Due September 4.5 🐣♥️🧡💜

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Hello ladies,
as per suggestion in respect to the owner of the previous thread I’ve created a new (continued) thread for us.

@VT6 my Amazon leggings arrived today thanks for the recommendation! They are so comfy! I sized up so there's room to stretch but perfectly wearable now.
As my partner pointed out though I now need to size up my underwear as I have a terrible pant line digging into my hips 🤦🏽‍♀️ I'm not sure how when I have lost 5kg from the sickness but my belly is pretty large!

@rupertbear91 I’ve also lost weight from the sickness (about 6lbs, not sure what that is in kilos!) and I also need to invest in some new underwear! Mine are digging in at the crease at the top of my inside leg. No idea what size I would get though!

@Lillers I have been googling for the last 20 minutes and still none the wiser 😂 open to suggestions for anything comfy from others who aren't FTMs!

@rupertbear91 I’m pleased you’re happy with them!
I’ve got the next size up ready incase they go out of stock 😂

@NotGeorgina I know exactly what you mean by feeling almost depressed, I have never really suffered with mental health and really feel like these past few months have been awful, and I feel terrible about it because I'm so happy to be pregnant but feel so low and unmotivated with anything, I keep cancelling plans and just don't want to see anyone, was nothing like this with my first. I'm glad you are saying you feel better around 12 weeks ❤️

Are they kind of see through or thick? I really need some leggings but scared to order online in case they’re the type that go a bit see through on the bum!

Oh gosh, I’m so sorry you’re in the same boat. I’ve had 2 babies already and just NEVER felt like that before. The depressive episode did seem to ease up when I reached 12 weeks; how far along are you? And is your current child a girl or boy? My mum keeps saying I must be having a girl because of my low moods/it not matching my boy pregnancy’s but tbh I think it’s nonsense.

Although, saying that, I really agree with you on the cancelling plans and not wanting to see anyone. That part hasn’t eased up 🤣 Im seeing family this week and I just cba to even share the news. I can’t be bothered with the fuss and questions, I’d rather just see them quick then say bye. I genuinely think I might get to 5 months or something before we even tell our in-laws. I want to hibernate!

@NotGeorgina I'm just over 9 weeks so will be counting down until 12 weeks haha! I don't feel as sick today which has helped slightly to not feel like crap 😂 that's so strange that you say that's because I have a 11 month old boy! So maybe your mum is right haha, we are a very male dominated family though so in my head it's already a boy

I can't relate so much to this! We are having a first birthday party for my little boy next month and we're like ohhh we can tell everyone together in a cute revealing way now I've decided I'll just text them and tell them prior because I can't be bothered with the fuss at all , definitely with you with hibernating 😂 it's like someone has just swapped my personality 🤣

@NotGeorgina definitely not see through I did the squat test 😂

@NotGeorgina really glad you’ve started to feel better now you’re past the 12 week mark. When is your scan? I am 12 weeks today & have actually had the most productive day I’ve had in ages, so perhaps this will be the turning point for me too! 🤞🏼😊

@Decaffe hope you’re doing ok ❤️ It definitely is comforting knowing that we have this little online tribe going here and that any thoughts/feelings one of us is having, are almost definitely going to be shared with at least one other member. How far along are you now?

@Kofifi the self consciousness is very difficult for me too, you’re not alone and I’m sorry you’re going through it too 😓. I’ve spent the last 5-10 years trying to hide myself, wearing baggy/loose fit clothing and wearing dark colours etc. My tummy just feels generally big at the moment, there’s not a bump, I’m just big and bloated. I realised yesterday that when I was around my friends in the afternoon, and then family in the evening, I was subconsciously trying to hold my tummy in. I only realised when my stomach started cramping up in muscle spasms. So horrible knowing that even subconsciously I’m obviously feeling incredibly self conscious about my belly looking big, even though I’ve got every right to be growing! All day today I’ve been trying to stop myself from doing it as the cramping is really uncomfortable.

This is literally me @Bakerbean it’s so hard when you know the baby is the size of a kidney bean and your belly is bloated out. I had to tell people at work because I work in a higher risk job and need a risk assessment asap, colleagues would ask me how far along I am and I’d feel awkward saying so little weeks. It was literally just insane bloating, not the baby yet.

The muscle spasms though have caught me totally off guard this time. I never had them with my daughter, I get them all the time with this one. Out of nowhere it’ll be like someone has poked me in the belly making me jump.

Ive been wearing the fleece lined Primark leggings so far and they’re amazing, go right over my bloated belly. And have been amazing in the cold weather. Not much good for the warmer weather I hope we have coming though

@Bakerbean I’m 9w6d today. We have the NIPT next Sunday at 10w6d then my NHS scan will be at 12w1d.

The time is dragging so desperately slowly. I have convinced myself something will be terribly wrong. If I could sign myself off from work until the NHS scan I would happily do so. I cried earlier thinking how much I love this little bean already and how sad it is that as with everything to do with my fertility so far, I feel it’s going to all go wrong.

