. Had the scan. Baby hasnt grown at all in the 4 days and they want me back in 10 days. Here we go again!

Here we go again! We struggled to conceive for three years. We caught in November last year to our amazement, and sadly lost it in January, we then caught the cycle after and again lost that one in April this year and has to have surgical management. They sent the baby off for genetic diagnostics and I’ve had reoccurring miscarriage bloods. The bloods were normal but the baby’s results came back that there was chromosome issues and that’s why the baby passed away. I have found out I am pregnant again and I just don’t know what to do. I am so scared and I just feel like there’s something wrong with us and it’s going to happen to us all over again

So sorry to hear this. It’s what I am also expecting at my next early scan. This is just the worst isn’t it 😔 sending love x

I think all of us on this thread understand how you feel. It’s such a stressful experience to be pregnant after a loss or losses. I am so envious of those who have a happy, worry free pregnancy (as I did with my first) x

@DaringlyDizzy oh poo, that's not what you wanted. Awful to have to wait 10 days too for further clarification. Sending a big hug.

@Rockyslife welcome and congratulations on your BFP. Nerves are absolutely understandable. Hopefully the chromosomal issues with your last loss were isolated and you will get a healthy little one this time 🙏🏼Is there anyone you can talk to re likelihood of a recurring issue etc? Wil you have an early appointment with anyone? Just focus on the fact this is a new pregnancy with a different egg and sperm combo and every chance of a different outcome 💕

@LauraJean1983 Is it possible your dates are off and you're not as far along as you thought? The wait is so hard. @DaringlyDizzy So sorry you also have to wait and it wasn't a more positive scan. Sending you a big hug x

@SnookyPook i am really trying to do that and stay positive. I guess having reoccurring miscarriages makes you feel so negative I’ve made myself believe I’ll never have a baby which is cruel. They have said that there isn’t need for parental bloods so I guess that means that our dna was ok? Not sure? They’ve hooked me an appointment with the consultant next wed and for counselling so I am hoping I can find out some more info

@Rockyslife sounds like they are looking after you well, and I agree, the fact they don't want bloods from you suggests maybe it was more of a random mutation type thing rather than something you might pass on again. Hopefully you'll understand more after speaking with the consultant. Great they've organised counselling too. You just have to take it one day at a time. There's no easy way through after loss and you will undoubtedly have wobbles etc, but focus on getting through each day and slowly but surely those days creep forwards. 💗

Hi all. I’m new to this and I’m so anxious and I’m looking for some reassurance if possible. I’ve had 13 miscarriages very early on. Most of them were at 5 weeks but I’ve had 2 where I’ve miscarried at 6 weeks. I also had 1 ectopic pregnancy 4 months ago and that was at 7 weeks. I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant and I’ve been started on cyclogest for recurrent miscarriages. I’ve had multiple tests done and all were normal so the miscarriages could not be explained. I have a 8 year old daughter from a previous relationship. All my miscarriages have been with my hubby. I had a scan at 6 weeks and all was well with a heart beat 🥹 I’m just so worried and scared it’s going to happen again. I was just wondering if anyone has ever experienced anything like this and has gone on to have a healthy baby? Xxx

@Jessyoxx So sorry to hear about your miscarriages, that sounds so hard. The fact that you've had a positive scan is really great, and if you have no pain or bleeding then that's positive.

Anyone had a subchorionic hematoma? Experiences appreciated. I had my early scan yesterday, all looked great, hb good, size good, then right at the end she mentioned the SCH. I've just had the pregnancy report and it's bigger than the pregnancy sac which I've read increases chance of miscarriage a lot 😔😔 Feeling so gutted now. No bleeding yet but I'm on even higher alert now

@warmbutteredtoast thank you. Fingers crossed 🤞🏻 my sister in law is also pregnant and she had this but it went away on its own as it was only small. I don’t know a lot about them but I’ve heard that sometimes they resolve and the pregnancy doesn’t get affected. You will probably have regular scans now to check the status of it. I know you’re stressing but try to stay positive! Xx

yes she said she though just shy of 6 weeks so it would only be around 5/6 days I guess. I have everything crossed x

@Jessyoxx Thank you. I've read a few mumsnet threads of women with them and most seem to be ok in the end... dr has suggested resting so as not to trigger a bleed, not good timing as I've got 4 days solo parenting with my toddler and 8 year old 🫨

Scan nerves setting in now...

