Due September 2024 PART 2 💛🧡💚💙💜

[HoneyandSunshine]

I couldn’t see a part 2?? So I’ve created one. Hope its not a duplicate 🥲😂

@HoneyandSunshine just currently sat on the floor of my son's room as he's just been sick... Foot is already dead and I know... I'm next to get this bug 🤣🤣🤣😭

Does anyone have any tips for relieving painful shoulder tension/knots?
I usually have deep tissue massage and use ice gel but apparently neither are allowed in the first trimester 😔 I have used acupuncture before too but bit nervous about releasing toxins into my body? It's so painful and normal ice/heat don't help

@rupertbear91 have you had an early scan yet?

How is everyone feeling? I’ve woken up feeling very nauseous - like hangover level which is obviously not the case 🙈

How early did people book in for their scans? I’m somewhere between 6+3 and 5+6 (my cycles vary) - I’m trying to hold off as I know I’ll be upset if I don’t see anything. In my last pregnancy I made it to 6+6 before I scanned but struggling to hold out on this one.

@tierneytarny this is exactly how I explained the feeling to my partner lol

My scan is a week today, and I should be 8+3 🤞🏻 I thought the longer I could wait, the more I’d see.. so that was the incentive for booking later on!

No it's a week today. So even more careful of what I'm using till then. I have a collapsed disc in my neck and didn't quite think through the management of it whilst pregnant 🤦🏽‍♀️

After having no symptoms I also woke up with very sore nipples and a hangover feeling! I'll looked back on my photos and I've got the nausea to the exact weeks and day I did with my baby boy haha let the marmite on toast for breakfast lunch and dinner commence 😂

@rupertbear91 might be worth having a chat with a doctor when you can. They can see about a referral to a physiotherapist during pregnancy.

Thanks! I will go and see them this week I think

@HRP1990 I so know it’s the sensible thing to wait a bit longer. I think it’s because when I was scanned with my first I was measured 5+5 (thought thought I was 5+6) and saw a heartbeat. Thinking back with my second I was 6+4 but I measured 5+5 too . I need to be patient!

Thanks for the reassurance ladies - you're all amazing! I'd be lost without this thread ❤️🫶🏻

@HoneyandSunshine thanks for being so honest, it's refreshing.

I think my main concern right now is support, my husband is very much a man's man, I do everything house related. I don't want to pull him to bits as we have a great relationship and get on amazingly well but don't also want to drip feed so here we go... so as I've said previously, we're farmers. He has a big successful farm and is busy at certain times of the year, he's also home a lot as we live on the farm. I work on the farm as and when required but only usually if someone's not turned in (I do book work for the farm too) I also work 1.5 days a week doing accounts for a sole trader, I earn very good money for this and won't give it up, it's my personal separate business and I enjoy it, I'd struggle to find another job the same. However because it's a sole trader I'll effectively have to continue this constantly up to giving birth and then straight after. Think HMRC deadlines VAT payroll etc.

Ive voiced my concerns over husband helping for a few hours so I can continue to work maybe a few evenings or a day at the weekend and he just said we'll get a nanny for a few days a week. Great! you might think, but really? Straight away? It's not what I had in mind and just wanted him to want to be more involved if you get me? I don't know, it's deflated me a little. My family don't live close and we are so small anyway and they're living their lives so I wouldn't ask for help.

Money isn't an issue but I definitely don't want to lose that part of my job. The thought of having no maternity leave as such and then no support from husband just feels a bit crap at the minute. I guess we'll have to work on it and find a solution.

I'm sorry you feel like someone has pissed on your chips right now. Everything about TTC and pregnancy is a constant f*cking worry. Wanted this for years and years and just can't seem to relax and be happy but I know it'll all be worth it and things will work out because they always do right?! Xxx

@MudandMoet oh I completely understand you!
My spouse runs his own business, up until recently he was working 7 days a week but last few months he’s toned it down to 6 days. Meaning I do all the housework, cooking and shopping while also working a full time job-I run someone else’s business.
I think I previously mentioned somewhere me and my spouse we are of different origins.My family lives 1600 miles in the Northern direction from UK and his parents live 1500 miles towards East from us. Two different corners of Europe. So help from parents is under a massive question-how? Plus his mom is already looking after his niece.
Money isn’t an issue either, I could just stay at home but it’s not in my character. Through my life I’ve had a really interesting and successful career working for other people and mine and my spouses finances are really separate, I don’t want to become dependent on my spouse. He wants me to come work for him, help him expand the business, but we could never be able to work together, we are both massive personalities and both are good at business, but I could never report into my spouse. Because of the money he makes and because of his personality he also would not be helping me much with this, if anything he’ll start working more, to make more and more income. He’s focused on being able to give to the kids anything they want. So yeah, I absolutely understand how you feel.

Hi everyone - I’ve just joined today and this is my first comment.

I found out just over a week ago that I’m expecting my first baby in September! I’m 36, and after keeping the news fairly close for the last week and a half it feels very weird writing it out so publicly!

I’ve not had a huge amount of symptoms yet - extreme tiredness (although actually staying asleep feels almost impossible), mild cramps, a little bit of nausea (although I genuinely think that’s just anxiety about anything going wrong) and I suddenly cannot stand the smell of the cleaning products used at work!

I’m just looking forward to getting through the next few weeks so I can relax a bit more and start to feel safe being excited!

Had my first scan today, baby perfectly healthy and happy at exactly 8w5d as I’d guessed. Feel so much relief at actually seeing something on the screen, makes it feel much more real!

@RachSmile
congratulations!:)🥳

I just had my worst episode of nausea yet….for the past hour, I was lying on the sofa, feeling absolutely miserable and trying very hard not to vomit. It has gone again now and I’m feeling better. I’m only 6 weeks today, this makes me worry about what’s yet to come.

Ah I’m just a big bag of nerves waiting for my scan this afternoon 🫣

Congratulations @RachSmile 🥰 and also goodluck for yours today @Kate543! X

Good luck @Kate543

Looks like being sick after meals is going to be a thing for me now :(

@MudandMoet @xur I've woken up really panicked today. I don't know how I'm going to be able to do all this. I'm only going to be able to take about a month off work. Maybe DH will have to take full paternity, I can't seem to make a plan in my head that's going to work. Anyone else totally have no idea what to do when it's their first (and only) baby???

Slightly ahead as suspected as I knew I ovulated early. 7w3d all healthy so far 🤞

@Kate543 🤞🏻 for your scan!

@MudandMoet@Xur its lovely to hear your stories both, and super refreshing to hear some vulnerability too - it is so easy to put a brave face on most of the time!

What I would say is that things really do change when the baby is here, especially for the men! (Obviously I know everything changes for us too) but I think they need the baby to be born for it all to click lol. I just don’t think they realise how much their world will change until their little person comes into the world. Sometimes the things you worry about, never materialise in the end.

You’re doing an amazing job already growing those babes! Worry about the now, for now 🫶🏼

Amazing @SC126 so happy for you 🥰

@SC126 ahead news are the best news tbh in my honest opinion 😍

@californiacooper yeah I mean today I was thinking where do I put the stuff from the spare room when we will start to prepare it for the baby…and couldn’t even come up with ideas for that…