November 2024 Babies - thread 3

[waryandbored]

Hi everyone and welcome to thread 3.
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If you’re new to the thread, we are a friendly and supportive bunch all in it together and hoping to welcome our new additions in November 2024!

@Sparksi I got really spooked when I was first on mumsnet when pregnant with my daughter like 11 years ago. Also in my mid twenties, I was terrified of miscarriage. My sister was the same, 30 and panicking. I think it is common but not as common as you will see on mumsnet for the reasons mentioned above. It gets progressively less likely throughout the pregnancy. The vast majority of miscarriages are caused by genetic issues and is no fault of the mother. It’s what makes the first trimester so uncertain because risk starts quite high but be reassured that it is more than likely going to be fine. I like the miscarriage probability chart which can be reassuring - https://datayze.com/miscarriage-chart

@Kinsters I'm so sorry for your loss 💐Your DD sounds very sweet and perceptive.
@Sparksi the first trimester seems full of waiting, and potential worrying. As riverstardust said, it's all the unknowns. I think it's really normal to worry a bit. I'm still struggling to let myself bond with this little one, even though I've seen the tiny heartbeat. It's hard when you want them so much.
@CurlyWurly1991 thank you so much for that! I've been trying to find some reassuring numbers for my age.

Just had my scan date through for 7th May when I'll be 12+5!!! So excited!

I am the same, my only DD is 10 around my 12 week mark so we are telling her then but part of me wants to tell her now! She Will be so excited to be a big sis but I want to keep it from her in case the 12wk scan is bad news!

My scan is exactly the same day! I’ll be 12+2

Super exciting @Magicmushroomsauce !

So the cyclizine seems to be helping quite a bit. I was sick this morning after my first tablet but haven’t been sick since! I’ve felt quite nauseous a few times and feeling gross right now (have already had my last pill too). I’m really hoping it’ll continue to subside now.

Weird one - anyone who’s suffering from nausea, do you ever get this weird heave/cough/sneeze thing happen?? Like an overwhelming am I going to puke feeling and then you have to quickly cough through your nose almost? It’s so odd and not nice at all. I also have a perpetually runny nose all the time which is annoying.

@waryandbored cant say I’ve had the cough type thing you’re describing but it sounds annoying! I’m glad the cyclizine is helping. My nausea is really unpredictable and some days much worse than others.

Anyone else suffering with never ending appetite? It feels like on my less nauseous days I’m just starving all day, whereas when more nauseous I have to force myself to eat. I have already put on 4kg this pregnancy and don’t want to gain masses of weight. Last pregnancy I gained so much as I was just always hungry. I am a healthy bmi and usually eat a healthy diet but just not sure whether to try and ignore the hunger pangs or to eat a little to satisfy the hunger.

@CurlyWurly1991 it is so annoying and I can’t understand what it actually is! I spoke too soon anyway, just vomited horrifically 😞

I am always hungry, nauseous or not. I am worried about putting too much weight on too and my jeans are already feeling tight. I’m not worrying too much about what I eat yet but plan to try healthy snacking once I’m finally out of this nausea phase. At the moment I can only stomach bland, salty food really so am hardly eating fruit and veg. Very unlike me but I just can’t stand the thought of it.

This pregnancy is so different and so much harder than my first. I’m wondering if it’s a girl this time!

@waryandbored ah sorry to hear about the sick 🤢

I had really severe nausea with my first (a girl) and could only eat bread and cheese with butter. I ate so much and was totally repulsed by the sight and smell of any vegetables. I’m thinking I could be carrying a boy this time. My symptoms are a bit different too.

@CurlyWurly1991 I had sickness with my DS but not a great deal of nausea. I’d be sick morning and evening and the rest of the time I was ok. This time around is just horrendous. I’ve had some really dark moments of wishing I wasn’t pregnant which I feel so guilty for as this baby is so wanted. It’s a really hard time though - I can’t wait to start feeling better! Hoping it’s right about building up the drug In my system before it’s fully effective 🤞🏼

It will be very interesting to see if our predictions are right about the babies’ sexes! I’d love a girl but think I’d be just as delighted with another boy too.

I've had those dark moments too @waryandbored , I am finding this part of pregnancy really tough. I am 9+6 today and feel like I've been 9 weeks for ages, its just really dragging.
I have my booking appointment tomorrow so hopefully that'll help me feel a bit further forward.
I am just so fed up of feeling sick and lethargic when spring is springing and I want to be up and about!

