OCTOBER 2024 BABIES :) THREAD 3

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Welcome all expectant mothers of Oct 2024… This thread has been made as we are nearly getting to the end of the 2nd thread and that was made a little last time and people didn’t find it for a abit so making this one now so people can just add their names until the 2nd thread is full. Hope no one minds me doing this :)

@Shootystealy I get pains similar to @WickWood , sharp pains when I stand after sitting or lying in my lower stomach (like a muscle being pulled)

Is anybody else struggling with sleep? I find I'm wide awake and often have this strange disorientated feeling when I'm bed. Like when you wake from a bad dream and it feels as though you're still partly in it? I don't know if I'm making any sense here!

Also, the taste is still going strong for me at 11 weeks!! I'm finding this the hardest symptom to cope with, even more so than the nausea!!

Yes definitely struggling with sleep here - hence the 4:30 message 😭

it’s infuriating because I’m so unbelievably exhausted every day but with the nausea and bloating and general awfulness it takes ages to fall asleep and then I have quite vivid dreams (I never used to remember dreams at all) and I think they’re making me get less restful sleep. Im also needing to get up to pee when I never used to which makes it harder to get back to sleep too.

It feels like a cruel joke when I’m constantly tired and need much more sleep than usual.

I've not posted for a while as I can't keep up with the flow of the feed! I'm due 29th Oct so hoping as many of you are ahead of me, you'll have some idea....

I had my booking bloods and 1 is out of range. My MVP (Mean Platelet Volume) is high. It was high after my c section last year which is deemed normal as you've just had major surgery but it's even higher now. Has anyone got any experience of this. Dr Google says all sorts of things including it can cause spontaneous miscarriage as there would be disturbance between baby and developing placenta. I'm going to call my midwives first thing this morning x

@TeainanIV have you tried constantly chewing gum or sucking on boiled sweets

@LiviaX when we’re overtired it can make it harder to fall asleep, the body goes into fight or flight and stops us falling asleep. It’s the same with babies! If I don’t have a good 2 hour nap a day atm I’m wide awake a night!

@TeainanIV yes it's like a cramp and can be either side of my stomach, I'm also suffering a lot with cramping but have been told it's normal as things are happening.

I'm 11 weeks today 🥰 going to have an earlier scan next week to check everything is Ok

@mrssunshinexxx yes, the amount of chewing gum I've got through these last couple of weeks is unbelievable!! Really hoping it doesn't last much longer 😫

@CosyGreyLion sorry to hear about the difficult situation you have found yourself in with your partner. It sounds awful.
At 38 you are not too old. Plenty of my friends have only started families at your age. I find it slightly odd he would be making these comments if you’ve already told your children. It doesn’t sound particularly constructive, supportive or helpful. How would he expect you to tell your children if you did follow through on his wishes!?

I think it would be worth contacting your midwife to ask for advice here, this will have been a situation they have dealt with before and should be able to provide the resources and support you require to deal with this. I’m sorry he is not being the partner you need at what is a very anxious and also health affecting time!

@CosyGreyLion Wow. He sounds like a real peach! Hopefully it's all just a bit of a shock to him still and he'll come around soon.

38 is not too old. I know loads of ladies who only had their first at 38+. And as for holidays and taking off whenever you want etc. Take the baby with you? My husband and I haven't changed our lifestyle just because we had a kid (soon to be 2!) Sure it takes a little more planning around logistics but it doesn't mean your life is over. That's a very narrow minded view.

I really hope he mans up soon for you. Pregnancy is hard enough without your partner being unsupportive on top of it all.

@CosyGreyLion So sorry your husband isn't being supportive! Pregnancy is hard enough without being unsupported by your partner. My mum was 39 when she unexpectedly fell pregnant with twins. They are now 13. So 38 is definitely not too old! Sending love and hoping he comes round and supports you xxx

Gosh the tiredness is real. I feel like an absolute wet blanket, about to drag myself on a run because I want to try and stay as healthy and active as possible but motivation is at an all time low.

@CosyGreyLion I’m really sorry you’re experiencing that, do you think it’s just shock or is he actually an unpleasant man?

I’m feeling a bit down about how rubbish I’ve felt so far in this pregnancy.

