October 2024 Babies thread 2 👶

[Nic2908]

Seems we got to the end of a thread. Not sure if a new one has been set up.

@FlyOnTheWall89 I’ve been taking Biocare Pregnancy Multinutrient since six months before conception.

@Joey2011 ah how lovely! I have my 7w scan today I’m so nervous!

@FlyOnTheWall89 I'm taking folic acid, vit D and Omega 3 fish oil.

@FlyOnTheWall89 I'm taking 2x Pregnacare Max, vitamin D, omega 3 with DHA and 2x chewable calcium (have to take these daily anyway due to having a gastric bypass) xx

@Sunandsea13 It's very hard to see anything this early tran-abdominal. With my son, I only graduated from TV to TA at 10weeks.

I know some people do get TAs this early but be prepared to not see anything. If you're really against TVs, I would hold off a few more weeks to avoid disappointment.

TVs really aren't that bad. The first one I ever got was a bit awkward but I very quickly got over it when I saw my baby on the screen. ❤️

I had a scan on Saturday and they dated me 7 weeks 3 days. They tried to do trans abdominal but it didn’t show anything so TV it was. It’s completely fine - a bit cold but nothing like what giving birth is going to be like 😂
it also means that we got a really lovely clear scan this early too.

@Sunandsea13 I had a TA scan at 8+4 and got a great picture - I'm very slim which probs helps. My first scan as around 6+2 and that was TV and totally fine. Would recommend doing that to avoid disappointment/ worry!

Any other mums expecting twins?! Think we are still in shock and trying to work out the juggle of a 2 year old and twins as totally unexpected but also very exciting! Next scan in 2 weeks where they will hopefully be measuring 10.5 weeks. Nausea has been horrific and I'm exhausted so have had to tell work as couldn't keep telling white lies!

not us but congratulations!!

@Sunandsea13 it was a ta. I think the private clinics go for ta first but if they can't get a good picture will go tv.

But I've had a tv and they aren't as bad as you may think.

I'm still debating telling work. We are going through a refurbishment and after that I'll be up for promotion. But it is right we shouldn't be worried and hiding things in fear.
My boss is great and will be fine but just have the fear in the back of my mind.
I just have to be careful as my job involves heavy lifting.

It's not good news here, been bleeding since Sunday and spotting for a few days before that. I very much expected it anyway as I'm older and haven't had any symptoms. I'm supposed to be 8 weeks but I really think the baby stopped growing weeks ago. I will have a scan on Thursday morning as that's the earliest they had available and my first midwide appointment is supposed to be that same afternoon.
A baby is something I really want so I'm surprised that I don't feel sad or upset about any of this. I guess it's because from the beginning I didn't let myself get too excited and it never felt real. I haven't cried at all during my pregnancy. Until today... I called EPAU and the lady on the phone was so nice and very sympathetic that after I finished the call I cried for a few minutes! It's not because I'm sad about the loss, but because she was so nice! She sounds like she is perfect for her job.

@Anonymously18 have you tested again today? Xxx

@YellowHedgehog I'm so sorry. Hopefully the scan will show everything is okay. Sending lots of love xx

@journeytomum We've not had a scan yet (6+2) so not sure but congratulations! Must be a crazy thing to wrap your head around. Is there a history of twins in your family? My mum has had 2 sets of twins xx

@YellowHedgehog so sorry you've had such a worrying time. You sound like a strong woman. So pleased the woman on the phone was so empathetic and kind to you.

It's such a tough call. With all of the concerns so far on here, it almost warrants its own thread.

When it comes to a promotion and being in early pregnancy, is it best to be upfront or wait until after the 12 week scan? Or even exercise your right to wait until 20 weeks..

What do you think you will do?

I already wrote about this but I just got my promotion yesterday and I'm 10 weeks, I plan to let them know after the 12 week scan.

Something I half regret now is not telling them upfront, which I very almost did. Even though it's highly uncommon to tell work before the scan, I almost feel dishonest that I wasn't transparent before on this. I've known the promotion might be happening for 5 weeks.

I thought about coming clean when they first brought it up with me at the end of Jan, I had literally just found out the day before I was pregnant, talk about timing.

Ultimately I decided not to, I didn't want to put anyone in a tough situation when it wouldn't have changed the outcome. If anything it would have just put pressure on them as they could hardly backtrack after starting a conversation about it.

They told me at the end of Jan they were 'reconsidering' me for my managers old role, he left in October and I applied for it in November and was told I didn't get in December.

I told my husband over Christmas, 'I don't know what we are waiting for' and got pregnant first time in January. Our son was 16 months, so we will have a 24 month age gap which was the first shock. The last thing I ever thought was the very next day that work would do a u-turn! The second shock.

It took me a couple of weeks to process it all as I love my work and only came back from 10 months maternity in July. I have been at the company 7+ years. I am so proud of the promotion but of course panicking I go again in 6.5 months. Probably for 9 months and my husband will take 3 months.

@YellowHedgehog I'm so sorry to hear this - I hope you get clarity either way at your scan on Thursday, the feeling of not being sure what's happening is really tough. ❤

@lpylou Congratulations on your promotion, and you definitely shouldn't feel bad about the fact that you didn't tell work while it was all ongoing. If you've been there for several years already doing good work, they will recognise that and they'll know that you'll keep doing your best right up until you go on mat leave and then again when you come back. It's just a few months, which is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

@YellowHedgehog so sorry you are going through this and can't get scanned earlier the waiting must be horrible.
I'm also bleeding again here and have a scan in the morning

So sorry to hear this, i hope it is still good news and will keep fingers crossed 💙

@lpylou I think if you took the promotion knowing you weren't going back after mat leave, that could be seen as immoral. But you'll take 9 months off and go back to working there for years to come.

After 7 years and a promotion, you've clearly shown that you're dedicated and hardworking so you can pick up where you left off when you get back.

It would be far worse if you told them and they rescinded their offer because it would be challenging to stay in a company like that.

I guarantee that most men if they were in women's shoes would not be carrying out this level of guilt.

@YellowHedgehog Im so sorry to hear this, it’s just so dramatic and won’t be helped by the wait until Thursday. I’m older too and completely understand you ‘not allowing yourself to get excited’..I’m doing the same thing. I had a significant bleed and passed a huge clot at 5 weeks..I paid for a private TV scan a week later. The wait was awful..total limbo. I would advise you try to get a scan earlier if you can. The stress that not knowing is causing you is awful. Sending love xx

I'm so sorry to hear this.

@YellowHedgehog so sorry to hear you are bleeding 😢 it’s horrible feeling. Could you get a private scan earlier so you can get an answer? I also phoned up EPU in a previous pregnancy when I bled more and they arranged a scan earlier when it was sounding like I was miscarrying, might be worth a shot? They do reassure you though it can be quite common to bleed and actually everything is fine so I hope this is the case for you xxx

@mrssunshinexxx i hope your scan goes well and reassures you xx

@Sunandsea13 depending on the orientation of uterus it can be impossible to see anything abdominally. My uterus is retroverted so on my abdominal scan last week at 7.5 wks you couldnt see anything, was quite tricky to find TV too. Suspect it won’t be till at least 12 wks before I can do normal scan. Are you planning on booking a scan soon? xx

@YellowHedgehog so sorry you're in limbo. Hoping you get a black and white answer asap. Sending hugs.

@mrssunshinexxx good luck in the morning.

Thanks for your lovely messages, I was thinking about a private scan but I'm alright waiting until Thursday. I'm pretty sure it's bad news so don't want to spend money on something that won't give me good news.

@mrssunshinexxx Good luck with your scan and hopefully everything is ok