August Due Date Crew (Thread 9)

[DesertSnow]

Thread 9! I wonder if this will be the one most babies are born in - can't wait to hear all the happy announcements 😁

I'm really sorry if I've missed anyone, I've done my best. Do give me a shout if I've missed you or have your info wrong (apologies if so!), and I'll make a note.

Delivered! 👶

June 20th - @Miraclesdohappen88 💙

Due Dates 💥

July

26th - @MidnightSunshine12 💛
27th - @Spiralout 💙
29th - @DesertSnow 💖, @Mulner88 💖, @Porcupette 💛, @Loudmouth1 💛, @overwork 💛
31st - @BusyBushBaby 💖, @jjeanii 💖

August

1st - @CityKity 💛, @SnowL2021 💛
2nd - @sprollie11 💛, @ChloeN 💛
3rd - @PumpkinEverything 💙, @Chl0o 💙, @LS88 💛
4th - @BMK 💖, @Alpacabag22 💖, @Amme18 💛, @DomesticElf 💙
5th - @LBF2020 💛, @Desperatelyboredhousewife 💛, @BoodifulGoose 💖
6th - @buttercupbee 💛, @somuchtolearnabout 💛, @Rowanandremy 💙, @TattyTil 💛
7th - @marleyandme 💛
8th - @RGxo13 💙, @JT2021 💙, @Wineismybestfriend 💛
10th - @VickiGo 💙, @Sjw30 💛, @AlexM7 💛
11th - @tax19 💛, @nadsc 💛, @Rose05 💛, @sally16 💙
13th - @newmummie 💙, @Fizzmatizz 💛
14th - @Babykingincoming 💛
15th - @Gizzyanne 💛
16th - @Recoba 💛
17th - @Narwhal88 💖, @jollydollyirl 💛, @cococat88 💛
18th - @sommeliermama 💖, @EsmeSusanOgg 💛
19th - @Firsttimemomma1 💛, @P1pk 💛, @Marmaladebear 💖, @Stuwe 💛, @MartaEly 💛
20th - @BB1993 💖
21st - @BCxx 💖, @Justdancinginthedark 💛, @honeymirabella 💖, @allgoodthings84 💖
23rd - @MinnieFirstTimeMum 💙, @Owlgirl14 💖
24th - @Daisy155 💛
25th - @unluckyinlife 💛
26th - @MummaYoung2023 💛, @Wife2b 💛, @HRSC 💖
27th - @ropo34 💛
28th - @Shinea 💛
31st - @chickpea1982 💖

September

1st - @froglou 💛

Happy July everyone! I can't believe I'm due this month. I wonder how many July babies there will be on this thread?

Can definitely relate to the sleepless nights, I'm peeing 4 times a night and waking up from hip pain a lot. Sorry to hear that some of you are poorly as well, not what you need!

@AnnieApple123 Really hope you get some clarity soon and have a lovely summer with your little boy.

@DesertSnow every time I see you’ve posted for some reason I get all excited thinking that you’re posting to say you’ve had the baby! 😂 I think just because you’re a few weeks ahead of me and said you might go early!

@AnnieApple123 hope you can enjoy every minute with him over the summer. That’s a shame you still don’t have any answers, hopefully they will be able to give you some sort of information from all of these tests 😔 It must just feel like a never ending wait to hear if there’s any answers yet

@BCxx ha sorry! I'm 36 weeks today so may not be too long. I have my FMU appointment on Wednesday, when they'll decide whether baby needs to come early/how early. But things do seem more stable, thank goodness, and the deterioration has been slower than they initially thought. So who knows, maybe they'll let me go to term?

@DesertSnow crazy that you have literally a week left until baby is fully ready to go! I was a bit taken aback at Scarlett Moffat having her baby at 35 weeks and it seems she got to go home and baby didn’t have to spend time in NICU or anything. In my head no matter how many times I tell myself I’m nearly there I still imagine a baby with a while to go in there 🙈

Hopefully you’ll get more good news this week and will be able to go a few more weeks

@BCxx Yes, fingers crossed. Even if they decide she needs to come out on Wednesday, I'll be 36+4 so nearly full term anyway. Same, I can't believe there's an (almost) full-grown baby inside me, my bump seems far too small. I didn't see that about Scarlett, that's interesting the baby didn't need time in NICU.

