💙🩷From Bumps 2 Babies & Beyond!🤰👶🍼🤱🤱

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following on from the Due February 2024 thread 7.. now this shall be thread 8! For us all to continue our pregnancy&postpartum journey together 😊

@msp2023 same; I worry sick over it! How is nighttime sleep for yous?

My baby became much more alert at just over 6 weeks old, literally like a flip switched overnight. The wonder weeks app is really good at telling you about milestones/skills your baby will be learning and it’s been bang on for Charlie. It goes on your due date, so if your baby is 9 weeks old but was born 3 weeks earlier the app will class them as 6 weeks old if that makes sense. I would definitely recommend downloading it! ☺️

Sleeping for 8-9h straight before waking for feeding. Then another lazy nap before waking for a little bit of alert time!
I'm going to track the wake windows tomorrow to see how many hours she's actually alert for! Then do some more research and worrying...
Oh the joys!

@msp2023 keep me updated we are exactly the same. What time is last bottle before bed? Mine takes hers around 6 sometimes 7 then bed, I'd love her to stay up a bit and have another one but if I try we get witching hours because she wants to sleep 🤣 that's another worry, that she's drinking enough, she only takes 4oz a go and 5 bottles max, what does yours take? I have no one in real life with babies so no one to compare with.

My partner went to pick up dinner from my MIL yesterday while I was alone with the baby, he knew baby was cluster feeding and I hadn't eaten in 9 hours, I also found a little blood on baby's face under his nostril while he was feeding. Rang partner to figure out why he was taking so long and to tell him I was concerned about the blood, he said "what do you want me to do, come home and breastfeed him?" - I hung up the phone immediately at that attitude and we've barely said a word to each other since, he slept on the edge of the bed to avoid touching me as if I was diseased. I can't do this without feeling like someone cares about me and I left my entire life, friends and family to move to partners country 8 years ago so we could be together.

@Kirstylvsya I'm combo feeding - mainly breast with three x 3oz topics throughout the day. We have final feed (breast and 3oz) at around 9.30-10pm, then she's out until 6/7am. Up for a breastfeed again and then sleeps for a few more hours.

We also had jabs on the Wednesday just gone and will admit I think she's sleepier since those. Before then we were getting a total of 8ish wake hours throughout the day (and it didn't feel like it until I actively counted!)

Will let you know the wake hours we get tomorrow!

@Cheetocat I'm so sorry my love :( that sounds horrible to deal with you and I don't blame you for your response whatsoever.
I understand that our partners don't always understand our worries or stressed but it does sound like he's being so unreasonable and rude to be honest.

Do you have anybody here at all that can support you?

@msp2023 Thank you, I'll admit that I'm grumpy with him sometimes when I'm sleep deprived and hangry but he's just taking it to another level, we're raising a baby together and he's behaving this way.

I have nobody else, I am not very good at socialising, I have never really known how to make friends, it can be very lonely but usually I'm content just having my partner. I have people that I get along with but no actual friends who I could seek support from in the area.

@Cheetocat you don't have to explain yourself darling. Being a new mum, breastfeeding, barely sleeping and not being able to eat for multiple hours on end; this has a huge toll on a woman!! Shouldn't even have to explain this to our partners let alone deal with attitude from them! You don't deserve that my love.

Have you thought about articulating your thoughts and feelings to him - maybe in a written message or letter as it can be easier to get all your thoughts together before expressing them.

What about joining local baby and mum groups? Hopefully there are some in the area.. or sensory/music/feeding support groups. Could help to meet other new mums and maybe make some friends.
This group is always here but it isn't the same as having people in the physical world x

Does anyone use the rapid cool?
Unsure whether to invest cos the tommee tipper bottle warmer is hopeless with bigger size bottles

I love ours!

@CheeseAndCrackersx FYI the rapid cool is currently £20 @ Asda in the baby event x

Love the rapid cool @CheeseAndCrackersx , def worth the money!

Thank you all 😃 I will defo get 1 xx

@Cheetocat I'm so sorry. Are you okay now? How come you hadn't eaten for 9 hours? You poor thing. I think sometimes when you're in it it's really hard to see. But it's okay to put baby down to make time to get food, even if they're crying. You need enough fuel for yourself, and to prioritise yourself a bit. Esp when breastfeeding.

