November 2024 Babies - thread 3

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Hi everyone and welcome to thread 3.
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i take these meatballs and have always got on with them fine :) have to change now though as need higher dose of folic acid from gp prescription but will carry on vitamin d to the end i was told

Yaaay! Congratulations!!
That's such a busy weekend. Sometimes I wait and save my coffee for when I need it so maybe after you've eaten the wedding breakfast? And then hopefully that may keep you going for a few more hours 😅 good luck! Maybe hide some sugar coated sweets in your handbag for a sugar kick 🤔 you'll probably be tired eventually though so if you have to nap on a sofa I bet they won't mind 😂

@AccountingMummy lovely news about your little baby girl ❤️ I have a girl already and it’s amazing!!
Busy days in a row… it’s tough… if you can try and rest lots before and on the other side? Fresh air helps me with the nausea and fatigue, little walks. Sips of squash. I’m off caffeine but feel like I get a bit of a kick from decaf coffee (psychosomatic probably!)

Ive just had my 12 week date through and it’s between 12 and 13 weeks so I’m happy with that. Just it’s less than a week before we go on holiday and I’m semi panicking that what if it’s bad news should I book an earlier private scan. If I do that it would be not really affordable right now because I’d go to a private hospital rather than the 4d type places which I was not impressed with during diagnosis of my MMC last time. Decisions decisions…

woke in the night feeling so bloody sick it was horrible. Then had the most insane craving for toast with butter and jam 😋

First week back at work after the Easter holidays & I’m in bed for 5.30pm 😂 Absolutely wiped out! I definitely haven’t been as sick this week, just once yesterday, just lots of gipping. 12 weeks on Sunday which feels like a milestone, & then 12 week scan & appointment next Friday. Ps yes to hating the smell of the kitchen, & public toilets, & the hoover, & the bin, & basically anything that doesn’t smell clean 😂

@Cazzy87 thank you for all the info, that's really helpful. You got a very nearly perfect score then!

@AccountingMummy congratulations on your little girl!! Sorry to hear you've been having a tough time of it. I hope it eases up for you soon. And very good luck getting through your weekend!

Hey all,

had my early scan today a very healthy heartbeat on our little bean at 8+4!
I asked about NIPT, but he said because I am low risk it’s not necessary, any opinions on it?🥰

I don't think NIPT is necessary unless high risk, as we get tests anyway?

When is everyone going to find out sex? I'm soo curious, but kind of like the idea of waiting for the 20 week scan to have it to look forward to for longer. Bf thinks we should just wait until then too, but says it's ultimately up to me. Hmm...

Aww congrats 🥰

@Bratzy just waiting for 20 week scan as will only be 5/6 weeks after my '12 week one' x

@Bratzy defo going to ask to look between their legs at my scan on Tues and I'm prettt confident if baby will open legs I'll know at 13+

Exciting. Bf just said there's no way I'll wait until 20 week scan considering I'm talking about it already. 🤣

@Bratzy call me old fashioned, but we're waiting until birth! We did it this way the first time. There was something really lovely about my husband seeing the baby first and being able to tell ME, after I'd carried him for 9 months and gone through the pains of labour, that it was a boy.

Of course it's not the most practical way of doing things! But it's our way. We have plenty of neutral coloured newborn clothes from last time anyway 😅

Besides, I feel like I probably would get gender disappointment if I found out early. But if I find out and then get handed the baby immediately, gender doesn't matter because I can immediately start to fall in love. Again, it's not for everyone. But a very valuable way of doing things.

Hi all, I’ve been reading through this thread as I’m 12.3 weeks and noticed your comment @StayingHopefulx and wanted to reassure. I had this with my little girl (now 3) and I’ve had it a couple of times this pregnancy. Im not constipated but sometimes happens when I pass a harder stool (ah the joys of pregnancy). Only a small amount of pink/red blood then nothing else. I think it’s just to do with cervix’s and the blood flow so I wouldn’t worry too much. If it goes on for a few days, I’d give epu a call just to be on safe side. I hope that helps, anxiety in first trimester is the worst 🥲

@UnravellingTheWorld I think it's sweet and admire the patience! I do worry a little bit about gender disappointment. Healthy is the most important, but I'd particularly love a daughter and that's who I keep imagining. Hope that doesn't sound awful.