@DesertSnow ive had two friends have babies at 37 weeks, one a few days before actually and neither needed NICU, just some oxygen when he was born. I swear they sometimes get people’s dates wrong though and that’s why some babies are so ready to go 😂

@AnnieApple123 sending you love and hugs, hope the drs can give you some answers. But either way home you enjoy the summer with your little boy. Lots of ice cream, photos and sand are in order i think. For both you and your little boy and other half.

@DesertSnow exciting stuff! Have you got some names ready or you have a sold 1 name picked out?

@BCxx i keep telling baby to only come out when he is good and ready. Feel like a bit of a kitchen oven at this point though.

So I'm a bit upset with my husband today. He has said he does not want me, or toddler and baby to stay with my parents after the birth as he doesn't really get along with my dad (neither do i to be honest but my dad dotes on his grandson and my mum was brilliant looking after me and newborn after my first pregnancy). But I've said it might need to be that way as he is so busy with work (starts at 9am and finished at 6pm, gets home by 7pm midday nights) i honestly don't see how he can take time away to help me in the first few weeks of looking after a toddler and a newborn baby. Also to be honest i think he would be rubbish at taking care of me. I don't want to come away resenting him if i was to rely on him and he let me down. Id rather not come to that but do you think i could manage with little or no help, looking after a toddler and newborn? Any one got any experiance of this? Advice greatly appreciated.

@sally16 how the cough is clearing up a bit now?

@Createcomet your toddler story is too familiar, my little boy is the same, sometimes it is a battle of wills to get a nappy on that toddler too. If you find anything that works to get a badly on wake let me know lol.

A lady from my NCT class had her baby last week at 35 weeks and was home within 24 hours, baby fine and no NICU. Born at a healthy weight of 6lbs too. My nephew was born at 34 weeks and had jaundice and a bit smaller at 4lb something but all good health wise other than being small.

I’m 35+3 now and feels strange that it could be any day now or it could be 7 weeks (potentially!) it’s the unknown that’s a bit unsettling. I went through my hospital bag yesterday to check we have everything ready but apart from that it’s just waiting now!

@LS888 that just seems so mad.. I don’t know why but I still feel like 35 weeks is sooo early when in reality it probably happens quite a bit!

@Paintandpots I don’t know what it’s going to be like having two but I will at least have my husband off the first two weeks. It’s more the csection recovery for me so I know I will struggle to be able to get to baby quickly (if like last time, they’re being sick in the moses basket) or lift my toddler in and out his cot etc. How far away do they stay? Could your mum come and stay with you as a kind of compromise? Or stay a couple of nights a week to let you get some rest. I think if you aim for really low standards of not having to be dressed and don’t aim to be anywhere you’ll be fine 😂

My husband never picks an outfit for my toddler and anytime he’s had to he’s shouted me from upstairs to ask me to come and find him something. Im going to sit a few outfits out (with vests, socks etc) so that’s one less thing he’ll ask me to get. Found myself kind of pathetically hobbling about my room last time trying to find anything I could put on (especially if people were coming round) so I’m going to sit a couple of easy things on the chair in my room all ironed before I leave so that cuts out two jobs for the first few days 😬

@Paintandpots I didn't have any family help last time round apart from husband taking first 3 weeks off (he took off loads more after I went back to work) and honestly it was so hard. And that was just with one! Lockdown meant we couldn't have family over so this time we're getting as much family support as we can and having my MIL stay a week and then my mum and then my FIL (even though he's basically useless and we've had to basically beg him to travel down to London to help he'll at least be able to play with our toddler and occasionally hold the baby). Definitely get as much help and support that you can - understand your husband might not like your dad but if there's a way to work around that so you can still get help from him and your mum I think it's totally worth it. Those newborn days and nights can be so brutal, having an extra pair of hands even just to put some dinner on or a wash on is sooo helpful. Honestly this time round we are going to ask for soo much help!!

