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MummyTo4BoysXXXX · 22/02/2024 15:14

following on from the Due February 2024 thread 7.. now this shall be thread 8! For us all to continue our pregnancy&postpartum journey together 😊

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Thewildthingsarewithme · 23/02/2024 09:54

Congratulations @Hawk901 she’s beautiful

CheeseAndCrackersx · 23/02/2024 11:22

Just gotta say; health visitors make you feel SHIT!!!

HopeAndStrength · 23/02/2024 15:28

Aww I hope you're okay @CheeseAndCrackersx
I think the waves of emotion are totally normal @MummyTo4BoysXXXX - our hormones are still in full flow post birth. My midwife said to expect random tears in the first few weeks but to speak to someone if it carries on after that. I'm almost 3 weeks now and starting to feel more like myself, but 1 week in I was crying if a soppy song came on the radio!

redxlondon · 23/02/2024 15:30

CheeseAndCrackersx · 23/02/2024 11:22

Just gotta say; health visitors make you feel SHIT!!!

Don’t they just!!! I’m sure there are good ones but the lack of f-ing emotion. Hope you’re okay?

MummyTo4BoysXXXX · 23/02/2024 15:41

@CheeseAndCrackersx hope your ok hun? Always here if you need to talk 💕

@HopeAndStrength thanks❤️ literally hour by hour today I have been clock watching & been like "would of been in labour room" "would of been on our way to hospital" etc this time last week & just feel so emotional about it, it's crazy isn't it what post birth does to you x

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Bookwormmumuk · 23/02/2024 15:44

I'm still waiting on little one to make an appearance I have been a bit crampy today but it's not coming to anything. If she hasn't come over the weekend I'm up at hospital on Monday for a sweep to try and kick it off.

undercoverhero74 · 23/02/2024 18:14

@Bookwormmumuk I'm still waiting too. My next midwife app is Tuesday so if still no baby I'll give a sweep a go. Good luck

CheeseAndCrackersx · 23/02/2024 20:06

Yeah I'm ok thank you, ladies.
She was just very patronising.

Basically I pre make up little man's bottles and store them in the fridge for no more than 24 hours and heat up when needed with his bottle warmer, that's all wrong apparently and will make him ill so she made me feel like I'm a rubbish mum.

Hotpolarbear · 23/02/2024 20:40

8 days on from having my little boy. Very quick labour which resulted in a tear and cut. Extremely sore still. Anyone know how long the pain usually lasts?

Mummapenguin20 · 23/02/2024 21:33

@CheeseAndCrackersx do not let her make you feel like that. Do things your way as long as you don’t put them in the fridge hot and use within 24 hours they’re fine. My hv was lovely didn’t even ask how I make bottles litrally checked little man and told me it’s my 4th baby I know everything I’m doing and I make handsome babies lol xxx

Mummapenguin20 · 23/02/2024 21:34

@Hotpolarbear i tore in my last Labour took about 18 days to pee without pain xx

CheeseAndCrackersx · 23/02/2024 21:39

Thank you @Mummapenguin20 🩵 means a lot to have you say that.

I guess it's gonna be the norm to be told so many different rights or wrongs. I know for next week to say nothing 😄

Mummapenguin20 · 23/02/2024 21:59

@CheeseAndCrackersx in the last two weeks I’ve had 3 different midwife’s and a hv and they all tell you different. The best ones are ones that have children. It’s your baby. Your choice you know what’s best for him. I have a prep machine for day time n ready made bottles over night. Everyone does what works for them and every baby is different. Like I said in my previous post as long as you do it safely and baby isn’t being sick lots it’s fine xx

Hotpolarbear · 23/02/2024 22:14

@Mummapenguin20
18 days!! In for a long ride then. First baby who's head was bigger (she is now 12) was no where near as painful.

@CheeseAndCrackersx everyone I've seen has given me different advice. All bar one who I found extremely rude (did 5 day screenings), has told me as long as my baby is fed and happy that is all that matters. I've found it quite reassuring as when my dd was a baby everyone kept trying to push breastfeeding onto me which I did not want to do.

Mummapenguin20 · 23/02/2024 22:59

@Hotpolarbear we all heal differently hun. This baby’s head was bigger than the last not even a graze yet last one was a 3rd degree tear xx

PeeBeee · 24/02/2024 01:00

Thanks for creating the new thread @MummyTo4BoysXXXX

I had my little girl on the 21.2.24 via ELCS at 39+1 weighing a whopping 9lb3oz

I will go back and read the thread now whilst the boob monster is feeding!

Thewildthingsarewithme · 24/02/2024 01:31

Wow @PeeBeee what a weight! Congratulations, also currently feeding my little boob monster 😂

Ebonythoughts · 24/02/2024 06:33

Ladies, last night was the worst night since baby was born a week ago. I breastfed her and tried to get her settled and she was fussy so I assumed the breastmilk wasn’t enough and topped off with formula… she vomited all over her sheets so I assume I overfed her 🥺 I think tried to get her settled again but she was still fussing and now crying too. I winded her to make sure it wasn’t trapped wind and then put her back on the breast to comfort but she carried on crying.

From midnight to 6am this morning I’ve been trying to settle her and I think the only reason she’s asleep now is exhaustion. I feel awful that I couldn’t comfort her and that something was bothering her. Also, with combi- feeding I can’t tell when she needs the formula and how much formula to give when she’s been on the breast already?

