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following on from the Due February 2024 thread 7.. now this shall be thread 8! For us all to continue our pregnancy&postpartum journey together 😊

Is anyone else's little one starting to seem like they'll want 7oz bottles?

He always used to leave a little bit so I knew he was full but now a few times a day he's drinking the lot & a bit cranky after like he wants more but then he falls asleep so not sure whether he's whinging for food or tiredness or a mix of both

My little boy is loving rolling from belly to back which is lovely that he's learned how but now I can't get him to do tummy time 🤣 He just rolls off his arms.

I’d love a later start so I can sleep and still have time to sort myself out! What is your concern with her wake time?

My 12 week old is going down at about 9/10 and up at 6. Sometimes waking at 3/4am.

if he’s consistently finishing the bottle and wants more it’s time to size up.

Oh, alongside monitoring weight gain as easy to over feed too.

@redxlondon probably sounds ridiculous but it just feels like it's too late and she should be awake earlier 🫣 I've stopped worrying about it to be honest and just going with the flow now.

Settling into a slightly earlier bedtime of 8.30-9pm and waking at around 8am with 1-2 feeds during the night. This is working quite well for me and I get to enjoy a peaceful coffee before wake time 🥰

@Cheetocat I'm having the same thing with the rolling during tummy time 😂 I love watching her do it but it's so tough to get her to focus on TT now!

I've just started trying to do a rough routine today as my little guy will be 12 weeks old on Friday, I can't believe it! I wanted him to eat and sleep whenever he wanted until now but I feel like he needs structure since he has started fighting sleep a bit more.

We got up at 8 and have been doing repeats of 1.5 hours awake and then 1.5 hours asleep and I feed him when he wakes, trying to feed to sleep less even though I love it. He's having his last nap now and I'll put him to bed in his sleep sack after the next wake window.

His naps are still all contact naps on me or my partner, we rock and shush him to sleep and he has a dummy too which we depend on to get him to sleep.

He still wakes multiple times a night if he's sleeping in his next to me and I'll usually change his nappy and feed him back to sleep and put him straight back in. I usually get around 6 hours of broken sleep so I'm hoping for some longer stretches soon.

He is on you for 1.5 hours each nap? On you let him fall asleep then move?

I’ve struggled today with naps, regular but very very short.

Hi all,

Anyone whose little ones have had 8/12 week jabs - did you find they were feeding less?

Worried that we haven't had a 'full' wet happy today 😢 they've all been fairly light. (12 week jabs were yesterday).

I'm just feeding on demand - hope my supply is okay as she has been quite fussy on the boob recently. I just assume she'll let me know if she's still hungry!

Thank you - that’s a cool design! I have a tummy time book from the Scottish baby box. He likes looking at it but not on his tummy 😅. I’ve been trying a water mat from Amazon too and propping him slightly up on a nursing pillow. I managed about 5 mins today before he got upset 🥳. At least the baby sling counts - I’ve been out walking with him a lot so hopefully that will help 🤞.

@RachLeeds I’ll let you know how the osteopath goes - I’m kind of curious if it will help or not myself.

@Cheetocat all our naps are
contact naps also and I was fine with this but she’s nearly 12 weeks now so feel I should prob get her used to sleeping in bassinet during the day I’m just at a loss on how to do this, any advice or tips from anyone?

I hold DD till she's asleep, wait till she's in a deep sleep and the trick is to put them down so bloody slow so they don't feel the drop and kick off their startle reflex.

And let her bum be the first thing to touch the bassinet @DmcinT - then slowly finish lowering her body down. I also keep my hand on my baby's tummy or the top of his head for a few extra seconds sometimes for reassurance if he looks like he might stir.

I do place him down slowly, bum first and keep my hands on him, then remove slowly but he still wakes up. Someone just told me to leave him with something that smells like me, I'm going to try it.

