Pregnancy after loss support

[Hopingrae]

Hi ladies, I've recently found out I'm pregnant again after 2 losses in a row. I'm very lucky to have a DS and I had another MC before I had him. So 3 losses in total. I'm only 4+4, but got faint positive 11 days ago at 9dpo and it feels like I've been pregnant for aaaages but time is moving so slowly. We've booked an early scan when I'll be 8 weeks exactly so waiting it out until then, and hoping nothing happens in between. I wondered if anyone else is in a similar position and wanted to share this early journey with me. I've decided not to tell anyone this time round, a lot of my close friends are dealing with newborns or their own ivf journeys and I don't want to add any load to anyone. But it feels like a huge load to me so would love to share with someone!

Oh gosh I'm so sorry @30somethingttc that you found out there was a 3rd baby but you have lost them, that's so sad but also good news about the two babies having strong heartbeats and growing well.

sorry to hear you're struggling @Hopingrae definitely get signed off work for a couple of weeks and rest up.

The insomnia sounds really rough @Figtree11 I hope you manage to sleep better tonight.

i hope the go can help tomorrow @LER2023 and the spotting subsides tonight. It's such a horrible thing seeing blood when you wipe. Thinking of you and hoping for the best.

@Sez281 good luck today at your scan! Let us know how you get on x

Good morning ladies, My brains going crazy!!
No blood over night, wiped this morning theres the tiniest bit!

Still going to ring the doctors🙄 just for that reassurance and see what they say, but it may be they want me to see a midwife and i dont really want to yet, because of personal reasons.

I dont know how im going to say it to them 'hi.. im pregnant. Dont have a midwife just yet, because i dont feel like i can have one just yet, however i dtd on saturday afternoon and ive started spotting brown and red blood sunday but i dont see it every time i go to the loo, its just every other time i go to the loo i see it' thats going to make a whole lot of sense🤨

Me and my partner was chatting about it yesterday while i was mid ugly cry.
And we both said we wouldnt stop trying for our rainbow baby if anything was to go wrong, and hes adement that because we're 8 weeks and 2 days that nothing can go wrong now🫠

This is literally sending my anxiety into overdrive!😪

@LER2023 it’s such an anxious time. I don’t think they’ll make you see a midwife. I can’t self refer to my EPU, but when I’ve called about spotting before they got me a GP appointment that morning. All I said to the receptionist was that I was however many weeks pregnant & I was spotting. They asked no further questions.
I went along & he called the EPU while I was there who were then able to see me the next day.
Hopefully as it’s subsided it was caused by irritation, but always best to get checked for peace of mind.

@Sez281 Hope today goes well

I cant go tomorrow! Oh my gosh! That would be the worst day to go🙃
Its my partners birthday tomorrow and he says hes excited for his birthday considering the worry we have right now. You wouldnt think he was turning 33🤣 he just wants to unwrap his presents!

So tomorrow probably wouldnt be the most perfect time to go. Wednesday is a different story, i can easily get out of work if i explain i have an appointment and i couldnt change it for after work.

Im just hoping my gp is like yours and see me the same day because the EPU are just horrendous, last time i went for my last mc i said to them in floods of tears surely there is something you can do for me, this is my second one and tommys do stuff after 2 so mums and dads dont have to go through this heartbreak again.
She rubbed my arm and went not until 3 mc's. Go see someone privately if you want further testing.

I dont feel any different though, i still feel really sick, my nipples are still quite sore and im still exhausted. So all my symptoms are still there, but im just going through this anxiety. I know im going on about it on here.
But talking to my partner he just says 'no matter the outcome we still have each other and i know it hurts, it hurts to think about it but we cant let it break us like the last 2 have' hes very supportive and hes held me all night.

But i feel talking to other women js just easier because women know how it feels, other women know the heartache and worry

So update: managed to get through to my doctors and theyve got me an appointment and told me to come within 45 minutes, so ive had to rush out of work to get to my doctors on time.