It's so tough to have moved away from your support networks too. If you can get out to some groups and be around people in the same situation, it should make you feel a lot better. I know it does for me, everyone's going through similar things

I’m feeling frustrated with my GP office this morning. Called nearly 2 weeks ago to query little ones vaccinations as hadn’t had a letter yet. Was told to wait for the letter. Little one will be 8 weeks on Sunday so I called again to query lack of letter and got told I didn’t need a letter and just to get booked in but now they can only book me in on the 23rd so his vaccinations will be late.

Queried my 6-8 week check where they are supposed to check my stitches but they insisted they can only book me in for a telephone consultation which seems daft.

I’m sure it will all work out fine just frustrated that I called ahead of time and still got delayed.

@Cheetocat - I am so sorry your partner is not being supportive. I’ll second what was said above - putting the baby down for a few minutes to make yourself some food and a drink is ok although I know it’s hard. I’ve had to do it a few times when my husband was away for a business trip. You are important too. virtual hugs

We talked a bit and there's less hostility now but it's not fully resolved. I started a post natal class yesterday that will go for five weeks, it was lovely and it's nice to be around people with babies the same age.

@Cheetocat that's good that you've started a class. I also moved to an area where I don't know many people, and have found it good to meet some mums with babies at a similar stage.

My little one had his first vaccinations yesterday lunchtime and was quite upset with a high temperature in the evening. Thankfully he is much better today, just sleepy.

@Kirstylvsya hey love, I've been counting around 8-9h wake time through the day. I admit it feels like way less than this so maybe try properly counting and it may make you feel better!
I'm trying to read less about what they should be doing week by week and just going with it. Easier said than done!

@Cheetocat glad to hear that! Hopefully the classes really help cheer you up. Keep telling your husband what you need, when you need it etc. Don't give him the choice, firmly tell him when you need a break/to eat, shower etc and that he has to take over during that time. You can do it!

@msp2023 just as we were talking the other day she became more awake, the last 2 days she's been awake lots which helps.

Hv was out today and she hasn't gained any weight from last week so that's my next worry. Always something!!

@Cheetocat glad you have found a group to join. Hope it helps and I hope your husband starts being more understanding and supportive.

@Cheetocat glad to hear you found a group to join and hope things get easier. I’m searching for a group too. We came to stay with my family in another city for the birth because of my c-section recovery and ultimately decided to move here because we were alone where we live and realised how much we needed family support. My sisters jn particular have been the biggest supports for me because there are just some things about this process I feel my husband will not understand I need other women to talk to… I am now also looking for mums with newborns to connect with in the city so I can get some social time with people who are experiencing similar exhaustions lol. I hope we all have/can find access to the sources of support we need because taking care of newborn is hard.

I’m trying to get back into some self- care because squeezing a quick shower is the best I’ve been able to do that’s been far from relaxing. I’m desperate for a massage but I’m 6 weeks post c-section and not sure how long I should wait. How long did those of you who have had a c-section wait before going for a massage and/wax?

@Cheetocat anf @Ebonythoughts absolutely agree mum groups and ppl going through the same thing as u is so important in this. We are starting baby massage next weeek and I’m mainly looking forward to meeting other mums.
I also had a CS and have a massage booked for week after next (9.5 weeks PP) hoping that’ll be ok but she specialises in post natal massage so I’m trusting she knows what the do and not do.

LO 7.5 weeks now and deff growth spurt happening, she’s feeding and sleeping with very little wake windows the last 2/3 days, anyone the same? The babbling and story telling with little giggles has started too, the cutest thing

@CharXo did you get any further forward with CMPA diagnosis x

@Meeting I took him back to the doctors Tuesday as his poo went dark green and really watery. Finally got to see a really lovely doctor who has prescribed us the nutramigen and booked us a follow up appointment next Friday to see how he’s getting on with it. I feel like I can already see a difference in him though!
vaccinations this afternoon I’m dreading it!
Thank you so much for checking in and asking 😀