October 2024 Babies thread 2 👶

[Nic2908]

Seems we got to the end of a thread. Not sure if a new one has been set up.

@Oct24 i am so so pleased that your scan went well today, must have been such a relief to see. Sounds like you have such a wonderful doctor and a very understanding one too! Really happy for you that moving forward is sounding a little calmer ♥️

I feel you with the getting caught out over drinking thing. I'm at work events every night next week and hoping nobody notices.
Although someone picked up on it a couple days ago and outright asked me if I was, which I found quite upsetting. I'm so sick of the "when are you getting pregnant" questions -its quite hurtful when you struggle to conceive, experience loss (or a hundred other reasons).
I just want to be in my happy little bubble, and share my worries anonymously until I'm comfortable with people knowing.

@Itsasomething Can you pls say this louder for the nosey dimwits down the back. lol

Amen to everything you said!!!

@Itsasomething I agree so hard with everything you said. It astounds me how freely people ask questions that are so personal.

We’ve got a big family reunion thing a few weeks before I get to 12 weeks and I’m always asked at them ‘when are you having kids’ ‘have you started trying, it might not be easy so you should think about it’ ‘what are your plans for a family’ and I’m dreading it because i just don’t want to talk about it at all and whilst I love them, it’s none of their business!

Symptoms finally kicked in. Nausea hit me hard and exhausted today.

I'll now register with the midwife as it makes it more real for me.

@GiantRoadPuzzle @Blossomofhope @AtLeastThreeDrinks @GingerCactus Congratulations and welcome to all of you!

@ButterflySkies I've got my booking appointment at 9+2 and my dating scan at 12+3 (they originally booked it for 12+6 but I'm going to be on holiday so asked them to bring it forward). That does sound quite late for a booking appointment - could you call the midwifery service and ask them about it? Have they given you a date for your dating scan yet?

@ChyLL The weeks indicator tests are so problematic - when they say exactly what you're hoping for they are really reassuring but they can really cause a lot of anxiety when they don't, even though it doesn't automatically mean something is wrong. Could you call your clinic and see if they might be able to scan you a bit earlier for reassurance, given your previous loss?

@Oct24 Great news about your scan and that your clinic will see your more frequently to check on progress, hopefully that gives you the reassurance that you need.

@Mitsky I'm in a similar situation, my closest friend is coming to stay with me tonight - I'm going to tell her as she knows about my previous loss and that we're trying again so it won't be a massive surprise, and if I'm not drinking she will work it out anyway! I think there's actually something nice about telling one or two very close friends early, just so you don't have to put all the effort into pretending - then if you have any group events or anything they have your back when you need to hide it from others, and they're the people who are there for you if the worst happens too.

@Itsasomething That's so annoying, it's such bad etiquette to ask someone if they're pregnant if they're obviously trying to hide it - if you want them to know you'll tell them! If you've got lots of events could you do a mix of "I'm driving tonight/I've got so many events that I have to go alcohol free at some of them or it's too much" if anybody asks you? Or if anyone offers to get you a drink, ask for something non-alcoholic and say you're alternating alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks if they ask why you don't want something else. If there are enough people there, nobody will notice that you don't actually alternate!

@CluelessInLondon I wish they weren’t a thing! I might contact them and explain but I kinda know they are going to say to use their counselling service and they told me they don’t like to scan before 7 weeks 🥴
Im going to email them today.. what’s the worst that can happen I guess.

I’ve been reading a few articles that implantation can adjust due dates and I also ovulated at just over 3 weeks instead of 2 so trying to think and hope that these things maybe putting me back a bit 🤞🏼

@GingerCactus @Itsasomething it's very cheeky to be that intrusive.

I noticed my best friend getting diet cokes at an event. A change from someone who usually drank alcohol. I figured she was trying but obviously would not have said anything. She announced a few months later and I still wouldn't say, oh I guessed!

You get it!
Just because you think something doesn't mean you have to say it!

@CluelessInLondon great ideas there thank you!

I'm so glad I wasn't being weird about the situation. I've told so few people about the struggle, and felt like I couldn't go off on one without giving up my precious secret!
(Should also note, when this person commented, I hadn't even told my other half. Noway were they going to be the first to know!)

Hey everyone 👋 I was wondering why it all went quiet and realised we had filled the other thread 🙈

so I had my viability scan yesterday at my clinic and we saw a heartbeat and measuring ok for my dates. Unfortunately seems like I have an enlarged yolk sac (she didn’t actually measure it) they weren’t too concerned about it. But looking into it seems like pretty bad news that I’m high chance or miscarrying 😭😭 so absolutely gutted as thought maybe this transfer might be the one that works.

