Due September 2024 PART 3 ❤️🩷💛💚💙💜

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New thread as old one was almost at 1000 😊

@TTCSoManyQuestions88 ahh a little boy 💙 the planning can properly begin now!

@Decaffe exactly the same situation as us re: NIPT. When is your initial scan and screen and have you any idea how long the results take to come back from that one?

I wonder if anyone has advice….I’m quite concerned that my NHS maternity care completely ignores my Thyroid condition (Hypothyroidism Hashimoto). Last time I got to see an endocrinologist at 8 weeks, and from what I read here, others with my condition have been referred to an endocrinologist. I just saw a private endocrinologist who confirmed that I need to have blood tests every 4 weeks and probably need to raise my Levo dose…I’m waiting for these results now, but doing this privately cost me £550 and I don’t want to have to fork it out every 4 weeks. My midwife wasn’t interested in this condition at my booking appointment. I got a letter that I will have my first appointment with a consultant when I will be 16 weeks, but still no mention of seeing an endocrinologist. Can I call and express concern about my care plan, or will I just be fobbed off and seen as a pain in the arse?

@Cinai did they tell you to increase your dose? I saw 2 consultants each time I had my appointment from 16 weeks of beards I saw 2 consultants. 1 for my diabetes and 1 for my thyroid. Do you know what your latest TSH was? I really feel like thyroid care is lacking in the UK I've had to do a lot of research myself and I source my own meds these days.

Had a scan and NIPT test on Monday, measuring 2 days ahead so my due date according to private clinic sneaks into August JUST (31st). Will see what NHS say in scan next week.

I have a little dilemma in that I’m meant to be bridesmaid in August as well 4 hours away. I can’t realistically see how I can do it and I am waiting until I get NIPT results to share news but I’m worried about the reaction I might get to be honest. When I was asked I made clear we were trying and that if that put them off asking then I wouldn’t be offended. I’m still a bit worried though…

@MudandMoet I haven’t got my 12 week scan date yet, hoping to get it at the appointment with my consultant on Friday. I’ll update once I know. We’re going to be out of the country in weeks 15 and 16 so the sooner the better as far as I’m concerned!

Just been to EPU as I had some unusual twinges. All thankfully ok, measuring a day ahead, saw little arm and leg buds, and it did a little wiggle for us! 🥰

@Khanga27 That’s really tricky - do you think it’s just being a bridesmaid that would be too much or do you think going to the wedding at all might be an issue?

When I got married last year all 3 of my bridesmaids were trying to conceive - on the actual day only one of them was actually pregnant (about 4 months, so wasn’t an issue). But then one of my guests ended up having her baby on my wedding day! We knew she was due around then so had arranged with the venue that she would be a last minute addition if she felt up for it - in the end we just did a toast to her baby when we got word that he was safely here!

For me, with all of those people the communication was key. As long as I knew what the situation was I was fine.

@siobhanmt247 I’m yet to hear back from the private endocrinologist about whether to increase my dose at this stage, but he said that usually it is necessary to increase it during pregnancy, and it is important to regulatory monitor thyroid function from the start of the pregnancy. The midwife said nothing, only that I will be under combined care anyway due to my age and that I can raise any concerns with the obstetrician, but I’ll only see them for the first time when I’ll be 16 weeks.

Oh wow that’s really nice having a toast.

For me it’s the wedding itself as well. If it was more local I’d be more comfortable to go and even do what I could bridesmaid-wise, but keep communication lines open. But I really don’t want to risk giving birth at a random unfamiliar hospital in a different location, especially with newborn travelling limits. It would be too much stress I think. I just looked on google maps and it’s actually 4 hours 41 minute drive (traffic permitting).

I am hoping they will be okay about it as I have been very transparent about us trying. The bridesmaid dresses also haven’t been sorted yet (if they had I would have reimbursed for mine). With having a MMC in August I’ve not wanted to share prematurely to find the same happened again, but things at scan Monday looked really good pending NIPT results.

@Cinai didbthey give you any blood results? You should be able to tell how your thyroid is responding tobtye pregnancy based on those. You should be looking for your TSH to be under 2.5. I called my doctor and requested a blood test myself and they were happy to oblige

@Nic17 @Decaffe thank you! all results came back low risk, I'm so so grateful for how lucky I've been so far with this pregnancy. I paid for the test and I only had a choice between 2 providers (I live in a UK overseas jurisdiction, so not the NHS, it's all private healthcare here). I'm 11+3 weeks already, due 1 September 😀

@Khanga27 no dilemma there, that will be way too far along for you to go, nevermind doing all the bridesmaids stuff which is exhausting! Any reasonable person will understand! My niece (first baby for my cousin) just came at 35 weeks - perfectly healthy but totally unexpected since everyone tells you the first one comes late. You could very well have the baby in August.

Have you thought of just telling the bride for now, ask her to keep it a secret?

@Khanga27 totally get where you're coming from. It's my sister in laws wedding TWO DAYS before my current due date 🫣 and my last labour was just 3 hours!
It's not exactly local either, no idea what we're going to do. Just going to see what happens closer to the time I think and if little one is born early then all four of us will attend if only for a few hours! Should get my actual due date tomorrow and then we're going to break the news to them!

@TTCSoManyQuestions88 eeek congrats 💙

@TTCSoManyQuestions88 ah congrats, we are due date buddies 😂

@Khanga27 Im sure they will understand, it will be a lot to travel to a wedding that close to your due date!

