October 2024 Babies thread 2 👶

[Nic2908]

Seems we got to the end of a thread. Not sure if a new one has been set up.

The anxiety of the wait before appointments is unreal. My anxiety is bad enough in general but this is something else.

My first midwife appt is on Friday and my plan was to consider a private reassurance scan sometime in the week following that but the last day or so my symptoms have all but vanished and whilst I know that can happen and it’s fairly normal and I’ve had no spotting etc, it’s really stressing me out so I’ve booked an early scan for tomorrow which will be 7 weeks exactly.

Now I’ve booked it though, I’m scared 😩😂 up until now I’ve been trusting those positive tests but not wanting to believe it in case I get my hopes up. A scan is a confirmation either way!

Too many emotions 😂😂😂

@Nervous764367 Sending you a massive hug. It's not easy and there is no right or wrong answer. Just do what feels best for you. I completely agree with you, how loss turns us a bit crazy. It's so cruel. It steals so much joy and excitement.

Hoping everything works out well for you. Sounds like you've had a rough trot of it and deserve your happy ending. Xx

I'm feeling super anxious too. Every niggle I'm thinking something is wrong. I'm desperate to tell folk after losing our daughter, last october as it'll Cheer everyone up. Especially my kids who also had to deal with the loss and my grief but I'm soooo scared that if I do and anything goes wrong it'll be another loss to deal with.
My midwife at fetal medicine for last pregnancy has booked me in for an 8/9 week scan on 28th March but it's so far away and I'm tempted to call EPU to get a scan soon for some reassurance!

I'm driving myself crazy here (TMI) I'm weeing constantly and dread every trip incase I wipe and see red 😭 I've went so mental that I just stopped going to work last week. I know that's crazy and I realise I've probably lost my mind but I'm terrified to put any stress on little seed! 😫

@Willow2023 anxiety is actually the worst ‘symptom’ isn’t it. The days feel so long.

I feel you on the trips to the loo and the wiping 😩

The work thing is difficult, I know if I can get stuck in, work is the perfect way to pass the days quickly however my mind just wanders and can’t focus.

Sending you lots of happy and calming vibes, I just try to think of how quickly a month passes when you reflect on it, and a month from now we’ll be saying, how is it already nearly April! Xx

@GingerCactus
It's awful! It's weird as I don't remember ever being in the slightest bit anxious with my teens. I don't think I knew much about pregnancy difficulties plus I was so young and naive then! I called EPU and waiting on call back, if I can get an early scan then I'm taking it. 🙏 xx

I still can’t decide whether to fly long haul for work next week to Asia. Technically I know if something goes wrong again it won’t be because of that but then equally I don’t really fancy anything going wrong and being so far from him.

im normally really decisive!

@Mitsky Does work know you're pregnant? Do they have good medical insurance cover for you when you're abroad? I guess it comes down to the country you're headed to. What sort of medical system do they have and how comfortable you feel with it.

I'm flying long haul 2nd trimester. Trip was booked before we knew I was pregnant and I'm not cancelling. Hubby will just have to do the heavy lifting and wrangling of our toddler 😂

If you feel up for it morning sickness wise I would - sounds like an exciting trip and something that will be harder to do later on in pregnancy or post baby!

On the subject of morning sickness - does anyone else's randomly come and go? I was away this weekend and did much more than I have been doing and I broadly felt fine. However this morning I was on the way to work and didn't have breakfast as there was nothing in the house and almost threw up on the street! Had to do an emergency stop for breakfast - I'd never eat it before 10 normally.

Seems like being out and about and distracted helps me - even if feels the wrong thing to do!

Hey ladies sorry I’ve been a bit quiet, work has been hectic! I’ve got my scan booked for 4pm tomorrow and I’m feeling so anxious now!

We went for a scan a couple of weeks ago but I was only just 6 weeks (irregular cycles means I wasn’t sure in my dates). Couldn’t see a fetal pole yet but the sonographer wasn’t concerned and just said we’d wait a week and rescan me. Was supposed to go back but the scan place has messed us around and cancelled on us twice for various reasons so I’ve rebooked to go elsewhere. Now irrationally worrying the baby won’t have grown or something will be wrong! I should be just over 8 weeks now so got everything crossed we see a heartbeat tomorrow and I can relax a bit!