I feel quite fragile and struggling to cope with the idea this is just going to end up similar to my other transfers. Although I haven’t got this far before (I suspect we probably have genetic issues since needing fertility treatment and the number of miscarriages, I just wish we knew the answer)

I’ve booked another scan on Sunday to measure the yolk sac and check heartbeat again as I found the clinic scan quite poor quality (plus my uterus is retroverted so difficult to get good image). Just hoping for a miracle really. Sorry for big rant everyone, hope everyone’s scans goes better than mine xxx

@Ellenn I'm sorry to hear that your scan didn't give you the reassurance you were hoping for - if the sonographer wasn't concerned then maybe it's not significant enough to be a major risk? I know there's no point telling you not to worry or be anxious because of course that's how you feel, but I hope you can distract yourself at least a bit for the next couple of days and that the next scan gives you more clarity. ❤

Finally found you guys again! I was wondering why it has gone so quiet!

I'm 6weeks today ☺️
Counting down to my private scan on the 4th in which, by my calculations, i will be 7w+2. Still waiting to hear from the midwife but i think my boking appt was around 8 weeks last time. I've also booked that week off as still got this nasty cough. It's gotten worse last couple of days but coughing up some lovely gunk.

Boobs started to hurt last week but feel like they are on fire today!

5+4 and ive thrown up a few times today... seriously hoping this is due to being tired and not the start of what happened with DD, which was 12 weeks of brutal any time sickness..!

Thanks for all your advice on when booking appts are - I've questioned it as almost 13 weeks feels a bit late! Xx

I feel everyone who says the nausea has kicked in. Finding it hard (also 6w today @Joey2011!)

Got this notification today, I know it's totally normal for pregnancy but just think it's kind of cool how our bodies work.

Well done for making this 2nd thread... I thought it had gone quiet!! Haha!!

I was the OP on the 1st thread .. super happy we've carried it on 🩷

I'm had my toddler all day today and I'm now absolutely SHATTERED 😂

Nausea, fortunately, hasn't turned up yet. Although I did cough till I was sick last night nut obviously that's my cough.
Still exhausted but my cough isn't helping that either.

I know how you feel. Although they have been spot on for me in the past, they’re messing with my head this time. I did a test a week for af was due and I got 3+. It absolutely can’t be right ( unless I’m having twins!).

First time sick today 🤢
Solo parenting both littles because hubster left for work at 6am, trying to get them off to nursery, so that's fun.

Luckily it didn't last last past mid morning but very weird for me considering the first I had no symptoms, and #2 just a bit of nausea. This one is definitely giving me a harder ride.
But then I am 39 🙈

@Jacky86 I used them with my first and they were spot on too… although I never got a 1-2 as don’t think I tested that early.

are you sure on your dates? Could you be a little further on that originally thought? I know my ovulation date so that’s causing extra worry as I can’t have got my dates mixed up.

I have an early scan in a couple of weeks and don’t want to do anymore tests if I can help it!

Hi all!!! 5+3 here with my 3rd (this is so surreal) nobody in RL knows at all apart from my husband! I've never experienced a watery mouth before which apparently is a symptom...anybody else?!

And congrats everyone 😁

Hi all! I'm due in October too. First time mum at 35. 7 weeks today! Really really anxious about everything at the moment. Got a private scan booked next week.

@GiantRoadPuzzle I absolutely was. I had a beautiful little boy. Have you changed your username since then?

I have (a couple of times!) also had a little boy!

How funny that we’ve ended up with the same gap!

Hey everyone, thanks for starting thread 2!

Sounds like we're all just very much in the middle of the waiting game right now. It's like the 2WW compounded 🤣 I am 8 weeks + 2 today.

I am on messy pessys and throwing up 3 times a day - all at very random times so I'm finding it very hard to work around it.

Luckily I'm working from home and self employed but that's actually adding a lot of pressure to keep going when I would just love to be signed off sick 🙈

My GP has prescribed me EMEXLON for the sickness and it's kind of helping, but I'm also worried about taking a lot of medication.

Annoyingly the only food I can seem to keep down is chicken nuggets from McDonald's lol - so my little bean is being built on that and whatever remains of my pre-natal vitamins. I'm really hoping they're doing the trick!

Going for a private "reassurance" scan at 9 weeks.