November 2024 Babies - thread 3

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Hi everyone and welcome to thread 3.
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If you’re new to the thread, we are a friendly and supportive bunch all in it together and hoping to welcome our new additions in November 2024!

@LegoBear84 mine is the 17th.😅

@Sparksi sorry you're struggling. Make sure you talk to supportive people about your feelings. I've been having a lot of health anxiety. No reason for it as such. I'm healthy, as far as I know. I'm prone to anxiety anyway and I think it's just honing in on health. Hormones can't be helping us either.

Hi ladies, happy Sunday!

@ChocolateSaxophone the NIPT is a little more sensitive when testing for the trisomy 21, 13 and 18 as well as testing for some other chromosome abnormalities. It's often provided for free by the NHS, if your 12 week screening tests show the baby is at a higher risk for them. It's still a screening test, rather than diagnostic and you can have it done from 10 weeks gestation.

@Sparksi it is most likely hormones ramping up and anxiety :( I've switched from being intolerant of everything to then crying. I'm sure I've been an absolute joy to be around 🤦‍♀️

I start my new working from home role tomorrow! I can't do my usual role whilst pregnant. I've got two days training in London and then I'll be back to the world of work! (From home) I'm excited and nervous.

The 12 week scan and associated blood tests don't test for anomalies but identify whether you're high or low risk for those anomalies. If you're higher risks you're offered actual tests to see whether there is anything going on (NIPT, amniocentesis etc). NIPT actually tries to identify the baby's DNA in your blood and looks to see whether there are, in fact, any anomalies. It's not totally infallible as identifying the baby's DNA isn't a totally failsafe process but it's pretty accurate (99% for Downs, for example, not quite as
reliable for others) and doesn't have the same risks as an amniocentesis (which is pretty much 100% reliable).

Ok. So NIPT is the 2nd level of testing through NHS so only some people get it for free. Thank you for clarifying @1yearplan and @Shroedy.

Finally got my 12 wk scan date for 10th May, 9 days before my only DD turns 10! Can't wait now! X

Good luck with your scan tomorrow @piechipsgravy mines Wednesday morning (thankfully early morning) and I'm so nervous 🙈 I'm 12+6 today and can't believe the first trimester is over, hopefully after this scan I'll start to enjoy it a little more ❤️

Still no major symptoms, just hunger and bloating, everything is starting to feel a little uncomfortable around the waist...scary as they say with your first you take longer to show but I'd say that won't be the case for me 🙈

Thank you everyone for being so kind. I think I’ve just been really caught off guard by this feeling as I always thought I’d be 100% happy and nothing less. I feel like I need a step back to rejig everything- buy myself some new clothes that fit, maybe learn a skill or just generally try to feel better. I might ring the GP tomorrow.

@Westy22 ah good luck for yours too! I have such an ache-y uterus and lower back today- feels like when you have tired legs after exercise but in my stomach? Hoping it's not the worst but at least I'll find out tomorrow either way.

@Sparksi sorry to hear you're having a rough time. I definitely underestimated how pregnancy would impact my mental health- I was so focused on getting pregnant that I expected that actually being pregnant would be joyful and instead I do feel quite flat a lot of the time. Completely get you about wanting to re-evaluate things in your life! I signed up for some counselling through my employer and I'd like to say that's helping but I'm being terrible at doing the homework. Have you looked into anything like that?

Anyone else suffering with acid reflux? It’s constant, makes me sick & gaviscon doesn’t seem to help. That makes me sick too with how thick it is!

Thank you I will definitely look into it. So good that your work offer that.

@Sparksi it's for LA employees and my trust buys into it- not sure if you work for the LA but might be an option? I had to apply and I get 6 sessions.

@Cazzy87 my 12w scan is 10th May too! Still feels like a while away I think but I'm excited.

@ttcbabyno1x have you tried rennies instead? If not then omeprazole is safe in pregnancy and you can buy it over the counter.

Ah lovely! How far gone will you be? I'll only be 11+3 so not sure if I'll be far along enough and nervous about the screening results x

I do! I’ll look. Thank you

Hey guys, I have my booking in appointment on Tuesday at 10 weeks and I'm so anxious about it, spent 5 weeks looking forward to it(probably as it feels like the beginning) but now I'm dreading it. Some reassurance would be greatly appreciated please!

I’m feeling awful tonight, temperature, fatigue, can’t get out of bed, no energy to shower! Also coughing so I’m currently playing a fun game of “am I ill or am I just pregnant?” 🤣

@Sparksi if it helps, my mood is similar, I had a sudden urge to change our housing situation (downsize so we would have more monthly money) and I just get anxious about all sorts of things, lots of doom scrolling on my phone etc. I also really struggle not being able to do things that usually calm me like eating well or exercising!

That’s incredibly reassuring! I wonder why we do it? Maybe we just want everything perfect for our babies?

That could well be why! Are you normally a perfectionist? I am, so for me not being able to clean the house properly (my bf tries bless him!) for example sends me into an anxiety spin! And yes, maybe we just want everything to be super perfect for our babies when in reality nothing is ever perfect. Just shows we care though I guess 😂🙈

Ah do you live local to Warwick castle? I'm in Leamington Spa!

My anxiety has been up and down too! I have my 12 week scan on Wednesday and the scanxiety has hit hard this weekend - coincidentally I'm also due to stop my IVF meds this week which is freaking me out too! Trying to convince myself that they know what they're doing and that my body can do this on its own now.
I'm not going to lie I won't miss all the injections and pressaries 🙈

@Sparksi

I am anxious too! I have HG and had it for most of my entire first pregnancy with GD. I had a terrible first pregnancy and had both pre and post natal depression. When the sickness was at its worse in the first trimester, i felt so low in mood. I became a house hermit and it was the worse.

My husband tried so hard to get me out of the house and i just wouldnt leave. I have litte to no pics of me pregnant. This time is different. Yes i have HG but it wont beat me!

i find the little things make a difference. So i am looking after myself... by brushing my hair etc (for my first the sickness was so bad i didnt brush my teeth) and i have already packed all my clothes that dont fit and have bought a couple of bits. I set myself little goals to achieve which make me feel better. I have set a date for a summer clear out and have already set up a to do list for hubby and me to work through before baby gets here. It isnt a long list but i like to be organised

I know pregnancy means i an not the same person (and i have accepted that which i couldnt for my first).

I am growing a little hooman And i am not one of those women who sails through pregnancy. I think it wouldnt be too harsh go say i hate being pregnant. But i know what comes at the other end having got a DD who is 4.

I only worry about what i need to to worry about. I know that that is easy for me to say, but i know i need to deal and overcome day by day to get myself through the next 5 months and 3 weeks. If i think bigger, i spiral!

@Daisychain27 i overdid it today. I collapsed on the sofa at 7pm and now i am wide awake listening to my hubby snore whilst feeling really sick 😫

I will be 12+4, yeah I will be asking the sonographer what the NT is, I'm 35 so no spring chicken!

Just got home after surviving night shifts, it was pretty heavy going as they are 13hrs, so ready for my bed now!

i'm 36 now will be 37 when baby is here so me neither! ahh bless you quick change and into bed for a well earned sleep then by the sounds of it!