I didnt expect the rush, all he said was 'you'll need a scan' he said that under his breathe and then said come to the surgery and you'll see a woman doctor.

So now ive rushed out of work, kept apologising to my manager and got ont he first bus that will take me to the doctors.

He said how far are you from the surgery, i went im at the childrens hospital, he just went OH..i went no im working there😅
He then went right okay, come down to surgery.

So im on my way i'll update you all after x

Good luck @LER2023 hope everything's really well with the little one when they scan you. Keeping everything crossed.

Just been at the doctors for the last hour and a half😅
Ive had to take another pregnancy test which she knew was going to be positive anyway but would rather know so then she can pass on to EPU.

I have an appointment with EPU at 3pm to check whats happening.

Not looking good though, she checked my cervix and said it was closed so may possibly be a threatened miscarriage, but i have to ask about a possible haematoma, and see if i can have further scans for that, she says it could be nothing, it could be something always best to be checked and if it is confirmed to be a mc i have to go back to the GP and tell them ive had my third MC so they can do further testing.

I dont believe, but im praying for a good outcome 🤞🏻

@LER2023 thinking of you. Glad the GP and EPU both able to see you on the same day. I hope EPU can give some reassurance. Let us know how you go x

Hi all. I posted a couple of times early on in the thread and then I backed off a bit as I found I needed to avoid stories of loss a bit for my MH. Also I'm a bit further ahead than you all and it didn't quite seem appropriate somehow.

However, I've just been catching up on the thread and experiencing the ups and downs you're all going through and I thought it might be nice to share a hopeful post as I'm 20wks today. I can't quite believe it. I'm pretty certain I'm feeling little movements now too which is helping to ease the anxiety a lot, although scans are still a bit daunting and got my biggie coming up on Thursday.

@LER2023 I had spotting at 8wks, 11wks and a small bleed with a couple of clots at 13+5. Absolutely terrified each time but all has been ok. No obvious cause found - they suspected cervix. I hadn't DTD but as you did I would say that's even more likely to have caused some irritation or something. Hopefully they are able to reassure you and to provide the progesterone this aft. I was prescribed progesterone after my first bleed and was on it until 16wks.

So sorry for those who've just gone through fresh losses. 😔 It's just heartbreaking. Hope you have good support and are able to take the time you need to grieve.

Everyone else, hope you're managing to navigate the anxiety ok. There are a few other scans this week aren't there. Hugs to everyone. X

Congratulations @SnookyPook
that really is good news to hear and so exciting you are feeling movement.
I hope your scan goes well on Thursday, let us know how you get on ☺️☺️

I’m glad you have managed to get seen so quickly @LER2023 And I totally agree, it’s nice to be able to talk about our worries with other women who understand. My DP is very supportive, but when I’m stressing he is very matter of fact, and that there is nothing I can do to prevent it. But I don’t always want to hear that lol.
Wishing you luck for your appt at the EPU.

Thats lovely news @SnookyPook so glad all is going well. At the moment I can’t even imagine getting to a 12wk scan with good news at the moment, so it’s nice to hear it’s possible after loss

@LER2023 I always thought a closed cervix was a good sign? If it's a haemottoma they're really common so hopefully that's all it is 🤞 x

Thanks for all the messages. It went really well. Everything looking good. She didn’t change due date by my scan (she weirdly went by lmp automatically before it 🤷‍♀️). All measuring well though and strong heart beat. 💓

The consultant also told me it's ok to stop the progesterone pessaries now (which I’m absolutely terrified of doing but she said it’s fine) she also gave me a prescription for anti nausea meds as it’s constant 🤢..Back in 4 weeks to see her again (then if Im feeling better we can hopefully fly on holidays for a few weeks between that scan and my 20 week one as it will be a nice distraction 🙏)

The next big thing to wait on are my Nipt blood results which should be back this week. I've been having nightmares about the results😣, it's such a long wait. Hopefully If they are low risk then I’ll start to relax a bit and tell more people etc 🙏

Brilliant news @Sez281 ❤️

@Sez281 that's lovely news! I can imagine coming off progesterone feels scary, even with consultant okaying it. What meds have you been prescribed for nausea? Let me know how you find them. I'm not convinced Cyclizine is working too well for me atm. I've been signed off work though for a couple of weeks which feels like a relief!

