August Due Date Crew (Thread 8)

[DesertSnow]

Thread 8! Apologies if I have anyone's info wrong - just give me a shout if so and I'll make a note.

Newcomers welcome!

July
26th @MidnightSunshine12 💛
29th @DesertSnow 💖, @Mulner88 💖, @Porcupette 💛, @Loudmouth1 💛, @overwork 💛
31st @AnnieApple123 💛, @BusyBushBaby 💖, @jjeanii 💖

August
1st @CityKity 💛, @SnowL2021 💛
2nd @sprollie11 💛, @ChloeN 💛
3rd @PumpkinEverything 💙, @Chl0o 💙, @Miraclesdohappen88 💛, @LS88 💛
4th @BMK 💖, @Alpacabag22 💛, @Amme18 💛, @UsernameNotPresent 💙, @Spiralout 💙
5th @LBF2020 💛, @Desperatelyboredhousewife 💛, @BoodifulGoose 💖
6th @buttercupbee 💛, @somuchtolearnabout 💛, @Rowanandremy 💙, @TattyTil 💛
7th @marleyandme 💛
8th @RGxo13 💙, @JT2021 💙
10th @VickiGo 💙, @Sjw30 💛, @AlexM7 💛
11th @tax19 💛, @nadsc 💛, @Rose05 💛, @sally16 💙
13th @newmummie 💙
14th @Babykingincoming 💛
15th @Gizzyanne 💛
16th @Recoba 💛
17th @Narwhal88 💖, @jollydollyirl 💛@cococat88 💛
18th @sommeliermama 💖, @EsmeSusanOgg 💛
19th @Firsttimemomma1 💛, @P1pk 💛, @allgoodthings84 💛, @Marmaladebear 💖, @Stuwe 💛, @MartaEly 💛
21st @BCxx 💖, @Justdancinginthedark 💛, @honeymirabella 💖
23rd @MinnieFirstTimeMum 💙
25th @unluckyinlife 💛
26th @MummaYoung2023 💛, @Wife2b 💛
27th @ropo34 💛
28th @Shinea 💛

September
1st @froglou 💛

I’ve had comments about my size again this week too and it just makes me worry. I feel like I have a big-ish bump. Looking at it in the bath last night I can see it is an obvious bump at 23 weeks boot just bloat like it was a few weeks ago. But both people today said I look small and they couldn’t believe I was 23 weeks. My head then goes into overdrive and googling what I should weigh now and looking at other peoples bumps etc. but I am a FTM so going to be smaller than mums with other children. It’s just annoying how one comment can get to me!!

@marleyandme thanks so much and for making me feel less alone in this feeling! Feels like every other day there’s something else I’ve not thought to consider and have to ferociously google and learn about! Sounds fab and just what I’m in need of 😊 it’s nice to be around others that are in a similar position. Will give the FB group a check out too!

@marleyandme @LBF2020 Thank you for taking the time to reply to me.

@marleyandme I’m hoping it’s something that will ease off once I’ve gotten more used to the bump being so prominent. I think hormones definitely have a part to play in it too. I keep trying to remind myself that all of this won’t matter in the long run when he’s here and I’ll look back on this and be annoyed at myself for not taking the time to enjoy it more.

@LBF2020 I’ve always struggled with my weight, I’ve only been happy once with my weight and that was years ago. It’s a strange thing when you’re pregnant and you have either people commenting on your weight or obviously looking at your stomach - even if it’s meant kindly I always want to hide away or hide under baggy clothes. Unfortunately I don’t have many of those and with summer on the way I’ve no chance, I was pregnant throughout winter last time so it wasn’t something I had to worry about. I completely understand that, I’m carrying high this time around and all that’s doing is pushing my boobs up even more and they honestly didn’t need the help. I know my mum didn’t mean it maliciously at all and she’d be really upset if she knew she’d hurt me, I know she’s so happy for us - I think it’s a case of poor timing for me really.

@LS888 I’m 23 weeks tomorrow and I really feel like I’ve got a big bump, I felt like that last time too but I feel it more this time. My wife keeps saying that both times I’ve had small bumps but I’ve found it hard to believe it. I’m quite a petite height so I feel like it becomes really obvious that I’m either overweight, something I’ve suffered with a lot during my life, or pregnant and both things garner looks. I’m quite a self conscious person which doesn’t help. I completely get what you mean about being annoyed one comment can get to you, if only it was that way with compliments!