Offical 12 week scan later today. Been awake since just after 5am with a bad dream then unable to drift back off. About to give up and just get up for the day but I know I'll be absolutely shattered later on (and have a tonne of things to be doing all going well with scan)

Had a scan last week and all was OK but I can not shake a feeling something will have happened, or something will be spotted. I miss the times when scans were exciting times instead of nerve wrecking times. Pretty sure the bad dream has stemmed from anxiety surrounding it (wasn't a scan related dream but still a family in a peril type thing)

Sending love to you. We’ve all been in this boat- I’ve also been awake since 5am generally worrying about things too. Keep us posted ♥️

Hi guys,

I am a long time lurker and have been reading through the thread. I am in the position most people are in unfortunately, I had a mmc in my first pregnancy which resulted in my eventual diagnosis of a bicornuate womb (split almost in two-think like your nose septum) but not before they managed to perforate my womb and bowel during a D&C.

Managed to recover and had a premature but healthy baby born at 31 weeks. Now its three years later and I have got pregnant again, I am about 8 weeks now. I am absolutely bricking it, don't remember being this scared with my DD at all. I feel like I am older now, in my middle 30's, everything hurts all the time-back, stomach. I do have symptoms like morning sickness ( or all day sickness) and sore boobs, tiredness so feel thats a positive. But honestly did not expect to feel this anxious.

I have my booking appointment the 21st June and a private scan booked in the 23rd and I will be 9 weeks, which is when I had my MMC before. For some reason I have just had this meltdown over there being something wrong. And I feel silly as I know a little cramping etc is normal when your womb is growing to the size of a lemon right now. I did have two tiny bloody strings of discharge but it's not even something to really bother anyone with, however I will def tell midwife next week.

Anyway I know many people have posted something similar before so didn't want to bore everyone, I just needed to get this out as I don't want to worry the hubby-who is living in a nice wee dad to be bubble at the moment.

@OnNaturesCourse we all know them nerves so well, I had a good scan at 10 weeks now I'm 13 weeks and don't get a scan till next Thursday I actually bought a babygrow today and scared I've jinxed myself now, pregnancy after loss is scary, but it's also sad we can't enjoy the little things, I hope your scan all goes well lovely and hopefully you'll be able to relax Abit xx

Hi @LillianLily welcome to the group. Sorry to hear you're feeling anxious, totally understandable given what you've been through. I think we're due a similar time, I'm 7+5 today. Wishing you all the best for your scan, chances are everything is completely fine but I understand the worry

@OnNaturesCourse Wishing you a perfect scan today! Very familiar with scanxiety, it's terrifying x

@OnNaturesCourse How was the scan lovely?

Sorry, scan was amazing.. I went to a different hospital and the treatment was outstanding. Full in depth, explained, scan where we could see everything on a extra monitor infront of us. Baby has grown the exact amount of days he/she should have, has a good strong heartbeat and was just chilling in there before turning its back to the scanner at the end. Everything looks healthy. I'm just trying to hang onto that "all good" feeling as long as possible so have stepped away from mumsnet a little bit as, through no fault of anyone on here, I find it fuels my anxiety. I just want to keep this happy bubble going as long as possible especially through this point as it was "somewhere" between my 12 week scan and 16 weeks that I lost my last baby - I'm 13 weeks now so I just want to get past this stage.

@OnNaturesCourse So so pleased to hear that! Amazing news! X

I have my 12 week scan Thursday (I be nearly 14 weeks) haven't had a scan since 10 weeks I'm so anxious it's unreal, just hope baby is ok xx