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Due October 2023 - thread 7

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Soda123x · 21/05/2023 09:44

Hi guys. Another new thread here.
Baby #2 for us. Currently 17wk5. Baby due 24th Oct.
20 week scan on 9th June - planning to not finder out sex. We didn't with our 1st and loved the excitement of not knowing. We literally bought a pack of 6 white babygrows to take to the hospital and then when our DS was born we got loads of boys clothes from family & friends as gifts.
This worked well for us as I felt he did wear everything more than once.
My sis who found out she was having a little girl bought loads of clothes herself and then all the gifts from family too. She felt as though alot of it was wasted either only worn once if at all. Some stuff still had tags on when she took it to the charity shop xx

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OrionNebula · 29/05/2023 20:36

Thanks everyone, yes was so great to see her 🥰 @monsteramunch good luck on Wednesday! I do know what you mean, a big part of me feels this pregnancy is dragging and I can't wait for it to be over but another part of me is telling me to try and enjoy and make the most of it as this will definitely be the last time for us.

JoanneV · 29/05/2023 22:20

Congrats @OrionNebula such a relief for everything to be okay. Mines not for another two weeks. Am I right in saying we don't need a full bladder for this one? Thought i was gonna pee myself at the 12w scan. 😂

I'm a bit nostalgic already for being pregnant and I'm not even 20 weeks. But at the same time I've been up and down emotionally and physically throughout so its difficult to say if I'll miss it too much!

Mamabear345 · 30/05/2023 09:59

Has anyone been told if they can or cannot take antihistamines?
sent a message to midwife but waiting for a response.
struggling 🤦🏻‍♀️

ES1986 · 30/05/2023 10:19

Mamabear345 · 30/05/2023 09:59

Has anyone been told if they can or cannot take antihistamines?
sent a message to midwife but waiting for a response.
struggling 🤦🏻‍♀️

I asked the midwife about antihistamines a couple of weeks ago and was told I can’t take any. I’m going to struggle this summer too!

Mamabear345 · 30/05/2023 10:34

ES1986 · 30/05/2023 10:19

I asked the midwife about antihistamines a couple of weeks ago and was told I can’t take any. I’m going to struggle this summer too!

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@ES1986 such conflicting advice out there when the NHS website says some are safe too!
I spent a fortune at local farm shops buying local honey… hopefully it helps 🤣🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

SillyOldBear3 · 30/05/2023 13:24

I had my 20 week scan today, baby's measurements were looking fine, but he/she was such a wriggler that they weren't able to get them all, so I'm back in 2 weeks for another scan!

They weren't able to tell us the sex as the cord was wrapped around that area! 🫢 So I have another long two weeks to wait, in the hope that the cord is in a better place next time! 🤞

cruciverbalista · 30/05/2023 15:01

Glad the scans went well @OrionNebula and @SillyOldBear3 . Jealous you get to see yours again in a few weeks @SillyOldBear3 !
Bought a bunch of floaty summer tops over the weekend so I'm much happier with my wardrobe now. (And a kimono which I might live in postpartum!)

peonygirl · 30/05/2023 15:09

@cruciverbalista where did you get a kimono? or you mean yukata? I wish Uniqlo would sell these but as far as I know they don't. They are great for the summer. Good buy with the tops too! I am yet to find anything I like.

cruciverbalista · 30/05/2023 15:14

@peonygirl they had one of those "buy clothes by the kg" events kind of nearby over the bank holiday. I had a great time! It probably is a yukata, thanks for prompting me to learn more :) I'm a big robe girl so I couldn't resist.

peonygirl · 30/05/2023 15:17

@cruciverbalista I am totally envious, I love these kind of events :) you can sometimes find a gem and I am sure you'll enjoy your new outfit addition. I love yukatas (kimono is heavier and not so comfortable, at least not to me).

Chanteuse · 30/05/2023 18:34

@SillyOldBear3 I’ve also got to go back for a second scan! Mine is a week today💕 just looking forward to seeing babs again

SillyOldBear3 · 30/05/2023 18:41

@Chanteuse Aw is yours because they couldn't get all the measurements too? There were 2 she wasn't able to get today, so hopefully next time baby will be less wriggly!

All looked fine with the other measurements though so I'm so glad about that! 💕

Chanteuse · 30/05/2023 18:45

@SillyOldBear3 yeah! Opposite problem for me as I have a lazy baby who couldn’t be bothered moving 🤣 they need to do heart, face and abdominal wall for me

Phoenixwings1989 · 30/05/2023 20:35

Pleased to read that those of you who have had your 20 week scans everything was fine - despite very wriggly or lazy babies.

It's my turn tomorrow afternoon and I'm feeling nervous but excited to see baby again.

