October 2024 Babies thread 2 👶

[Nic2908]

Seems we got to the end of a thread. Not sure if a new one has been set up.

Anyone else feeling super emotional?

I feel like there’s a lot going on at the moment (moving plus house renovations) and ended up just feeling totally overwhelmed and having a little cry earlier

Hi everyone,

Thought I'd drop a little update, I booked myself an early scan for today and measuring at 5+3 (my lmp was 7+3 but I have PCOS & irregular cycles!) .. anyway, all was good and we were actually able to see a heartbeat 🥰.. edd 24/10 she did say though that at my NHS scan it could change as so early on it isn't as accurate.

Hope you ladies are all ok ❤️

@Fullofconfusion I've been 100% the same , I've been crying over the smallest things and I'm not a crier! We've moved house this week aswell and yes, it can be a lot.

Just be kind to yourself, make sure you rest and don't do too much ❤️

I'm 7w1d and have cried three times today... once cause I was hungry and another time because I keep burping... haven't been emotional until today but you're certainly not alone

Yes, super emotional and also FREEZING! Like, cold to my bones. Wearing tights under leggings and two jumpers and still cold.

Be kind to yourself; sounds like you've got a lot on your plate atm

@Fullofconfusion and @mouldygrapes I've been super emotional the last few days as well. I posted not to watch One Day as I binged it yesterday and was crying for hours- it was ridiculous lol.

Also, very cold. I didn't realise that was a symptom but it may be.

@cm3212 great that you got to see a heartbeat. Are you planning another early scan?

@LuxeBiscuit not sure, I have my booking app on 6/3 so going to see if I get an indication of when my NHS scan might be but if it will be a while out then I may have another to make sure progressing as it should be.

Hoping that everyone’s early scans go well and gives them the reassurance needed.

Im in two minds on whether to have an early scan or not. I would like to know everything is going along as it should but equally don’t want to be told that anything bad has happened either.

I can’t make a decision. 😭 I’m 7w3d and thought about a scan for next week when I’ll be 8 weeks but then find myself freezing before I book because I just don’t want to hear any bad news? I’m not sure I’m mentally strong enough to hear it.

Not sure if I’m making any sense but it’s a dilemma in my head, not helped with my constant nausea which in itself makes it difficult to make decisions xx

I'm in the exact same position about the reassurance scan. I'm 8+1 and was previously pretty sure about booking it for the coming week. But I also freeze when i go to book it - feels like I'll jinx it! I was thinking about telling my family on Saturday as seeing them but don't want to say without a scan going well. DH doesn't want one as he thinks if it's bad news why rush knowing and we could loose it between the early scan and the 12 week scan anyway.

@cm3212 that makes sense. If you know your dating scan will be past three 12 week mark you can decide on an early scan.

@Nervous764367 ah bless you. You know best how you'll cope. Personally I'd like to know how things are progressing. I find knowing gives me control in a way. But you may feel better waiting until the dating scan.

@cm3212 I hope the move went well and you’re all settled in. We have some work to do before moving so probably won’t be in for another month but the work and thinking about moving is stressful enough.

and yes, the cold!! I’m constantly freezing too. Tonight I’ve got the heating on with fluffy leggings and a big thick hoody and my little boy has just gone to bed on top of the covers as it’s too hot! So I guess it’s just me in this house feeling the chill

@LuxeBiscuit yes that was my thoughts , I like to know what's going on & although I know it won't change any outcome, I'd prefer to have an extra scan if needed

@Fullofconfusion completely understand, we have been able to move in but it needs a fair bit of work doing and it's daunting! Try not to feel too stressed , hope it all goes well ❤️

Also got an early scan, mine's next week at 5w+6, due to previous ectopic.
I'm all for getting loads of private scans! (Although totally get the fear of jinxing it). I feel like 12week one is a lot of pressure as you build up to telling people after that.
I've heard it's not great to get too many scans, but don't actually know why? -does anyone have any idea?

Hi all can I join please? ❤️ I'm 5 weeks pregnant, due 26 Oct as far as I know with second baby. I've booked an early dating scan private when I'll be 7+6 for reassurance xxx

Hi all. Thinking of booking a private scan tomorrow. I'll be 6wk 2 days. I feel like I need to get my head around it all and it may make me feel like it's actually happening. I have been a bit low because it wasn't expected and I've been a bit of a mess trying to accept it, and this may be what I need. It's £70 and I know it's early. Thoughts??