On early births, my first was born at 37 weeks with no NICU stay (he was full term so I didn't expect NICU and was allowed the birth centre pool etc). I don't believe due dates tbh and have been sooo vague with people at work asking mine because more babies aren't born on their due date than are so I've barely thought about mine. Been counting down to 37 weeks! (So this baby will probably be born at 42 weeks now 😂) been telling everyone at work when they ask when I'm due that it's between end of July and mid August (it's true!) Had random people in the street ask when I'm due lol and they get the same answer

@Marmaladebear the ‘when are you due’ thing seems to get more intense the more pregnant you get then you get the whole ‘how are you keeping?’ random texts you haven’t had the whole way through, around the time people know the baby will be born, almost like they want to be the first to know. I had a section last time and felt like people were only asking as they knew it would be a week before my date but didn’t really want everyone knowing when it was. I was trying to just be vague but some people kept asking for the date!

Still feel like I’m down this ‘everything costs a fortune’ hole 😂 We’re so nearly there with the baby’s room now, all the big things are done but just have a couple of things still to get.. some more hangers, nappy bin refills, a nightlight, a shelf, curtains and a light shade. I’ve already spent £300 this week on small things on Amazon that have all just added up. Feel like I’m putting off ordering the last bits because I’m so fed up of constantly spending money 😩

Wow @BCxx I am so impressed!I don't think our 3 and 4yo even have a light shade or shelf! Their room has been em an organic development and I never had a nursery. But then if I were more settled when they came along it may have been different .eh but still no nursery this time: just a cot beside our bed!
@Paintandpots this isn't your husband's choice as he isn't available to help petty much at all; working that much effectively means he's not there,so it's just you and unless want to have a breakdown (well that's how I felt with 2 and no sleep) I would be recruiting all the help possible! If your parents want to come to you,great: but I'm guessing not and I don't see the issue with you getting minded by your Mum and your dad minding your son, irrespective of your husband's view of your dad. Sounds like he won't be at the house enough time per day for that to affect him,and particularly so if he's going to be bonding with the baby for the few waking hours he is there.
This is not about him,but you given that you've just carried the baby,will have given birth to baby and need to recover from pain and bleeding- alone at his suggestion whilst minding not just your existing child, but also a new baby! I genuinely get so annoyed with men who make these demands/points: tunnell vision about themselves.
Plus you add that he's not even very good at minding you- that alone should have you at your Mum's. You absolutely need help until you decide you don't.
My OH is equally awful at minding me and he equally wanted me not to go to my mum's and I was absolutely wrecked after 10 days (of doing all my normal things,plus baby Plus no minding of me) so went home to my parents' then; but was a much harder packing job 10 days in with newborn than to have gone initially.

@AnnieApple123 I can totally understand why you need to find out what has happened and why. It's hard to trek to the appointments and still not have a lot of evolving clarity.! I really hope you can find out and that,no matter what, its liklihood of reoccurring is low. My friend and her husband had sth similar (re genetic testing etc) as she kept miscarrying and they were told it was a genetic incompatibility and later that any boy baby would always miscarry and that their ability to have healthy baby unlikely. However they still couldn't identify exactly what was responsible for miscarriages. My poor friend was pregnant again and knew sth was wrong but was sent home from hospital only to return herself a day later demanding to see Consultant- who made her wait further hours and by time she was seen and diagnosed with the ectopic pregnancy, she had to have an ovary removed due to the liklihood of rupture at that stage. Unbelievable.
However they then went on,still without an actual answer, to have a healthy baby boy shortly after!!*none of it made sense and my friend was so annoyed at having been told they wouldn't be able to carry a boy ever to term and re no healthy baby due to genetic incompatibility (when actually the latter turned out to be incorrect too and was just an assumption).
But I have a feeling you're in better hands!(*this is in Ireland)
I am v glad in September you'll have time to yourself again every day!any plans for taking over the world with your multi skill-set!?winkgrin

@BMK I really don’t think you need one! We moved into our house over 2 years ago and still don’t have a light shade up in that room so that’s the only reason one is on the list 😂 I just can’t be bothered trying to run about getting these bits after but it feels like it’s never ending 🙄 you’re saving yourself a lot of money and hassle doing it your way!

@BCxx yeah I'm definitely getting more and more people asking now I'm sooo pregnant! I find it so weird absolute strangers in the street asking me though 😂 I guess they're just trying to make conversation and don't realise it's actually something I'm not sharing with most people.

@Marmaladebear and @BCxx I’ve also had strangers comment on whether they think it’s a girl or a boy. Not sure how they can tell at a quick glance!

