Due October 2023 - thread 6

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Hi all new thread again as they are filling up very fast.
Baby #2 for me. Due 24.10.23 - not finding out sex xx

Aah congrats @LaylaHL2023 - another boy for the group!

@NSx - aw, your comment that we have everything in this life planned out made me laugh, in a kind way. Nothing in my life is planned, or goes as planned? I work in a super volatile industry on very short boom/busy cycles and some days I am watching what is happening and think "well, maybe this will be the death blow and we will fold today". But all of life plays out a bit like this for me - never had a clear sense of where my career was (or is) going, what country I would live in etc. ect. I guess I am attracted to that unplanned feeling about my life. I hope you equally find the stability/planning that you seem to successfully execute in the rest of your own life equally as appealing.

@cruciverbalista my reason is similar to NSx - one of life’s few true surprises. I’ve always felt that I wouldn’t want to find out before birth to avoid buying too much gendered stuff/having unconscious gender bias. Have to say that once I was actually pregnant I felt less strongly about this and had my husband wanted to know then I would have happily have found out but he doesn’t so here we are. Have to say I’m not naturally a highly curious person so that probably helps 😉. I can also imagine if we do go on to have more children that then we would perhaps find out in pregnancy to help make it feel more real for the older siblings.

I find it interesting that on this thread the vast majority are finding out (seems that way anyway!) but in real life it is the other way around... we're unusual among our circle of friends for choosing to find out. 3 other women at work besides me are pregnant too and none finding out.

Hi ladies hope you are all okay and enjoying your weekends! Congrats to all those on your scans and finding out what you’re having ❤️ I have my 20 week on Monday and can’t wait to see my little girl again!

I’ve been to a bbq this evening which I’ve left in tears… there was another girl there, very drunk who was repeatedly grilling me and trying to scare me with detailed horror stories about birth. It was in front of everyone, including people I don’t really know and she made me feel totally awkward, vulnerable and uncomfortable, I didn’t know how to respond. I’ve left without saying bye feeling so deflated and upset - why do people think that just because you’re pregnant, it automatically gives them a free pass to comment on your situation and life? It’s made me feel I don’t want to be in social situations where people are drinking as much, in fear of feeling so alone again 👎🏻

Don’t really know why I’m posting this but first thing I thought was I wanted to come and chat to you lot about it, to see if any of you could relate! 😂

Ugh what a nasty thing for her to have done @VanillaOat

It's like a worse version of the people who ask how your pregnancy is and if you mention feeling exhausted, give you the "ooh if you think you're tired now, wait til the baby arrives!" speech as if we don't already bloody know we'll be even more exhausted!

Speaking to pregnant women seems to sometimes bring out the best in people and sometimes do the opposite.

I've been surprised at how openly people comment on your body / bump size and shape in front of other people as if you aren't connected to your body anymore and it's an inanimate object!

@VanillaOat @monsteramunch the comments/stories from others are the man reason I actually enjoyed my lockdown pregnancy so much!

My main gripe this time is people wanting us to have a girl - like my 2 boys aren't good enough that I'd want a third! I don't mind what we have but the thought that I'd only have another to hope it's a girl winds me up no end! To the point where I almost hope it's a boy out of sheer pettiness to annoy everyone else😅

@BeaKind do you have any idea what you’re having? like a gut feeling? It is exciting to wait and find out, but also I am dying to know at the same time 😂😂 …

@EMcG3 I meant more in the grand scheme of things, like you wake up, goto work, plan summer holidays, organise trips, days out, dinners etc, I didn’t mean that literally every aspect of life goes to plan as there are many variables but more so the fact that in life, this is truly one of life’s only pure mysteries/surprises that you have 0 control over, but that you can choose wether or not you want to know in advance. I can see with your lifestyle that may not be the case if you’re always kept on your toes wondering what comes next. (I hope things are straightforward for you at the minute as I can imagine it can be quite stressful for you & pregnancy is hard enough 😫.
I guess the way I look at it is like your birthday, if you know in advance what you’re getting for your birthday it’s not as exciting - where as if you get a surprise, you are more excited for the actual day.
How are u doing this pregnancy? I hope positive scans etc are helping with your anxiety levels, they’re defo helping mine this time 😊🤍

@Saturnsmoon I have found we haven’t bought much at all as everything seems much more focused on a specific gender 😂😂😄 so it’s quite hard.
I too think if this was my second child I would maybe feel differently as the logics of having a different gendered child the second time round would be good to know in advance, but as this is my first it’s irrelevant 😂

@VanillaOat I hope you’re ok 😫🤍you are definitely not alone I find drunk people extremely annoying at the minute.
Just remember everyone’s birth stories will be different take what she said with a pinch of salt. She’s just rude!

@NSx with my first, we found out she was a girl, bought all girls stuff (far too much!) and then two weeks before she arrived I had this sudden change of mind that I only
wanted her to wear white so bought a tonne of white sleepsuits and that’s all she wore for the first 6 weeks 😂 I’ve no idea why!

@VanillaOat I am sorry you had such a bad experience on a day that was supposed to be a fun day! I had read in the past an article which I can't find one called "would you like some bean sauce" or something similar. The idea is when someone starts asking questions you don't want to answer you can reply with some generic like maybe, I haven't thought of it, that's a good question etc and then immediately change the topic, would you like some bean sauce? Or offer any other food there is around!

@Ss32 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I can’t find many nice things of neutral colour at the minute, but will pick up some bits before the baby gets here.

out of curiosity did you finally put colour on your baby girl ? 😅😂😂

Another new thread here guys ❤

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/4810616-due-october-2023-thread-7?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

@NSx I know there’s a new thread but thought I’d reply here. Yes, eventually she wore everything, pink, purple, grey, white, black etc. They make their own plans eventually though, she’s 2.5 now and OBSESSED with dresses, that’s all she wants to wear!

@Ss32 that’s the cutest 🥹🩷 … I’m going to buy just white/cream and see how it goes. We already got gifted our first sleepsuit 🥹

@NSx aww gorgeous! That sleepsuit is in my basket for the next order too 😍 I had one last time for my little girl and bought it in newborn, it only fit her once because she was 8lb 9oz 🙈

@Ss32 Next has lots of lovely wee bits hasn’t it. I saw a few I want to order, but as this is my first baby I have no clue what size to buy 😂

My mam got us the same one 😊

I've also got a similar set with hat etc out of m and s

@ttcttc so cute isn’t it 🤍 .. I went into M&S yesterday but couldn’t see much tbh. I found loads of nice bits online at Next so I’ll probs order them.

@NSx I was so confused by sizing with my first. You've got newborn, then 0-1 month then 0-3 month 🤯 I'm sticking with neutral babygrows and long sleeve vets in each of these 3 sizes. I'll probably get around 10 of each purely because the poop explosions were insane with my breastfed baby

@MeganC104 omg 😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣 poop explosions. Will u take all 30 to the hospital?

@NSx i fell in love with that sleep suit. Bought it for the announcement in the end 💕

@AlongcameLainey oh how lovely 😊 are u finding out if it’s a girl or boy?

Our local one is rubbish I got it at the one in Manchester. The baby stuff in m and s is really nice quality x

Such a cute sleepsuit!

I didn't receive really any clothes for a small baby with my first one, I had bought some newborn things and just a few 0-3 months. She was too big for the newborn clothes! She wore directly 0-3 clothes! She was 3.6kg. my husband had to buy the right size clothes for the baby after she was born and him shopping baby clothes was so stressful! For everyone! 😂