💙🩷From Bumps 2 Babies & Beyond!🤰👶🍼🤱🤱

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following on from the Due February 2024 thread 7.. now this shall be thread 8! For us all to continue our pregnancy&postpartum journey together 😊

Also, that’s SO young, it’s a personal choice an no judgement to people who do that but no way for me. Sleepovers are for children aware of what they are surely.

Can someone please explain colic crying, google confuses me what it means and I dunno if little man has it or not

MIL's are a treat aren't they 🫠

@DmcinT there is absolutely no benefit for your baby being away from you at this age. If you wanted/needed the break then great, but if you don’t then there is no benefit to you either, so the only person benefitting if your MIL. This is actually really selfish because she wants your baby for her, not because it’s the best thing for baby or to give you a break and I’d say this although possibly framed in a nicer way depending on whether you still want to talk to her 😂

My MIL only refers to coming over for “cuddles” it does my f-ing head in. Nothing else, that’s all she wants to do.

@DmcinT that is bonkers to me, stand your ground with MIL but more importantly I hope your DH can talk to her and get her to back off.
I'm sure you'll be grateful for this sort of childcare in future but not yet!
I've made plans for my own mum to look after my two kids for the first time when baby will be 12 weeks, so I can go see my dh play a gig locally, but we'll still be staying at her house that night with them too. My older daughter stays there a lot but we didn't leave her overnight for the first time until she was nearly one. Everyone is different in when they'd want to do that obviously and no judgement on what anyone does so long as kids are being looked after but I think most would agree a few weeks old is too soon/unusual.

Thanks for everyone’s take on it, it’s nice to know I’m not the only ‘too attached’ mum😅 also I’m EBF so not sure how she thinks she would feed her. I get on great with MIL but this has really bugged me & now I’m finding alot of things she does annoy me 😵‍💫🫣
anyways I think I just needed a good rant and I’m sure in a few months or years I’ll be delighted to have that form of support or help.

Does anyone else’s c-section scars randomly hurt? I’m 6 weeks pp and get random twinges of pain on and around my scar. It looks healed so I think it’s beneath the surface. Is this normal?

Also currently fighting to get an iron infusion because I have doctors saying I’m anaemic and left a lot of blood with heavy menstrual cycle after pp bleeding but advising that I just have high dosage tablets, even though my records show years of being anaemic and my body not absorbing iron tablets efficiently. I’ve had two infusions privately in the past because GP refused to refer me for one but I thought being pp they would prioritise it. Why is the NHS so reluctant to offer iron infusions to new mums? A friend of mine had the same situation and ended up getting it privately. I might have to do the same but it’s £700 for an iron infusions privately and I really don’t think that’s fair.

My MIL is very clingy to baby as well, we have decided to limit his contact with people a bit more than we were and she's like a lost puppy. She insists on funding all of his nappies and wipes which partner is delighted about but it makes me feel like I owe her something. That whole side of the family is a bit strange about the baby in general, they put on a voice and speak for him or narrate everything that he's doing even if he's just lying there. They want to watch him breastfeeding and they want to watch every nappy change. I know they love him deeply but it's a lot.

@CalFairy - my wee one sleep cries as well. I read somewhere it can happen when they are switching phases of sleep. I always feel like a bad mother when he does it around other people and I’m not immediately picking him up but I know he’s not actually awake and it only lasts a minute then he’s peaceful again.

@CheeseAndCrackersx - yes I got sore down below while walking around 4/5 weeks post partum. It did improve though. And same about photos of myself and wee one - I think I look rubbish in all of them.

@DmcinT - that’s horrible that she’s pressuring you. Absolutely a personal choice and besides I think most babies that age want to be close to mama. I think mine (7weeks) is only just starting to get to a point where I might be able to leave him with someone for a couple of hours but definitely not all night. Maybe she’s from the generation that got told to leave them to cry to sleep train? Even so should not be pressuring you.

@Cheetocat watch him breastfeed is too much!! That’s a bit crazy!! I’d happily let them change nappies.

I’ve already had family trying to get dips on Christmas Day! I feel like saying we will go to the house who changes the most nappies 🤞🤣

TMI - I got my first period and it’s been sooo much lighter than usual. I previously had awful, heavy, anaemia inducing ones, so I expected it to be horrific but pleasantly surprised and hope it stays this way!!!

@DmcinT I wouldn't be comfortable leaving baby overnight yet, unless I really had to for an emergency or something. I love hearing his newborn noises whilst he's sleeping, and would probably panic without him being close by.

@msp2023 we've got our first jab this week, hope your little one is OK.

Blue eyes at the moment @CharXo but I believe that may change as he gets older? His daddy is blue and mine are hazel.

Hope everyone had a lovely Easter weekend! 🐣🐰🍫

Such a cutie @RachLeeds 🩵

@RachLeeds beautiful! Happy Easter!

@RachLeeds so beautiful! Hope you had a lovely Easter everyone!

so cute @RachLeeds 💕

How are we all doing?

@CheeseAndCrackersx - yeah my wound is sore, 4.5 weeks later. Actually started bleeding at a few points and turns out it’s my internal stitches poking through, so getting them trimmed bank then yanked out when ready - that will be fun! 😳

For all those with mother in law issues, just kindly point out the mistakes they made with theirs. Well you are living with them so you will know them perfectly 😂

That ought to shut them up or start ww3 😳😂

I like your thinking @AllAboardTootToot although mine is always right and has never made a mistake in her life...

Don’t envy you @Meeting !

as much as my mother in law was ok, I’m glad she’s not around when we had a baby! that sounds mean to type but seeing the posts on here, I can’t help but feel that way! 🙈

@Meeting my MIL must be related to urs because same 😂

I actually get on great with my MIL (been in each others life’s since I was a child) but I find recent comments unnecessary. I know she’s frustrated she can’t have my baby🙄😵‍💫 but she really need to think before she comments. Jealous of ur distance @AllAboardTootToot 😂

I’m not doing a seance to bring her back @DmcinT 😂😂

Anyone else got a sleepy baby? 8 weeks now and still pretty much sleeps and eats, I've done numerous googles wondering if it's normal and I gather it is but wow! Don't get me wrong she is getting more awake (the odd time will be awake longer after a bottle) but not for long. She was 3 weeks early if that matters.

Yes!! 9 weeks today and still many long naps during the day. I spend all day worrying about it 🥲