Pregnancy after loss support

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Hi ladies, I've recently found out I'm pregnant again after 2 losses in a row. I'm very lucky to have a DS and I had another MC before I had him. So 3 losses in total. I'm only 4+4, but got faint positive 11 days ago at 9dpo and it feels like I've been pregnant for aaaages but time is moving so slowly. We've booked an early scan when I'll be 8 weeks exactly so waiting it out until then, and hoping nothing happens in between. I wondered if anyone else is in a similar position and wanted to share this early journey with me. I've decided not to tell anyone this time round, a lot of my close friends are dealing with newborns or their own ivf journeys and I don't want to add any load to anyone. But it feels like a huge load to me so would love to share with someone!

@JNicko I know the reason they often want to wait for first scan is in case of ectopic - they don't want to 'feed' a dangerous pregnancy if you get me. I'm not sure how they make the call to start some women on it regardless. I know they sometimes do particularly after recurring losses. It could be worth asking them directly but I'm pretty sure the concern is in case of ectopic. X

@SnookyPook ah ok that makes sense. Thanks for getting back to me x

@JNicko I was prescribed it to take from as soon as I got my BFP but I know every area has a different policy. As @SnookyPook said they may want to double check everything is in the right place first. Hopefully the wait before your scan goes quickly so you can have that reassurance 🤞

@JNicko here is miscarriage associations information re progesterone - you'll find a link to the guidance the hospials should follow and to the PRISMs study that supports progesterone use.
https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/blog/upated-guidance-on-progesterone-in-pregnancy/

I've had 4 consecutive miscarriages and was prescribed progesterone after my 3rd, it should have been after a 6wk scan but I was going on holiday so asked for a pre-emptive prescription in case of bleeding which my consultant agreed to. I then just started taking it anyway but still no success - I didn't bleed until I stopped taking it just after the 6wk mark (when a blood test showed my HCG level falling).

This time I was going to be travelling for 2 months not knowing if I'd get pregnant so again was given a pre-emptive prescription and took it from positive test. I would say that I'm not convinced it's the reason for success this time and the consultant gave me the impression it was moreso something they give you to feel like you are doing something/have some control.

@JNicko I was only given mine when I had a bleed - I feel like different areas have different approaches!

It's made me INCREDIBLY constipated tho so if you do go on it, watch out for that

Oh goodness the constipation!! It was awful! And yes, mine was prescribed at 8wks due to spotting. Almost didn't seem worth it by that point but kept on until 16wks and who knows it helped maintain the pregnancy through the placenta development etc? 👍🏼

Thanks ladies

Hi ladies - caught a cold off my DP and have felt awful all day! Have been laid up in bed. Usually when I have a cold I can still function ok enough to go to work, but this has knocked me for six. Took some paracetamol when the headache was really bad, but usually I would be dosed up on the strong stuff!
Hope you are all ok

Sorry to hear you’ve been so unwell @Figtree11 hope you feel better asap and can get some rest.

I’ve got my scan tomorrow and I’m so nervous. I don’t think they’ll be able to do the screening on me due to triplets/vanishing triplet, which has a higher rate of false positives according to what I can find and it makes me worried if the NT measurement is over what it should be I don’t know what our options will be as I wouldn’t go down the route of the more invasive testing. And obviously just generally being ok / growing / having good heartbeats and it’s in the afternoon which is always worse!
I’ve caved and bought some maternity bits now as I’ve really got a little bump and no trousers fit me. I just keep looking in the mirror in absolute awe that my body is doing this. Even though I’m shit scared I’m so grateful to be on this wild ride.

Wishing you better @Figtree11!

I’ve got everything crossed for you tomorrow @30somethingttc. The wait is awful isn’t it! Have you got work tomorrow morning? I’ve found it so difficult to concentrate before scans but a welcome distraction.

@Wise0wl yes I do but I’ll barely do any work I know it. I’m always ready like 2 hrs before I need to leave as well so defo going to be twiddling my thumbs 😂
thank you for your well wishes ❤️

@30somethingttc totally understand! Often the only thing that helps me (and forces me to step away from my phone and scrolling mindlessly) is going for a walk. Good luck!

Good luck for tomorrow @30somethingttc the anxiety before a scan is awful. Forgive me but I’ve forgotten how many weeks you are now?

@Wise0wl yeah I might do that before the appointment at lunch!
@Figtree11 I’m about 11+4/5/6 - it’s changed ever so slightly each scan but almost 12 weeks! Starting to feel better now the symptoms are slowly calming down.