@AnxiousD I'd say if you can afford to do it and it will help to make it real for you/ease some anxiety then it's definitely worth it ❤️

@cm3212 Amazing news!!! I'm so glad you went and put your mind at ease.

I'm personally in the 'lots of scans' camp. I'm very anxious and my dr has pretty much told me to come see her weekly. If something were wrong I would want to know about it as early as possible and deal with it head on. Dragging it out can cause more trauma down line.

Someone asked why too many scans are bad. The truth is, there isn't enough research to prove this. Very conflicting information out there but if my dr says it's fine, I'm going with what she says. Someone once tried to tell me it was because of the radiation. I kindly had to point out that's not how ultrasound works 😂.

@Oct24 yeah I think it's down to each individual isn't it, I'm the same as you, I would definitely prefer to know asap rather than believe everything is ok. It did put my mind at ease a little bit yesterday so that was good. Have you had scans already then I'm guessing?

The wait is dragging so bad and I totally understand why people have them early but for me I much prefer seeing a former baby at 12 weeks as opposed to something much much smaller seeing arms / legs a hands wriggling about really makes it real for me

@cm3212 I'm struggling a lot with anxiety. This is very much a longed for baby after a rocky rd to get here. I've also witnessed some very close friends go through some traumatic losses at various stages. It all plays on my mind. Case of knowing too much!

I had a viability scan at 5+3. Everything was perfect and we even saw a heartbeat! I had a complete freak out end of last week and called my dr. She had me come in for a second scan at 6+2. We had a good chat and we've agreed I'll have weekly scans until my anxiety calms down and feel better within myself.

Completely ridiculous I know. I know my fears are unfounded and the statistics are on my side after we have a strong heartbeat. But it just gives me peace of mind to have a weekly check in for the time being.

@Oct24 I completely understand, I have PCOS and have been trying for 8years so very much waited for! I'm the same, my anxiety is very heightened at the thought of something going wrong etc. amazing that you have seen a heartbeat ❤️ .. really hope everything works out for you and I'm sure it will!

I feel so yuck and sluggish. Just found out my booking appointment isn't until 21st March and dating scan 10th April. That'll make me 10wks and 13wks. So long! Can't cope with hiding this any longer and fed up with feeling so rubbish.

@cm3212 That's great news about your scan, you must be pleased!

@Nervous764367 Understandable that you're not sure about whether or not to have an early scan - some people prefer to know straight away if something isn't right and some people would rather wait for the 12 week scan. Personally I'm someone who wants to know - I would hate to get to 12 weeks and be looking forward to telling people and then suddenly discover that the pregnancy isn't viable - but it's a very personal choice. There's no "wrong" decision, it's just what you're most comfortable with.

@Itsasomething I didn't think there was much physical reason not to have regular scans, but my EGU won't scan less than 2 weeks apart (unless something changes to make it urgent, or they are confirming a loss in which case they scan 7-10 days apart), which I assume is because babies don't develop in a linear way and scanning too frequently might not tell you very much and might just create more worry.

@AnxiousD It sounds like an early scan might help you in terms of giving you a bit of clarity on what's going on and whether things are developing okay - if you are just going to feel worried for the next several weeks otherwise then I think a scan is a worthwhile investment.

I've got my next scan on Friday so am already getting into 'too worried about it to focus' territory - doesn't help that the nausea kicked up a notch last night and I'm still feeling pretty ropey this morning. Thinking maybe I should log off work at lunchtime and have an afternoon on the sofa feeling sorry for myself!

Im a big believer in doing what you need to feel better.

I had quite a few scans with my second baby due to my anxiety after a blighted ovum miscarriage.

I had a chemical before this pregnancy & that free falling feeling of not being able to do anything to stop it from happening in real time, I really really struggled with.

I think if I had a private scan, it would have to be at the weekend and if something was wrong I would have to wait until a weekday to be seen by EPU and I’m not sure how I’d emotionally cope with that.
In my mind, having a bad outcome at 12 week scan I would sent straight to EPU and a plan put in place there and then, without the horrible waiting part. I think this is why I freeze before booking it.

It’s all fear based. Crazy how loss impacts us so much. It’s like I’m clinging to every day with this baby and I’m too scared to cut it short. Completely opposite way to how I’ve been in past pregnancies.

Xx