I’m having a rubbish weekend 😔
Had to phone 111 yesterday for an out of hours appointment as I’ve got a chest infection and was having to take significantly more blue inhaler which I was concerned could affect baby, so been given a course of steroids and antibiotics. Then we were at our nephew’s first birthday party after that & I don’t know what I’ve done, I didn’t feel myself hurt it, but I must’ve done something to my back. It was absolutely killing last night, & I woke up multiple times through the night to my right hand side kind of spasming, I think it’s under my ribs but hard to pin point exactly. Made the mistake of googling it & it talks about preeclampsia etc but I only had my blood pressure taken yesterday luckily when I got my antibiotics. I thought it could be round ligament pain but sounds like it’s too high. Anyway, it’s killing when I move 😔 If no better tonight it looks like I’ll be ringing in sick tomorrow, there’s no way I can teach like this. Just whinging because I’m feeling sorry for myself!

@y0rkier0se I'm sorry to hear that- that sounds really rubbish. Hope you feel better soon.

I've been really anxious this weekend about slapped cheek and CMV. Woke up this morning with a sore throat and now I'm convinced I have slapped cheek virus. I had bloods taken on Thursday and I'm terrified I've caught it and will have a miscarriage.

@waryandbored @y0rkier0se @SouthwestSis @piechipsgravy I’m sorry you all sound like you have lots on and aren’t feeling great.

@piechipsgravy I really hope that it isn’t the virus you fear, and the tests / symptoms put your mind at rest.

@y0rkier0se sounds very painful. Are you taking any pain relief? Does anything help like a warm bath or massage?

@SouthwestSis I hope your booking appointment goes well and helps you feel like progress is being made.

Tagging in to the "oh god I wish this pregnancy was over but I still want the baby" club. Cannot wait for second trimester it getting easier symptoms-wise. This has been an eye-opener for sure. I'm absolutely not doing this again unless something goes wrong with this one. Even then, I would need counselling. Surprised I'm alive, tbh - I know my mother hated pregnancy and I'm the second child. Slightly in awe.

@Meatballsandpasta - that's exactly what I swore until my DD was a year old. Now here I am pregnant again like some kind of lunatic 😭 in my defence, it is ever so slightly easier knowing the end will come and it will be worth it. But only ever so slightly 😭😭😭

I really hope you’re feeling much better soon. Definitely prioritise you and the baby first and take the time off if you need it.

Oh no :( hope you feel better soon. You’ve probably been exposed to both already, either in your own childhood or your career for the last however many years you’ve done it since training. What are the chances that the first time you come down with it is this year? I would think they’d have to be incredibly, incredibly slim. I know how easy it is to worry so sending you a big hug. It’s most likely just one of those annoying colds, which as far as I know doesn’t affect baby in the slightest x

Right, I have zero idea what to wear to work tomorrow. None of my clothes disguise the bloat/beginning of bump very well and I don’t want to tell the whole office. I haven’t got one outfit which doesn’t scream, look at my belly 😂 it’s obvious in trousers, in jumper dresses, in skirts… what do I do??

The only outfit where it’s not overwhelmingly obvious is in my new oversized fleece and leggings, which I can hardly wear to the office, can I?

I’m feeling so crummy but know I need to persevere, just wish I could take a couple of weeks off until I feel less sick and tired.

Thanks @Sparksi yes I keep trying to remind myself that I've worked in reception for over 10 years now (😯) plus my mum worked in nurseries and I have a sister 10 years younger so it's highly likely I've already caught it at some point. Plus even if I do have it now, it's a 5-10% chance roughly of miscarriage or fetal damage. I think it's just my hormones making everything seem so bleak.

Re clothes, I'm wearing lots of floaty midi dresses/smock dresses with a loose jumper on top. Lucky I lost a lot of weight last year before my wedding and didn't throw away my old clothes so I have my old jeans to fit back into!

Thanks everyone, had a cry at grey’s anatomy this morning which made me feel better & now OH is up and has made me a hot water bottle which is helping. I’m so so grateful to be pregnant & hate to whinge, but it just feels like one thing after another at the min!

Sending love to all of the ladies feeling rotten at the moment. I hope you've got gentle Sunday's planned.

Thank you. I had such a lie in this morning, slept for 11 hours only woke up at 10am. It’s thrown me off a bit as I’m usually an early riser!

Feeling a bit glum as I have a busy week ahead at work, busier than usul and all I really want to do is stay in bed 😂

Have you got any nice Sunday plans?

Pretty quiet one here with just me and DD10 so I’ll take her out on her bike and get on with some bits at home. Been teaching her to cook and do some laundry etc so that’s nice - in the back of my head I’m thinking yes she needs to learn this soon!!

Was planning to tell her later with DH but having a wobble and wonder if we might wait after all. Looked at option of private scans here and the only ones I would consider are £95 and outside school hours so either need to set up childcare for DD or go alone. I’m just so scared of a bad scan again I think I just want to bury my head in the sand and wait until 12 weeks, maybe I’ll regret it. The cost is also pretty prohibitive right now.

Im the same with clothes @Sparksi most of my jeans don’t fit and the only work stuff I can wear are the floaty dresses I have on rotation. Also a v busy week coming up and I’m dreading it.