@30somethingttc 12 weeks, that’s great! Hoping all goes well tomorrow x

@30somethingttc crossing everything for you tomorrow xxx

@SnookyPook and @Confusedandtired90 I didn't poo for a week at 11 weeks gestation with my son. No idea why. It was hell. After a few days i ate like a kilo and a half of prunes in desperation - took a couple days still to work.. if I get that far I pray it doesn't happen this time - was the worst week of my life! I still can't even look at a prune... xD

@30somethingttc best of luck tomorrow, hopefully the morning is filled with distractions for you!

Hi ladies

Can I tentatively join, albeit a bit late compared to some of you?

I have just found out about my 4th pregnancy (2 live births, 1 missed miscarriage/stillbirth at 16.4 weeks)

Pregnancy was unplanned (I took Ellaone after a accident...)

I am beyond petrified and I do not yet know for certain how to proceed - to continue or terminate.

If I didn't have the fear of losing another baby, and almost my own life in the process, then I would be 100% overjoyed and looking forward to a new addition. As it stands, I'm scared - mostly of potentially leaving my living babies without a Mum (I hemorrhaged badly with my stillborn) but also of putting myself and family through another loss.

I so wish more children but after my last experience had, almost, accepted that it was not meant to be. I hadn't made peace with it but it was what it was. Now I feel like this little one is meant to be, having already "got through" the morning after pill...if that makes sense.
(but saying that my stillborn also got through my previously ironclad birth control. My live births were very much planned.)

Apologies for the ramble, aside from DH no one else yet knows so feels good to get it off my chest.

@30somethingttc wishing you so many good wishes for your scan today! Hopefully they'll talk through any options for testing with you as necessary, but here's hoping you won't need to go down that route. I'm also 11+5 today according to LMP but my dates have always been ahead according to scans so think I might be just over 12 too. I've got to wait 6 more days for mine, already feeling a bit edgy about it.
@Figtree11 hope you're feeling better. My tonsillitis absolutely floored me, think our immune systems don't work as well with these little beans feeding off all the good stuff!
@OnNaturesCourse welcome and I'm so sorry for your previous loss and the traumatic time you've had. I really hope this little bean is ok. Do you think you'll get an early scan?

@OnNaturesCourse welcome to the thread, I'm so sorry for your losses. Everybody here completely understands the anxiety around pregnancy after loss but I can only imagine the shock after taking the MAP and then finding out. I'm not religious or anything but I would definitely be thinking like you and taking it as a little sign that it's meant to be 🌈
Similar to you I had a haemorrhage after my MMC which involved a lot of blood loss in the a&e and lots of doctors and nurses running around DCC frantically. I don't remember much as I was lying flat but my OH is still very traumatised after it as he was convinced I was going to die 😔 I totally get the fear of PPH especially as you have 2 little ones at home (I have no living children so I don't have that same fear but I'm still worried about the birth) after reading a few threads on PPH I think it can definitely be planned for with your consultant and it's not guaranteed to happen again by any means. I hope my talking it through with your DH and maybe talking to GP or midwife you might feel a bit more reassured. Best of luck whatever you decide x

@OnNaturesCourse welcome and sorry for all you've been through. @Sez281 has said it better than I could but hope you are able to find peace with whichever decision you make. I wonder if a birth trauma midwife would be able to talk things through with you? X

Good luck for this aft @30somethingttc xx

Thank you so much everyone. Hopefully will update you with happy news later!

welcome @OnNaturesCourse! so sorry to hear about your previous loss. That must have been a lot for you and your partner. Talking it through with your GP/Midwife as Sez says could be a good idea xx

Does anyone know what these mean?! Sonographer didn't explain it...

Chickened out and got a private scan this am as the two week wait between the EPU ones when I've had bleeds was killing me.

Saw a tiny wee heart beat - only measuring 1mm so that would put me 6 days behind where I thought I was (I'm a few days off traditional measurement because I ovulated late but not quite that late!). And my gestational and yolk sacs haven't grown much when I know they're meant to grow by about 1mm a day so taking it all with a pinch of salt but small victories and all that!

Sorry @Confusedandtired90 I don’t. It’s annoying how every place lays the information out differently.
could you call the private place you went too and ask them to explain?
fab you saw a heartbeat though!! Xx

Hi everyone, late to the thread but needed a place to chat.
I found out that I’m pregnant this morning (5w+6) and instantly started panicking. Almost the same time last year, I got pregnant but it ended in May in a miscarriage via MVA. The deja vu of the timing sent me straight to thoughts of ‘what if it goes wrong again?’

Any advice for how to keep the anxiety under control? My first appt is at the end of this month.