You’d think by 2023 we could just put some sort of national announcement out to say do not comment on pregnant women’s bodies, no one wants to hear it. I can’t think of one time when someone commented on it in this pregnancy or the last one where I’ve actually felt better about myself as a result of it.

I hated the summer for how much you had to ‘show off’ compared to the winter when you can hide under a big jumper. I especially hated it after the baby was born and it just felt so much worse than being pregnant as I was no longer pregnant and just did not want anyone to look at me at all 🙈 That was one of the most stressful parts of the early days for me last time. Particularly when the in-laws were coming as both of them make overly forward comments, MIL often comments on my bump and I just felt like I had to put so much preparation into their visit so I could look as un-pregnant as possible to try to ward off any comments that might tip me over the edge 🙃 it would be so much easier in the winter where you could wear loose joggers and an oversized jumper and no one would know what was going on under there

Oh I feel exactly the same, I said to my partner today how it was irritating me that I have to walk around with a massive sign on me that says I'm having a baby, whilst he can just carry on as normal.

My parents were down last weekend, we only told them on Friday, and by Sunday Mum was laughing saying she was convinced that the bump had grown bigger just since Friday, I snapped at her that just as it's rude to mention my figure pre-pregnancy, it's just as rude to mention it when I am pregnant.
She later said something about how next time I see her (May) I really would be 'blooming'. I had to tell her again that I am not enjoying any part of getting bigger and that I've asked her not to mention it.
I'm really hoping they take it on board because they are so excited, which is lovely, and it's all meant kindly, but it's going to really make me cross if it carries on.

@SummerBump23 im the opposite. I am tall and have a long torso so think people comment and then say but you’re tall so there is more space for baby to grow without popping out so much. You can win! As @BCxx said please just keep comments to yourself because it isn’t helpful or needed!!

It’s our 1st wedding anniversary today so we are going back to our wedding venue for Sunday lunch and no DIY jobs today. We’ve spent all of the bank holiday so far doing up the garden (much needed!) but definitely in need of a break now. Think I’ve painted 12 fence panels over the past 2 days! It’s also my parents 40th wedding anniversary so we are seeing them this morning with a few gifts and some cake and Buck’s Fizz (would so love a glass but just OJ for me!). Then it’s a chilled out day hopefully 😊

Hope you have all enjoyed the bank holiday and happy Easter!

Hello lovelies!!
I think I can feel bit of fluttering movements now occasionally!! I will be 20w tomo.. finally some peace 🤗

@Owlgirl14 @RGxo13 today's looking to be another sunny day so I will sit out again for that sunshine and vit d!!
I know exactly how you feel, I don't think I'm big enough to complain about my body parts moving to make space but I really can't get comfortable at all, sitting or laying down.
My sleep isn't great I keep waking up to turn to the other side and it takes a while to fall asleep again but I'm just thinking it won't get any better anymore!

Really sucks about people mentioning your shape. I had someone touch my tummy yesterday when they saw me 1st time after I've announced. I still find it strange that people think its OK to do that without asking! This isn't a public tummy when we're pregnant!!!! Sorry all, I'm just not a fan at all.

@Shinea so happy for you! It's a lovely feeling and it will get stronger from now on!

Can anyone recommend what foundations/ tinted moisturisers are safe to use once baby is born? I tend to wear make up most days and I'm almost finishing my usual l, but I wanted something I could wear when baby is here so it's safe if I'm kissing them or them me?

Happy Easter Sunday!!

Just found this and answered my own question re: safe foundations. In case anyone else wanted the link- https://www.15minutebeauty.com/pregnancy-safe-foundation.html

@P1pk It certainly is and I'm sat out in the garden eating lunch.

Is anyone else is spring clean mode. I've just washed my car and cleaned inside which I usually hate doing! I've always taken it elsewhere to get done!

Just in case anyone is looking for a car seat (I think it’s everywhere), Tesco is doing the Joie spin 360 from £240 down to £129 if you have a club card. Massive saving!