@DesertSnow thank you so much for creating another thread I can’t believe we all have a few weeks to go! I have 8 weeks left and my hospital bag was undone when I had to spend the night at the hospital! Nothing major at all they just wanted to monitor the baby!

Now I need to redo it and do baby’s bag by the end of the week! I have been nesting so badly the house is so clean! But I am now just wishing the weeks away!

I am now on maternity leave and I absolutely cannot wait for the baby to come now!

@Marmaladebear I am getting all sorts of comments now before I wasn’t showing now I am and they literally keep coming, how many weeks? How does it feel in this heat ? A boy or a girl? Etc and not a lot of people know as well! Thankfully we live far from a lot of family and friends!

@Daisy155 can relate to wishing the weeks away! So exciting to know we're so close but it's the not knowing of when it will happen!

@LS888 hahaha people are so strange with pregnant women! Someone at work came up to me and was like "you are definitely having a boy!!" And I replied "it's a girl" pretty matter of factly and she looked so thrown and I thought ''oh no have I been rude!?" But I knew it was a girl by that point so it was my instinctive response 😂

@Daisy155 I feel like theres a bit of a script that some people do with all pregnant women they meet regardless of how well they know them! I know they don't mean any harm but I still find it annoying 😂 maybe it's my hormones!!

Sorry I’ve been a bit absent, after the scare I needed a bit of time away while we got organised. Looks like it was just a bit of a warning show as baby is (fingers crossed) still content at the moment, I’ve got the midwife tomorrow where hopefully she’ll confirm that he is finally in the head down position and that all of the contingency plans we’ve tentatively placed on the table aren’t needed just yet but obviously I won’t know until I see her.

@AnnieApple123 its so nice to hear from you, I’ve thought of you and your family often. I’m so sorry you don’t yet have answers, I hope you get them soon. Summer spent with your little boy sounds wonderful 😁

@Paintandpots I can’t comment on what it’s like to have two, this baby is my second but I do know that I couldn’t have done it the first time around without my wife as my full support. Knowing that I have that again not only makes me lucky, which I’ve never lost sight of, but also so incredibly relieved. I understand that your husband doesn’t get on well with your dad but by the sounds of things, your husband isn’t going to be around your dad long enough each day to make much of a difference - whereas you not having your parents support will make the world of difference to you and how you feel day to day. In this instance I’d be more inclined to do what is right for you and not what your husband wants and what makes him more comfortable. His comfort can’t come above yours when it will be you shouldering the children and trying to recover from childbirth - I’ve always said that you are never more vulnerable emotionally, mentally and physically, than you are when you’ve just had a baby and whatever works best for you, as long as it’s within reason, is something that should take precedence.

I don’t know if maybe I just have one of those faces but I’ve not had strangers commenting on my bump or asking inappropriate questions - probably for the best to be honest. I had a friend of my wife say I was huge the other week and I was not happy. I’m still sour about it now 😂 not helped by the fact that my bump seems to have grown a lot in the last two weeks and I’m finding things more difficult like getting my own socks on 😂 I’m struggling with exhaustion and really struggling to wake up on a morning, dd is very sweet and comes in to stroke my arm and gently tell me it’s morning but it’s like my eyelids are made of concrete. Can’t believe we don’t have long to go now

Hi ladies, Gosh it’s been a while and now we’re so close! I’ve had so much going on at work that baby has been bottom of the list, but luckily I’m starting Mat Leave early so this is my last week at work and then I can start to get things like hospital bags sorted!
I’ll be 36 weeks tomorrow which makes me slightly sick with nerves, but also expecting to go over as everyone tells FTMs that’s most likely.
I have some slightly TMI questions for you ladies that are at the same stage. Colostrum harvesting? Yay or Nay? Is everyone doing this? Should I be? I’m just blindly hoping it will come in post labour as honestly I feel a bit icky trying to harvest now.
Secondly, perineum massage (or using a epi-no/Aniball) - is everyone doing this? Again I don’t want to increase my risk of tearing just for the sake of not really loving the idea of a perineum massage.
Theres just so much to think about and I don’t want to not be as best prepared physically as I can be, but also I’m just hoping my body will do it’s thing (naive I know!)