Oh I can jump onto the demotivation train. I’ve been so lazy and uninterested recently. On top of it all, I am suffering from low self esteem recently. I can feel and see myself becoming larger, gaining weight. Today I tried to wear one pair of low rise Diesel jeans I have. Couldn’t even close them, not even the zipper Other jeans that I bought when I didn’t even yet know I was pregnant (mid December) I can feel are getting tight around the tighs and closing the top button causes discomfort. I am ready for maternity clothing pretty much but I can’t help but dislike myself when my body is accumulating, but the belly is not big enough for me to look pregnant. Right now I just look like I’m falling out of my usual shape and it’s playing with my head a bit. 🐖💨

@Bakerbean I was advised and even gifted the Palmers stretch mark lotion. One person I know that gave birth in December was using it and said it worked wonders for her, she didn’t develop any stretch marks. Then only thing is I am not entirely sure when are we supposed to be starting to use the stretch mark creams. Now my belly doesn’t look big enough to be asking for any lotions tbh.

I definitely have no motivation aswel, never felt like this with my other kids, i could definitely hibernate for a few months.
I am feeling bloated too and none of my clothes fit, my fault though for putting weight on before i got pregnant but its now making me feel disgusting.
Been invited out for food next Sunday and no idea what I am going to wear

I picked up some creams and oils and bits on the £10 Tuesday deals at boots they had this week - keep an eye - start using them whenever you feel like it! Some were weleda organic oil and cream the rest were bump belly masks haha novelty but might be nice in the later stages or a hot august 😅

but the £10 deals were great sometimes they have baby/pregnancy bits and they even had spend £40 save an extra £5 online - So I saved over £50!

I used the palmers strech Mark tummy butter last time and didn't get any stretch marks :) but then I heard it genetics, I'm still going to use it this time though haha! Just incase it is the cream :D

I definitely think it’s genetics too.. but I’ll still lather myself up in some kind of oil/cream 😂

I remember getting a few stretch marks under my boobs after my milk came in, but thankfully they’ve pretty much disappeared, well for now lol. So don’t forget your boobs too!

I understand the angst over weight gain as well. I lost 5-6kg over the summer/autumn and was feeling more like myself after a 2yr period of eating too much sugary crap after my son was born. Now it's going back on!

Good to remember that our bodies are just doing what they're programmed to do to help support a baby - also once you do get a bump, it all balances out and you don't feel as chubby.

I kind of feel bad admitting it, but I’m uncomfortable about the thought of my body changing…weight gain, stretch marks, possibly I’ll never have the same body as before. I always struggled a bit with body image and was overweight for most parts of my life. I finally made some changes during the last years to reach a healthy weight, do a lot of exercise and I felt like my best self during these last couple of years. I’m grateful that I’m pregnant, but I just can’t get excited about my belly starting to grow like others….I worry that I’m really wrong for feeling like I feel.

Also on the low mood buzz :/ I want to lie in bed all day, hard with a part time job and a 3 year old. I've my big scan on Wednesday, I'm going to be more vocal this time around about my mood. I still need to get a blood test done so maybe I'm lacking in something too? I was literally scrapping by right through 1st pregnancy and afterwards, I never asked for help. There is such a thing as pre natal depression, we always think of these things post baby but I'm 13 weeks and my mood is sinking lower and lower. I was told at my 7 week private scan it's twins so not sure if I have hyper aniexty over this and just not acknowledging it. I was off work for a week and a half and I left the house once.
I work from home, off today because of sickly child but I am thinking I need to finish up early,around May just to clear my schedule and give me time to do what I need to do before I get too big/babies come. It doesn't help that we have zero family support and I just don't know how the next few months/years will go. Sorry, bit ranty 😫

@Cinai I was exactly the same as you with my first, don't feel bad about it :) it's completely normal to feel that way, My body did change but for the first time in my life I started respecting my body a lot more for giving me my baby boy, after I had him I wasn't happy with the way I looked so when I was well enough i started slowly exercising again and eating well and over the months the weight came off, now with my second I feel uncomfortable again with the thought of the weight gain etc. Again But it's not as in the front of my mind as it was the first time around

the further along you get In Your pregnancy you will start to love your belly growing :) it's hard to in the first few months because you can't feel them or anything but I promise I felt the same as you and ended up the most confident I have ever been in my body while I was pregnant x

Thank you for sharing your experience @hol92, this makes me feel better x

Girls I feel a combination of everything you’ve all said - so please don’t feel alone! Like @hol92 said, the further along you get and you start to feel the baby kick etc, the more accepting you’ll feel of your body. It is really is incredible what we can do as women!

I’ve felt low, unmotivated, cried ALOT. I’ve also just been prescribed antibiotics for a chest infection/high temperature so it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel lol. Hopefully after we all have our 12 week scans we’ll be able to put those worries to one side xx

Hello all, just had my private NT scan and baby is measuring ahead at 12+3. Feeling super grateful to have made it this far and I get to start weaning off my medication now (under RMC) --- very excited to stop having insomnia soon 🙏