@Bratzy yes, I understand completely! I can't imagine finding out baby is the "wrong" gender at (say) 20 weeks and then having to dwell on it for the rest of the pregnancy! I just need to be handed a baby and then there are more important things to worry about (like meconium, and urine frequency, and baby's weight gain)

@UnravellingTheWorld I’m also keen to keep gender a surprise. We found out with our daughter which was lovely but I kind of think it’s one of nature’s surprises and could be very special to wait.

@UnravellingTheWorld and @CurlyWurly1991 ah, it's lovely to hear others experiences of waiting, or not. If all goes well, this would be my one and only. I like the thought of knowing for practical reasons, but also think it'd be really special waiting. Especially reading both your thoughts on holding out for the birth.

Can defo see and understand people's reasons for not finding out til birth I am just far too impatient and especially this baby as it wasn't planned it will help me bond to make his or hers nursery lovely and either sort through all my daughters clothes or get rid of all those and buy boy bits. It's also nice I think when you have other young children to talk about brother or sister ( especially as my eldest seems to think the only possible outcome is a baby sister !)

@mrssunshinexxx yes it’s my other child that is the only reason we would consider finding out. She’s 10 though so I think would understand the surprise, still, I think it’s going to be a big shock for her when she finds out and maybe knowing gender will help? I don’t know.

On that topic I’m starting to doubt our plan to wait until after the 12 week scan to tell her. I’m feeling so tired and sick and feel guilty hiding things from her. I’ve told a couple of friends and feel like really she should know first. But then when we had the MMC in Dec/Jan I was glad we hadn’t told her, and we didn’t share anything about the miscarriage. That was very hard too as I went into hospital etc. I just wanted to protect her from the pain of it. I am really not sure what to do, whether we should share the news with her now even though we may get bad news at 12 weeks or sooner… has anyone got any advice?

I've told my 4yo DD as she was asking why I was so tired and whose fault it was (ie was it her fault or her brother's fault). I told her my body is trying to make a baby which is making me tired. My last pregnancy we waited and told her at 14 weeks and then lost the baby at 18 weeks so she knows it can go wrong.

I’m so sorry to hear you had such a late loss. That must have been incredibly difficult. I suppose what I take from it is that there aren’t any guarantees either way so waiting until certain dates may not mean that much overall. I’m trying to imagine having another loss this time and hiding it from her again and I’m not sure I could. Going to talk to my husband about it I think. I suppose we could have a private scan now but it’s just the cost is prohibitive and I know that also guarantees nothing. I like the way you phrased it with your 4yo ‘my body is trying to make a baby’ and I might use that, thank you x

My symptoms are back (a bit) today so I feel a bit more reassured. I’m 9+4.

We have seen a heartbeat last week which was amazing and baby was measuring correctly.

If I’m honest, I am just so frightened of the chances of a MMC when I get to the 12 week scan.

I have no reason to think I would have one. In February I had a spontaneous very early loss at just over 5 weeks, so on that occasion my body recognised a problem and dealt with it quickly. I’m also only in my mid twenties and there’s no family history of loss at all. Apparently statistics also say a pregnancy after loss is more likely to be viable.

There are just so many horrible stories about it happening to people on here, it seems so common? Is anyone else worrying about it? My mum looked at me like I’d grown two heads when I told her, because when she had me and my sister you went for a scan as soon as you found out you were pregnant and then you just started telling everyone because the chances of anything bad happening are extremely low.

@Sparksi I’ve worried as well about how common it seems (I also had a MMC at the end of last year), but someone on here pointed out that it seems more prevalent on MN because it’s much less likely for everyone who has straightforward pregnancies to start threads saying ‘everything’s fine’, etc. So we see more posts or threads where things have sadly gone wrong because (understandably) posters are looking for support here.

I hope that makes sense, I don’t think I’ve phrased it terribly well. Baby brain seems to be kicking in for me at 10+1 🙃

@Sparksi I think we all have the fear to some degree. Something about the fear of the unknown, we just don't know what's going to happen. If we all knew we'd be meeting our babies at the end of the timeframe, we'd all enjoy(as much as you can 1st tri) it much more.

I haven't had a scan and won't until our 12 week, I'm so scared that it'll be a molar pregnancy, that there won't be anything there.