@Khanga27 I am in almost the exact same boat as you, but the distance is shorter from home for me which does make a big difference. My brother is getting married on the 10th August and I am due 8th September, I am also a bridesmaid. The venue is around 2.5 hours from home.

I will definitely still be going and will take part in as many bridesmaid duties as I can, but I do have provisional plans in place to allow me opportunities to take time out & rest throughout the day. I’m thinking I should pack an emergency hospital bag and have it stored in the car, just in case? Seems so far away to get my head around properly yet, but yes its definitely going to be an interesting experience! Having never been pregnant before, I can’t even imagine how I’m going to be feeling by then!

@TTCSoManyQuestions88 @ForeverHopeful67 @Kate543 Thank you, I’m hoping that they will be reasonable - i think they should be given I’ve been very open from the start, but I know weddings can be stressful so that worries me.

@Bakerbean Thank you for sharing similar experience. I would have liked to have made it work, but my due date is 31st August based on private scan on Monday (I measured 2 days ahead so slipped me out of September) and wedding is also August 10th. It feels too far away to take the risk for me when so close unfortunately. If it had been more local I would have felt more confident.

@Khanga27 not quite the same but my brother in law is getting married in the October and I'm going to decline my attendance along with the baby and my eldest who is 5. The wedding is a 6hr drive away which will obviously become much longer with a newborn. It's also the logistics and finding accomadation because we have a dog that can't be left at home with anyone. My husband will still attend and I'm sure his brother will be really understanding. My eldest could technically go still but I think my husband will enjoy it much more with his other brothers and can have a drink and my son is 5 and won't care anyway.

Happy Valentine’s Day Mamas! ❤️

Is anyone doing anything nice?

Normally husband and I take it in turns to do something nice for the other on Valentine’s Day. It’s meant to be my turn this year but I’ve told him that I’m growing him a baby so that’ll have to do 😂. I have got him a cake though - was going to make it but the thought of being near eggs or butter turned my stomach so he has a much nicer cake from a bakery to come home to!

@Lillers I offered my partner to make for him a special meal today but he proposed to postpone a special meal to the weekend. So I think I’ll just grab him a box of kinder bueno (he loves it), beer and some crisps. Just to show up with something. He surprised me yesterday so I can’t be coming home empty handed.

Personally I think that’s a fair trade 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

DH is downstairs cooking a steak dinner while I’m putting DD to bed. I’m sure it’s gonna be so lush but does feel weird having a well done steak!
He has taken the day off work tomorrow so we can go out for lunch and spend a day together while DD is at nursery.

What’s everyone else up to? 🩷

@MrsB2019x Yes, I had a well done steak the other day! Decided it’s not worth it and I’ll just go without for a few months 😂

@Lillers @MrsB2019x

Steak (and a nice bottle of wine or champagne if it's the weekend) is our go-to valentines meal. But we decided against it this year as I just can't face the thought of well done steak. 🥩 I like it just a bit warmer than this normally 🤣. We had a lovely salmon pasta instead which was very tasty. And a glass of water 🤘🏻

I asked DH not to get me a present but he did get a card, some tulips from Sainsbury's and some of those delicious Monty Bojangles truffles (even though I'm really trying to cut out sugar) I didn't even get him a card and now I feel bad 😫 but I'm also so tired I think I'm going to have to go straight to sleep tonight!

My bump is bumping. I have a few meetings in the office for the next few weeks and don't think I can hide it much longer. Fortunately most of the people know you should really comment on these things. I've got a baggy sweater on which is just about covering but even my partner thinks it's pretty obvious now. I know they say it's bloat but it's still big first thing in a morning and I'm pretty short with a smallish frame. Only a few weeks more to hide it I guess

Hope everyone had a lovely valentines. We went away for the night just us two and it was lovely. We hardly ever do anything for valentines so this was a nice treat.

Has anyone had twinges in their abdomen? It keeps happening to me on both sides of my belly button just above it. It happens if I move too sharply or sometimes when I sneeze or cough. It takes me by surprise. It’s not particularly painful just feels like pulling a muscle. I never had this with my daughter, but my belly has definitely been more relaxed this time and has grown as soon as I got a positive test. So I can only guess it’s from relaxing muscles?

Hi all - I have my second EPU appointment Friday
I feel daft having told my son, he is 8 and I felt guilty lying to him about appointments etc - he was excellent and very shocked he’s been asking for years so it was lovely 🥺 - I have had three scans already, heartbeat and measurements all spot on and no issues 🤦🏼‍♀️

Oh well, must remain positive now! We’re going out tomorrow for V day, but I am feeling so bloated and skin is just awful! Luckily all sickness and tiredness seem have to calmed down! It’s like a bad trade every week for symptoms!!

speaking of bumps…I have one, what I’m doing now is I actually do not close my jeans, I left the top button open all day today and the zipper kept coming down aswell. So I am fairly certain I will need to buy new trousers soon. I’m not worried about hiding it right now, because of the nature of my job I spend quite a lot of time moving in and out of the office and I am known to continue wearing my puffer jacket inside at end. My staff joke around when I stop wearing a jacket that summer comes when I stop wearing the jacket indoors 😂 So I will just keep doing what I do and until the weather becomes too warm to wear a jacket.

people have asked me how am I not hot with it but the thing is when you never take it off the body is constantly at the same temperature and it termoregulates itself. Northern people engineering 😂 I’ve been doing this for years now and it’s serving me well in the circumstances