I don’t have energy for anything. I feel sick constantly. Feel like I’m being a rubbish mum to my children already here. My house is not at the standard I would like it. I haven’t got the energy to keep on top of it. My husband is helping and it would be worse if he wasn’t but I’m still feeling guilty about that also. To top it off I’ve now got a super sore throat and headache. Children still wake during the night so there is no full rest. 😢

I’m just feeling pretty low and needed a rant. I really hope I start to feel better soon & my mood lifts. I’m not used to feeling this way ☹️

hoping everyone else isn’t feeling quite this rotten & if you are that it passes soon x

@Nervous764367 I think you're doing amazing, I couldn't imagine being pregnant and unwell with other children, so you're already doing more than enough. The house will wait. I hope you feel better soon x

@WickWood thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it xx

@Nervous764367 I can totally relate, I think it's being compounded by the fact it's school holidays and I feel like I should be doing more, but just feel pants!

@Nervous764367 you have my sympathies. I was just thinking exactly the same, feel like I've been a rubbish mum to my toddler, the house is a tip and I've zero energy. Just getting over norovirus which the toddler and I have both had.

It does get easier as I remember! Just take it one day at a time, and here's hoping for that second trimester glow

I feel similar @Nervous764367 sick of feeling sick, absolutely knackered all the time. Got a 2 and 3 year old and we had a huge double side extension start last week so the house is a dusty mud bath and I just have such bad food aversions cooking is such a struggle

@CosyGreyLion im so sorry lovely!! I really hope things settle down for you with him, it doesnt sound like what you need at all from the one closest to you. Sending a big hand hold and we're here for you.

Feeling the same way ladies... feeling like a terrible mum to DD, keep explaining mummy doesnt feel very well but it's not getting me very far! I had a migraine today (think im dehydrated and picking up hubbys side of things caught up with me) and she was so sad mummy went to bed... but on the plus hubby is now up and about a bit more with his injury so things should get easier! Roll on second trimester...

Good to luck to anyone else at get togethers this weekend trying to conceal the sickness/bump/bloat - im going to attempt to pretend to drink tomorrow... we're hosting quite a few friends at home, one of them knows and im going ban company in the kitchen and deal with the food solo so hoping its not too difficult to quietly dispose of my drinks or swap my friends empties for my full ones! X

@Shootystealy I also sometimes get almost like a heavy feeling low in my abdomen. Not painful but uncomfortable. Only 10 and a half weeks so baby definitely not that heavy!

Ladies, the feeling exhausted and like you’re being a bad mum to your current offspring, oh how I relate! I had a meltdown this week and just ended up sitting and crying as I was so fed up with feeling poorly and tired and my DS constantly asking for things and feeling like I was rushing and the house being a mess and it just all compounded so I cried. Then DS cried because I was sad and it made him sad so then I felt worse. We had a cuddle and all was fine again but I think we all have these moments.

@CosyGreyLion I’m so sorry your husband is acting that way. I think if I were you I’d talk to him about how you’re feeling. Pregnancy hormones make your emotions feel like a rollercoaster at the best of times. It’s not at all helpful for him to act like that on top of it

Feeling anxious today, 13+4 but feeling really crampy and aches and pains in my lower abdomen, anyone got something similar? I read your post @Shootystealy but not sure if its the same kind of thing

@ttcchapter2 I've had cramping through out my pregnancy and it was quite bad yesterday and I've had 3 perfect scans. I'm 13+1. My wildfife said unless it's very painful it's normal.

Ladies hats off to you who feel this rough having to look after young kids. I can't imagine how awful it must be! I'm feeling better finally but when I was in the worst of my sickness I was honestly thinking if I had to look after kids I'm not sure I'd be able to cope - it's made me really consider just having one child! You are all doing amazingly!

Anyone else feel like their nesting instincts have kicked in already?! With my first I don’t think I felt the urge until the third trimester but after weeks of pretty much just lying on the sofa I’m now furiously cleaning my house in whatever spare time I have. I’ve been getting up at 6am because I’m excited to clean and declutter… pretty sure my husband thinks I’ve lost my mind 🤣

@RobynC28 this makes me feel better, I've had a lot of cramping and some back pain, due an earlier scan this week as want to put my mind at rest as have had spotting too. Not seen baby yet so hope everything ok! I'm just over 11 weeks

@scottishsunshine96 a little bit yes! I got up and started cleaning but it might be cause I have guests coming over! lol

@CosyGreyLion I've been thinking about you for the last couple of days. I hope you are okay and have other supportive people in your life. The last thing anyone needs at this time is an unsupportive partner. Is this typical for him?