In regards to the the early scans, I never had with last pregnancy and ended up having a mmc. I was gutted I never got to see my nugget. So vowed next time I would have an early scan, and that's in a week for me. But everyone is different and no right or wrong to weather you want one or not.

I've had the midwife call me this morning. I've got a booking appointment on the 12th march at a local birthing centre and a 15week appointment (even though I've got me down as 13w+3) on the 15th April.
Going to be a long wait! But looking forward and hoping 🙏

@Joey2011 I've got my booking appointment on 16th March at a local birthing centre - they called me today 🙊🥰 I'm only 5+1 right now (based on first day of LMP) so I'll be 8 weeks at my booking appointment xxx

@Willow2023 sorry to hear about your anxiety. It's awful, isn't it. I agree, would work provide some distraction for you?

@Mitsky I would echo @Oct24 questions about insurance etc. I think it also depends on the country. I'd be fine if I needed medical advice when I was in Thailand but not so much in China.

@LuxeBiscuit funnily enough it is China!

I haven’t told anyone at work because it’s so early but maybe I should to get their steer and check on insurance.

@Mitsky I'm pretty sure my firm would have to do a risk assessment for overseas travel while pregnant. It's also a very long flight if no stop overs. Can you confide in / ask HR or compliance?

Even though you're early it might also be worth checking in with your GP. You may need attractive compression socks for the flight or other precautions.

I’ve decided to book HCG blood tests through my clinic. They originally told me £300 but today I called to check and they said only £100 so I’m having them and will know results of them by Friday.

I feel sick with worry that things aren’t progressing as they should do due to these clear blue weeks indicator tests. I’ve been doing the cheap strip tests too and they are really faint for 5+3 (what I should be today). I’ve added a pic… I feel it’s too light! (Also these are from Amazon and I’ve previously used the boots cheap strips) .

I've got pictures of the cheap strip tests on my phone from when I had my son but I don’t know the exact number of weeks I was 🥴

Hope you’re all ok ♥️

Sorry you are so worried @ChyLL I'm really sorry I didn't know whether to say this or not sometimes it's best to be direct but I would also be worried with that test and your gestation I won't post mine but it matched the test line before my period was due 🤷‍♀️ it's great that you have the blood tests and you'll know if everything is ok really soon. Xx

Hi. Do you have any symptoms? Hope the HCG test goes OK.

@mrssunshinexxx thank you for the honesty 😊

@AnxiousD I’ve been feeling nauseous, sore boobs and extra tired but that’s all so far.

these other pics are from boots test strips and a clear blue. (I know you shouldn’t compare brands).

Oh dear I cried today over train cancellations.

Now I'm worried about the stress on the baby.

Has anyone else got any anxiety managing tips 🙈🙈

@ChyLL Sorry you’re feeling so anxious. These first weeks are so hard.

When did you get your first positive test? Perhaps you ovulated later than you thought? Also maybe that brand of test isn’t very sensitive as the clearblue line seems very obvious in comparison.

Those clear blue digi tests cause so much worry for many of us. I think you’ve done the right thing having bloods as you can easily spend £100 on those tests chasing a 3+ when they are super inaccurate for some women.

Wishing all good things for you & for all of us xx

Looks like a good positive line on all of those. Fingers crossed for you.

Thank you @Nervous764367

I had fertility treatment with a trigger shot so I know the exact day I ovulated. I do however have longer cycles but not sure how much (if anything) that could affect things.

I did my first test on 18/2 but they haven’t really got darker over the week. I wish I was the kind of person who just saw the clear blue one and was happy with just doing the one test.

I’m glad I’ve got the tests booked but just want them to be over now so I know one way or another. It’s so hard isn’t it all this worry for something we so desperately want.

wishing all the good things for you too ♥️

Had a scan at EPU this evening and I'm 5 weeks as I thought. Not much to see apart from the yolk sac which she said is what she'd expect at that stage 🙏

I've to go back in next week for a further scan to make sure all is progressing As it should. Feeling less anxious but I'm sure by next week, before the scan I'll be terrified!

Anyone else around the 5 week mark???xx

Thank you @AnxiousD just need to think positive (if only that easy) and wait for the bloods.

@Willow2023 I'm 5+1 today ❤️ got an early private scan booked for when I should be 7+6 (16th March) and got my booking appointment on 18th March when I should be 8+1. Really nervous but hoping all goes well xx