Pregnant and homeless pls help

[Queenxxx]

Hey guys, so basically, my husband, daughter and I live with my mum currently, and I just became pregnant again with my second baby. My mum is not happy at all about this, because I had agreed with her to not get pregnant again until I move out, (because it's so hard for her right now keeping all of us in her house as well as my other siblings.) so she basically doesn't accept my pregnancy and is kicking me out. She has given me two days to leave the house. So I will be pregnant and homeless with my 19 month old and husband😭what shall I do? Me and my husband can't afford to private rent otherwise we wouldn't even be living with my mum right now. I don't work and receive universal credit and carers allowance because I am my mom's carer. My husband does work but only gets minimum wage. And my biggest problem is that my husband is from abroad. And when applying for his visa, the home office asked where he would live after arriving in the UK. We said he would live with my mum, and she was required to give written confirmation of that, which she did. She literally wrote in the letter that he can live in her house. We even had to have a property inspection to make sure there will be enough space for my husband, my baby and I as well as my mom and siblings. So basically, he wouldn't have even got the visa if my mother had not consented to him living here. And now, 6 months after he's arrived, this has happened...she wants us out of her house...will this effect his immigration status or anything? Will they blame us for this? Will they help us? Someone please help I'm so so so so upset and stressed, and I feel like such a bad mom to my babies😭

What helpful and thoughtful advice. Really detailed and focused on the OP’s situation. Thanks for the contribution.

If you're determined to keep the pregnancy then you have a few issues to deal with.

You need to find accommodation for you and your current child, which isn't going to be great (BB,hostel) and you also need to fulfill the income requirements on the visa (if your carers stop because you moved out) which you won't do if you don't go out to work.
The requirements are :

must have a minimum gross annual income of £18,600.
If the applicant has children, an additional £3,800 per year is needed for the first child and an additional £2,400 for each subsequent child.

Your husband works min wage so that's 21,670 per annum. If you will no longer receive carers then he needs to be earning 22,400 now and 24,800 when the 2nd child arrives.

This! My husband and I waited so so so long to have a baby because we knew we had to be financially secure!

Yes, I'm wondering why people are fixated on that.
The OP may not be able to have EVERYTHING she wants - pregnancy with home and husband. But she might need to do it alone. Or outside the UK.

If she wants to keep the baby it may come at a cost. That cost is for her to decide.

If she was to get an abortion, it wouldn’t solve the issue. It would likely exacerbate it. She would resent her mum for forcing her to abort a wanted baby. She would still be homeless.

She’s stated multiple times she does not want an abortion. The topic should be dropped now.

Lots of anti choice or pro abortion posters on this thread. Turns out choice is only available if you are wealthy and white British... posters have been really cruel. This isnt aibu if some of you hadn't noticed.
OP, you are in such a difficult position, I'm so sorry. It is ok to want to keep your baby, just as much as it would be ok for someone else in your position to not want to.
Firstly, can your husband stay with your mum for a bit longer to prevent any visa problems? That would solve one problem.
Secondly, is your older child in nursery, or do you need to sort childcare?
Do you have a job or were you doing a trial when you couldnt get through the day? That will make a difference to maternity allowance etc.
I've had HG twice. Once I worked through, the other time I really couldn't. The very first thing you need to do is get yourself to a GP and get some anti sickness, it is safe and if you find one that works for you it makes all the difference.
Once your sickness is under control, get yourself into work (even a temp job) so that you can claim maternity allowance once the baby is born. I would think there should be some allowance on a spousal visa for maternity leave of the sponsoring spouse? You will want to check though.
Check what benefits you are eligible for in the meantime now you aren't a carer.
Do you have any friends you can stay with for a few weeks?
Sorry if I'm asking questions you have already gone through. I know when I had HG I couldn't make sense of things so thought it might be helpful to lay some things out here for you.
Best of luck with everything.

People on here are disgraceful trying to encourage people to end a pregnancy when they clearly don't want to.

Not everybody supports abortion you know.

I have my spidey senses tingling that someone is out to stay an abortion bun fight.

A partner/spousal visa requires the U.K. partner meets a minimum income requirement ( currently £22,400 for 1 child in addition to the partner). Out of interest how is this minimum income requirement met if you don’t work?

Hope Shelter can give you info.

OP HAS ALREADY ASKED PEOPLE NOT TO SUGGEST THIS

Please stop pressuring her people!!! You're being horrible

as a homeless person there are different processes in place to getting a roof over your head. Look online at your local district council as they may well have a homeless section and forms online to fill in. Then turn up on Monday to explain you are homeless and request temporary housing. From this you can be bidding for a flat, but will be much further up the list for a one bed flat as you are now homeless.

Wow I can't believe some of the replies here.
Op is asking for help in a vulnerable position and people are berating her and telling her to have an abortion???
Op I'm sorry I have no advice for you, however I really hope you find a way to get yourself and your family in a better position soon 💜

People who are poor are people you know. Getting out of poverty isn’t easy and it isn’t their fault. Poor people are allowed to have families. They are allowed to be and invariably are loving, caring parents doing their best who should not have to forego a chance at parenthood until they reach a financial threshold that is continually pushed out of reach. Ending poverty is what we need to work on not beating up people who are trying their best to look after their kids and themselves.

She already said it was an accidental pregnancy!!!!

Out of interest how is this minimum income requirement met if you don’t work?

if you work 60 hours per week at NMW your income would be £31000, so over the £22000 minimum income

I am my mum’s career and receive carers allowance. If you are too poorly to care for your mum and won’t continue the care once you leave her home you know that you need to inform the government if not this will be benefit fraud, you really don’t want that on top of your worries but you can not claim a benefit for something which you are not doing anymore.
Were you living abroad with your dh before living over here? You state that your mum has changed her mind just 6 months after your dh came to the U.K.

She does work. She’s a carer. There is an exemption for carers.

carer

This thread is making me lose faith in the goodness of people in this country

What horrible, horrible judgement and pressure people are throwing in the OP's face - it's unbelievable

This was me when I was in a abusive relationship and forced to keep my daughter. I ended up in hostels and hotels with my son for a bit and still in temp accommodation a year and a half later (Bristol). I have a nice flat now which is temp but it's one bedroom for me and my two kids. There is just no houses you may get lucky (some do) I also know people who spent years in hostels. Councils don't like people that make themselves homeless (which you have done by being pregnant) and don't make it easy for you: also as you have a mum they will likely pester her trying to get you to stay by putting you in horrible placees.

i would never be without my daughter now but I have hurt my son and i feel so guilty for that. Please consider your options. 2 childrens are so much more expensive so if your struggling living at your mums bills and household costs are way more.

people aren't being rude but you are being selfish and that's okay. Just know the next year will not be easy and baby's aren't counted at the council till they are 1 which means you don't get much support x

minimum income requirement has to be met by OP, not partner.

This exactly! Well said.

Thank you for explaining.

I think most people are just upset for the existing child who is about to be kicked out of her family home and have her daddy potentially taken away.