@SnookyPook lovely to hear your update! You're always welcome, doesn't matter what point of pregnancy you are! Wishing you all the luck with your scan on Thurs! Let us know how you go x

Its not viable ladies.
The sack is measuring a whole lot bigger than the baby, and theres so much bleeding around it. Yes a haematoma but they dont believe its viable and baby doesnt have a heartbeat

Good luck with all of your pregnancies and i hope they all go really well and i hope you all have your beautiful little babies.

Im going to go through the miscarriage clinic which is 3 - 6 months wait for it and i cant get pregnant in the mean time.

@LER2023 😔 I'm so very very sorry to hear that. There's nothing anyone can say to help ease this pain. I hope you're able to take some time off work to allow yourself to process and grieve, and hope you've got lots of good support around you. Hope you're feeling ok about the wait for the clinic referral. It's a bit of a way off isn't it. Sending you the most enormous hug and hope your little rainbow is just getting ready to meet you when the time is right. 💗

So Sorry to hear @LER2023
hope you are surrounded by loved ones to support you through this ❤️ thinking of you and your partner and sending love.

Oh @LER2023 i truly am so sorry. What awful news to have received. Life can just be so cruel sometimes.
Sending you a big hug, and I really hope you get seen by the miscarriage clinic soon & you are able to get some answers & help on how to move forwards.
I’m so sorry x

@LER2023 oh my love, I'm so very sorry. This is heartbreaking. You've been such a support on this thread, like others have said I hope you have lots of support around you now. I'm glad you've been referred to the recurrent clinic and I pray it's a step closer to your beautiful rainbow. Sending love xxx

Im absolutely heart broken, we was so excited and felt so good about this pregnancy.

Unfortunately i still have to break the news to my partner and his sister.

Honestly you lot deserve the absolute world and i really really hope you all have a fantastic pregnancy.

For those that have lost their beautiful beans, we will get there soon enough to have our beautiful babies too. Theres no end to trying for our first baby.

Sending my love to every single one of you and so much hope to those who are still anxious, please dont take our bad news as a bad sign for yourself.

If you have any issues speak to your gp, midwifes and EPAU, take all the support you have, take it and squeeze it, its worth it.

And those of you with children already, give them a massive squeeze❤️

I'll hopefully be back on this thread (very late admittedly) and i'll be sharing my news again one day.

Thank you to everyone who have been the best support and given the best advice, you are appreciated and you'll always be remembered, heres to the miscarriage clinic lets see what happens in the next year!💙🩷

@LER2023 oh I'm so so sorry hun. I honestly thought it would be ok. I know it's going to be tough telling your partner but you know he'll just want to make sure that you're ok. I hope the next few days and weeks go as well as can be expected physically & emotionally🙏. I'm so glad that you will finally be referred now snd hopefully you'll just need progesterone or something going forward.

For now allow yourself to grieve, it doesn't matter that you've been here before it doesn't make it any easier. I've no doubt that we'll see you back here soon. Sending you lots of hugs and praying you'll have your rainbow baby soon 🌈 xxx

@LER2023 i am so very sorry to hear this, utterly heartbreaking. Gosh life is so so unfair. There are no words but I hope you have support, sending so much love your way. X

You have been such a support on here @LER2023 please check in to let us know how you are getting on.
I am sure that one day you will get your rainbow, and it will be wonderful when you do 🌈 x

@Sez281
so happy your scan went well! Hope you’ve been able to pick up your meds and you can curb the sickness asap!
fingers crossed for your nipt results! Xx