💙🩷From Bumps 2 Babies & Beyond!🤰👶🍼🤱🤱

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following on from the Due February 2024 thread 7.. now this shall be thread 8! For us all to continue our pregnancy&postpartum journey together 😊

Hi all,

I’m worried about baby girl but getting conflicting information so not sure if I’m over reacting. She’s 7 weeks old now and for the past two nights and days she has been sleeping a lot more (4 hour blocks at night and 2 hours during the day). This wouldn’t worry me but she’s also not feeding as much as usual. I’ve been combi feeding but she’s refused the bottle entirely and I’ve been having to solely breastfeed when she gives hunger queues. I don’t mind but she’s been drinking 5oz and I know when it’s solely breast she won’t get that because my supply has always been quite low, to the point I can’t express more than 1oz so I can express enough for anyone else to feed her. It’s exhausting but more than anything I’m just worried she’s super tired and not getting as much milk as usual. She is producing wet nappies but she hasn’t pooed in over 24 hours. My mum said she’s going through a growth spurt and this is normal but my sister said if there’s a drastic change in her feeding then speak to the health visitor.

Any advice from those who may have experienced this or similar before? Am I overreacting?

@Ebonythoughts I too had these worries around 7 weeks, baby didn't drink as much as slept more I thought she was lethargic from lack of food. From what I gather it's totally normal and could be a growth spurt, she's completely back to normal now and getting more alert each day so could have been a growth spurt!

@Ebonythoughts also pumping has no reflection on your supply, baby can get more out than a pump ever could. If babies content and not looking more I'd say they are getting plenty.

I think the other advice posted in reply all makes sense, I wouldn’t worry about the poo delay if she’s having wet nappies, it happens. As long as she is having some alert periods, and not floppy / lethargic they can vary drastically week by week how they sleep. Do call your health visitor though as there may be info you haven’t shared / we haven’t asked / experience no one here has.
The best way to check if she’s getting enough is her weight, you could go to having weekly weigh ins if you’re concerned? Check she’s gaining.

Those whose little ones have had their first jabs, which Calpol did you give?

My HV said to give age 0 but I can't find it anywhere so got 2month+.
She's going to be 9 weeks this week so I'm not sure what the difference is?

Can't remember what I done with my first.

I've bought the 2 month 1 too @Sunshineclouds11 I'm sure that's the only one young enough. Little man has his on Wednesday 🙈

Yeah mine had the 2 month Calpol for his first jabs last week (he was 8.5 weeks old). He spiked a high temperature and it really helped.

Thank you both!

This is probably going to be the most ridiculous question of this thread but do you guys all think your babies are incredibly beautiful? I do, when I look round a room at baby groups I can't help but think that mine is the most gorgeous of the lot. I can't decide if every mum genuinely thinks this, or if I happen to have a particularly cute baby 😅😂

Not that it matters, but I've not been particularly blessed in the looks department, and I'd like to think my boy is going to be luckier than me in that respect!

@LavenderSweetPea We talk about this every day, we can't believe how beautiful our son is and we think he was born way more good looking than other babies. Other people comment on how beautiful he is, even medical professionals but surely they say that to everyone?

AIBU..

A few weeks ago my husband made a joke about how I didn't 'really push' and give birth due to having an assisted delivery (episiotomy and suction). I got really upset and told him how hurtful this was even if it was a joke.

He made a similar comment yesterday and is now trying to explain it as 'well it's scientific... you had help therefore it technically was assisted and different to other births'.

I'm getting really upset about these comments.. as if he doesn't recognise how difficult of a process it was regardless. As my husband I expect him to be in awe of me and have a newfound respect for his wife going through labour and childbirth.

@msp2023 not being unreasonable - it was a stupid comment to make a few weeks ago, but I could forgive him for not understanding, but you explained why it was hurtful to you. The fact he's said the same thing again, knowing how you feel is just unkind.

Anyway, surely he's totally wrong as well. A medically assisted birth is surely MORE challenging than an unassisted one. And you're right, in any case he should be in awe of you successfully carrying a pregnancy, delivering a baby, recovering from birth and caring for a newborn. Would he feel that you 'didn't really push' if you were one of those people who's babies just fall out after one push?

Anyone else's little one just constantly overtired?
He hardly sleeps in the day, about 5 mins here or there if lucky. At night he sleeps from about 10/11 til 2/3 then he's waking every 2 hours til about 10 then we're up for the day cos he doesn't want to remain in bed.

I feel so stuck what to do

They definitely don’t, there are some weird looking babies 😂😂

@CheeseAndCrackersx Yes, our little one is always overtired lately and is so hard to keep asleep, he finds it so hard to let go and get some rest even when he's exhausted. When we finally help him out he'll sleep for a few minutes and then wake again. His startle reflex is so bad too, it always wakes him but he refuses to have his arms restrained, he'll literally fully wake up grunting and crying using all his force trying to free his arms, then when they're out he's startling and waking constantly. We can't win. 🤣

@msp2023 you are not being unreasonable. I feel mad on your behalf!

@Ebonythoughts I had problems with feeding at the start (baby wasnt getting enough from me as my milk production was delayed and latch was bad due to flat nipples) so I know some of the warning signs now. So long as you are getting plenty of wet nappies, there’s no rust spots in them and baby is gaining weight baby is probably getting enough. If you are worried though ask - they’ll hopefully at least reassure you.

@Cheetocat does he also cry hysterically cos of being overtired? Like a pain cry. I think that's the worst part 🙈

@LavenderSweetPea no, my Daughter was not cute when born, it actually took me a while to get a decent photo to show anyone 🤣 sounds awful but she was a large diabeties baby just like my son and I knew her at birth wasn't how she was going to look. She's definitely cute now tho 💕

@CheeseAndCrackersx my girl does a bad pain cry when tired, it set my anxiety off the first while as I thought there was something wrong. Then I caught on an realised she was tired, that cry still gets me tho.

Yeah it makes me anxious too @Kirstylvsya but mostly cos I worry my neighbours will think I'm leaving him to cry or something like that 🙈 daft I know. But the smallest things make me think people will think I'm a bad mum

Does anyone know how long the postpartum sweating is meant to last? I'm quite a sweaty person due to meds I take so this on top is pretty gross 🙈😂

@LavenderSweetPea mine wasn't cute when born either - she was very chubby! Everyone told me she was cute though. She is cute now. My son was not a cute baby as a newborn either and we struggled to get good pics of him for the thank you cards 🤣 a blunt friend said he wasn't v cute also. however he's very cute now and people tell me he is

@msp2023 I had an unassisted birth first time and assisted (emergency c sec) this time, and the assisted was way way harder, as has been the recovery. Way harder than a straightforward birth. My partner makes jokes about her coming out through the sunroof

@LavenderSweetPea
@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7

Thanks both! I've had words and he understands how very very unfunny it is and how annoyed I was.
I'm still recovering 10 weeks later - stitches haven't healed properly and I have a granuloma 😞

But anyway!
How are you ladies getting things done around the house? Baby girl wants attention / to be held when she's awake. Finding it impossible to cook/clean etc

@msp2023 also looking at the nhs stats, only 52% of babies born (in 2022) were unassisted vaginal births. 11% instrumental and the rest elective or emergency c section. There's no normal and a lot of us (almost 50%) require some help.

Recovery sucks if you've gotten injured during it. Hope you're feeling better soon