@Sunshineclouds11 @HopeAndStrength same i put her down so slow, bum first, have tried having a top of mine in with her etc.. and she might be fine for 3/4 mins but then wakes🥴🫣 she will also only go to sleep with me. Leaving her with her dad to go get nails/ hair etc done she will just stay awake with the eyes falling out of her head until I’m home😢 waiting to go to sleep

Thank you to who posted about the tummy time book, mine arrived today and little man loves it 😀

Is anyone else already scared for the four month sleep regression? My baby is a pretty good sleeper at night generally. I tend to put him down around 8pm and he wakes up for a feed at 4ish then back to sleep for a couple more hours. I've heard though they can start walking up every hour or so again when they get to four months. I don't know if there's any prep I can do now to help teaching him to settle himself? At the moment I feed to sleep at night but I've heard this isn't really good practice for the long term, but I don't really understand what I should do instead, feed him, then give him his bath then just plonk him in the crib awake and hope for the best?

To be fair I do pretty much just pop him in the crib during the day and let him fall asleep by himself, but then we use a dummy for naps whereas I'd rather he not have it at night.

Any thoughts from mums who have been through this before?

@LavenderSweetPea I dont think there’s any prep, some babies don’t regress so you might be lucky. I think it’s where they’re learning to connect sleep cycles so it’s a shift in their sleeping pattern so nothing can really be done other than ride the wave and find what works for you. I’d keep at your routines, whatever that looks like for you, and during the night keep stimulation to a minimum with low lights etc if waking increases. I also feed to sleep and will continue to do so, I personally am happy with that and it works for us - it did with my first as well and made the night times easier especially during any unsettled periods

Any new MIL dramas? I’m sure there were some recently and I was finding solace that I wasn’t the only one! The latest is she keeps pestering for us to leave the baby with her for a weekend, then when I said absolutely not she’s downgraded it to us staying in a hotel near where we live overnight! It’s f* potty. If I asked, and was ready to leave LO with her then fine, but I made it clear I didn’t want to, and used BF as one of the reasons. Same day she brought up about the weekend, I wasn’t eating but DH had served her and FIL lunch. Just as he dished up I took LO upstairs to change. She followed me up!! I politely reminded her lunch was on the table. She just ignored me and kept reaching past me over the changing mat to play with DS. In the end I had to forcibly tell her to leave the room and go get her lunch. Rude on her son who had just served (he found it so odd when I told him later, he thought she’d gone to the toilet), and just a bit weird for me.

Feeling happier that I’m now being firmer with her and communicating what I think, but I actually get heart palpitations whenever she does this s*

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@redxlondon mine keeps telling me things my DD can do like I don't know.

'I don't know if you've noticed she but she can do x'

Yeah no shit I'm with her 24/7.

Deffo have to be firm with them, I've learnt from my 1st how I need to be.

Did you accept the hotel stay but say you're taking DS? 🙊

Haha that would be hilarious. She wasn’t offering to pay for it, just trying to turf me out my own home after I said she couldn’t take the baby to her house!!
I’m really angry DH has agreed she can stay the night in a few weeks. It’s really unfair of me as my parents stay at the house sometimes, and for longer periods as they live very far away. I need to get over my anger but just can’t figure out a way to move forward. Every time I feel I try she does something new and crazy.

My little boy had surgery on Friday and it went well, he got his catheter taken out today and did some lovely wees, we will now wait for more tests and scans to see how much stress has been taken off his kidneys. We're already home today and he has been acting like his usual happy self, I'm so thankful.

She sounds a bit mental @redxlondon but I’d just try and be glad that she wants to do it, you might need her one day. Maybe I’m just jealous because my in-laws haven’t offered to babysit for even an hour… 🫠🥲😂

@redxlondon my in-laws have been lovely but I am getting tired of listening to FIL’s story of how when my partner was a baby they left him in a room for 11 nights alone to scream it out 🫣😬 - I get the distinct impression this was very early on too. i know this was the advice at the time but he kept saying things like making sure we are in control not the baby - um nope he’s just a baby.

however when we stayed overnight he did then say how surprised he was at how quiet baba was overnight.

@Cheetocat - awesome news - glad surgery went well. Hopefully it has worked 🤞