Any advice please? I am exhausted

RachLeeds · 24/02/2024 07:29

@Ebonythoughts I’m using formula so I can’t comment regarding feeding advice but my baby had 2 bad nights out of the blue at the same age - he was very fussy/hardly slept all night and I was thinking oh no is this going to be his new normal?? However, he soon went back to his normal self. This did seem to coincide with a massive growth spurt so not sure if that was the cause.

Ihatewinding · 24/02/2024 08:30

@Ebonythoughts that sounds really rough, especially when overnight and less help available. I struggle to wind my baby and my DH is much better than me but don't want to interrupt his sleep too much.

Controversial but I'm not sure if it's as I enforce a cut off point but my baby doesn't really cluster feed. If he's fed 20-40mins with a nappy change in between boobs to perk him up, my boobs have gone from full to soft and he keeps slipping to nipple or unlatching himself despite winding then he gets handed to my DH to settle with instructions to hold him upright for 30 mins (helps with wind and reflux) and get him to sleep for minimum 1 hour (includes any sleep in the upright period) using sling, dummy, etc much rocking and shushing to accomplish it. I then go sleep and might get 1-2h. My supply seems fine, plenty of wet and dirty nappies but obviously YMMV but can't hurt as a one off?

If he vomited after the formula then doesn't sound like he needed it. I saw an infographic about measuring wet nappies to gauge if can reduce formula top ups, will see if if can find it - basically aiming 5-6 wees 45-60ml but if far exceeding that then can reduce the formula as defo getting enough. If weigh wet nappy then take off weight of dry nappy then get ml in grams (minus a bit for any poop).

There is a growth spurt at 7-10 days so it could be that but if no let up then see what you think about trying above. But I find the 5 mins on boob half assed then few mins microsleep then back on boob for 5 mins means it's relentless and I get no sleep so not sustainable. I've done this from day 6 and had good weight gain at day 10 review. I measured the nappies for reassurance but might be seen as overboard. And I use an app called Huckleberry to help me time feeds and monitor his output.

I have a weight check in a couple of weeks so will know then if I've buggered my supply I guess! 🙈
But as long as he feeds well, sleeps well with decent nappies and alert spells then gonna continue.

redxlondon · 24/02/2024 09:15

Ebonythoughts · 24/02/2024 06:33

Ladies, last night was the worst night since baby was born a week ago. I breastfed her and tried to get her settled and she was fussy so I assumed the breastmilk wasn’t enough and topped off with formula… she vomited all over her sheets so I assume I overfed her 🥺 I think tried to get her settled again but she was still fussing and now crying too. I winded her to make sure it wasn’t trapped wind and then put her back on the breast to comfort but she carried on crying.

From midnight to 6am this morning I’ve been trying to settle her and I think the only reason she’s asleep now is exhaustion. I feel awful that I couldn’t comfort her and that something was bothering her. Also, with combi- feeding I can’t tell when she needs the formula and how much formula to give when she’s been on the breast already?

Any advice please? I am exhausted

Was it full vomiting, or just posseting? Posseting a small amount is very normal. If projectile full vomiting worth speaking to GP.

My baby had this at a week old, and has had some ravenous evenings. It does seem to coincide with growth spurts. He’s suddenly lept from 30ml to 100ml bottles. Fingers crossed you get a peaceful night tonight or tomorrow.

Also - the lady whose HV said not to make up feeds in advance. Honestly, F THAT!! I’m sorry but how the hell are you meant to make feeds fresh in middle of night when it takes at least 45 minutes with the boiling water and cool down process. Ridiculous. Sterilised bottles and safe storage will not hurt baby. The whole making up fresh is a very new concept…and none of us were ill from pre made formula I bet!

anony1111 · 24/02/2024 09:46

Congratulations @Hawk901 and @PeeBeee hope you and baby are both doing well 💕

@CheeseAndCrackersx please don't let the HV make you feel like a bad mum, you are far from it! It's actually on the NHS website that formula can be stored in the fridge for upto 24hours. As long as your baby is happy, fed and content then do what is right for you.

RachLeeds · 24/02/2024 10:34

You can’t win because they say not to use the prep machines either! 😝

Ihatewinding · 24/02/2024 10:55

@KayakingBex here's the new thread just in case you don't get replies on the other one!
If you're gluten free, can you have oats or not? You can get some really good oat based energy balls recipes online, can look for those labelled as lactation bites as they contain other stuff that can up milk production. Make a load, put in freezer and take some out each evening to take to bed to get through the night feeds ☺️ why does your HV think your milk is deficient though?

CalFairy · 24/02/2024 11:43

Hi ladies. So I’ve been combi feeding due to baby having an 11% weight loss, midwife thinks was mostly fluid after section and some BF issues we had early. She has now regained weight and midwife said I can reduce formula top ups, but I’m so confused how I know she’s getting enough from just my boob? I tried last night without top ups and she was dead restless, wouldn’t sleep for long and constantly looking for more, is this just due to cluster feeding and not feeling unsatisfied? And with formula feed how do I know when to increase the amount? It’s honestly a minefield I had no idea about all the different issues I’d encounter with feeding.

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