I'm struggling with my self image at the moment. Everything I wear just makes me look fat not pregnant. I'm really unhappy and I think it's affecting my mood a lot.

I've also been experiencing feelings of guilt in the past couple of weeks and just had invasive thoughts that I don't deserve to be pregnant. That's upsetting too. I spoke to the midwife today about it and she has suggested talking therapy as she thinks it is in relation to my miscarriage last year.

Just struggling in general and feel terrible that I am.

iloveeggs · 30/05/2023 20:53

@Phoenixwings1989 I'm struggling with body image this week too, everything makes me feel fat and frumpy. It's hard to accept it, but you're not alone with that. It's making me sad.

Therapy might be a good call for all the thoughts you're having. I hope you feel a little better soon xx

peonygirl · 30/05/2023 21:02

@Phoenixwings1989 I would support your midwives advice. I am consistently supported by a psychologist and she is guiding me through any sort of thoughts I am experiencing. We are flooded with hormones and rather emotionally vulnerable so it is likely we all face one challenge or another. I won't say you shouldn't feel the way you do - my psychologist is teaching me all emotions are right, we feel as we do, we need to accept our emotions and work through them so they don't have negative impact on our lives. Don't feel bad about how you feel, it is ok if you don't feel ok all the time. I felt so rubbish through the first trimester I could not be "happy about being pregnant" and felt horrible about it. I was told some women don't feel "happy" until they hold the baby, and all this is ok. We just construct the idea of what we suppose to feel or look like, but that's not reality.

cruciverbalista · 31/05/2023 10:43

@Phoenixwings1989 I hope you are proud of yourself for reaching out to the midwife and looking to get help. That takes so much strength and courage. You deserve to enjoy this pregnancy, to give yourself grace and to embrace the beauty in your body which is doing something so incredible right now. (you too @iloveeggs and actually ALL of us!) I hope seeing your baby today brings some joy! xx

MeganC104 · 31/05/2023 10:58

As I'm having a gender surprise, we're trying out all those old wives tales to see they predict correctly. So far:
Heart rate - girl
Craving sweet - girl
Wedding ring test - boy
Chinese calendar - girl

Anymore I've missed. At the moment it's all leaning towards girl 🤣

Summer022 · 31/05/2023 11:27

19 weeks tomorrow and still no flutters/movement. Trying not to stress and worry but can’t help it. Been just over 2 weeks since my private scan where everything was ok and he had a strong heartbeat. Hopefully he’s ok, desperate to feel something soon 😞

OrionNebula · 31/05/2023 14:33

@Phoenixwings1989 sorry to hear you are struggling. I've had a lot of anxiety in this pregnancy too, it seems to be easing a bit now. I hope you get some good support x

cruciverbalista · 31/05/2023 14:35

@Summer022 do you know if you have an anterior placenta?

Alexandra07 · 31/05/2023 14:40

@Phoenixwings1989 you are not the only one feeling like this. You should be proud of yourself for opening up and asking for help. I would use any therapy available, we are full of hormones and emotions we may not usually have. Be gentle on yourself, your body is doing an amazing job at growing a little human! ❤

Summer022 · 31/05/2023 15:47

@cruciverbalista i have no idea! I’m guessing not, only because nobody has ever told me that I have an anterior placenta. Unless they will tell me at my 20 week scan. Just makes me feel uneasy. xx

cruciverbalista · 31/05/2023 15:51

@Summer022 I don't think they would've really known yet at the 12 week scan-- no clue if it's the kind of thing they mention at a private scan. Mine is posterior so I can feel my baby often, depending on which way he is facing. I'm 21 weeks now and feel him daily, but 2 weeks ago it was a lot less. If your 20 week scan isn't coming up for a while and you're concerned, maybe the midwives will give you a doppler? X

Phoenixwings1989 · 31/05/2023 16:17

I am sorry to read you are also struggling with this @iloveeggs. I've tried talking therapy in the past and didn't find it useful so I'm hesitant to think it will this time.

@peonygirl I am glad you are being supported by a psychologist. I tried to see one a few years back but was declined as they thought it was more to do with me being austistic than the constant trauma I suffered as a child/teen. You're right; we shouldn't beat ourselves up for feeling a certain way during pregnancy.

@cruciverbalista, @OrionNebula and @Alexandra07 thank you!

I started a reply earlier this morning but got sidetracked with having to catch transport to get to my appointment for my 20-week scan. Unfortunately it didn't happen. I was waiting ages. Four buses went out not in service, two buses didn't show and when one did turn up they were ten minutes late!

My appointment was for ten to two but didn't arrive until twenty past and understandably that was far too late so they rescheduled for two weeks time at 13th June.

I'm so annoyed!