@BCxx I would be all for that kind of announcement, people take pregnancy as like a free for all I think - suddenly they can comment on all aspects of your life and body as if it’s suddenly ok. My pregnancy with dd was mostly through winter so I lived in oversized jumpers and until I was about 34ish weeks it really hid the bump well. I’m dreading summer for how ‘exposed’ the bump is going to be, I can already tell I’m going to be so self conscious about it.

@overwork it is like a neon sign advertising you’re pregnant isn’t it? Especially with the warmer weather, I’m not a fan of all the eyes on my stomach to be honest. I’m sorry about your mum, hopefully she takes on board your wishes and comfort levels. I get being excited but it can be really hard when you want that excitement but not comments that make you uncomfortable or unhappy.

@Shinea Yay!! So exciting!

@P1pk Oh wow at the audacity of someone touching your stomach, I am not a fan of that at all. It’s never actually happened to me, my wife says it’s because I have an epic grouchy face that puts people off the attempt. Good! I don’t want people putting their hands on me.

@Owlgirl14 I am in spring cleaning mode, I was obsessively cleaning a wall earlier because it looked dirty 😂 every little thing I’m noticing needs doing I’m right on it - not like me at all!

@BCxx is it possible for you to link that deal? Can’t find it anywhere.

@Rowanandremy I couldn’t get it online either but a friend posted a picture of it on Facebook, she was in the shop and got it, there’s a sign up saying it’s a clubcard deal so I’m assuming it’s everywhere. I’m going to go in tomorrow and hope they have some left.

I totally feel self conscious of it. I don’t mind so much with random people for some reason, maybe because they don’t tend to comment and I almost rather look pregnant than just fat at this stage but I just hate how people I know comment every time they see me like I have no idea 🙈 It also seems to give people the free reign to ask if you’ll be having any more etc when you’re literally still pregnant with this one

@BCxx Thank you! I hope you manage to get Hold of one.

I get what you mean about rather looking pregnant than fat, I’m self conscious of either but I think being self conscious of pregnancy is because with dd I mostly hid under oversized clothes so to me it was a lot less noticeable and I got a lot less looks. It’s so strange how seeing a pregnant woman makes peoples filters just disappear and they say the strangest or most invasive things like it’s somehow acceptable. I can accept that easier from family in a way because I know I can tell them honestly that it’s not a question I want to answer or I’m not comfortable with it. In general I’m quite socially awkward so I’d struggle with questions like that I think, I let my grouchy face put people off 😂 and try my best to ignore anyone looking at my stomach - some days I’m better at it than others.

I accidentally wore my smaller work tunic today and felt really pregnant and quite vulnerable for some reason!
And 2 patients put their hand on my bump, one felt a kick and they got so happy.. so I felt a bit uncomfortable but seeing them happy kinda erased it 😂
The other told me to go get a cuppa and send another support worker in to help so it was also a win 🤣

Oh blimey, I'm not sure I could cope with patients touching me! Hopefully I also give off too grouchy a vibe for them to try.

Just been out for dinner with friends, we've finally got around to telling all 3 sets of parents and various siblings, so have started telling friends. This group are more his friends than mine, and there were so many opportunities to bring it into conversation, particularly when one of the other couples was talking about their baby who is due end of August... and he just didn't.
We never have cross words, we always agree on pretty much everything, I can't put my finger on why this has upset me so much but I'm so angry with him.
Every time I get dressed he tells me that I'm getting bigger and I can't hide it and no one's going to be fooled anymore, but then at a perfectly suitable moment to tell people he didn't, meanwhile I'm sat with a bag over my belly and didn't even want to go to the loo because I do look really big from sidewards on.
Neither of us would ever choose to be centre of attention but it just seemed like such an opportune time.
So now I'm in bed ignoring him which is particularly mature of me

Oh @overwork that's really miserable for you. All I can say to thst is "men"..; do you think he understands st all? Or did he not hear it as all he heard was you giving out?*again "men"!! @sally16 you are kind of hilarious and thanks again re bf and holiday info.
When are you off work again?**given that your work sounds so demanding

You're right, it's now irritatingly clear that he really doesn't get it. What does he think is going to happen, we're just going to appear with a baby in 4 months time and that will somehow be easier to explain than letting people know now?
He also said he felt it was more 'the other couples night', but they told us ages ago that they were pregnant, it's not new news.
He wouldn't tell anyone last night either, but that was an engagement party and knowing the girl, she probably would have preferred if we didn't so that didn't feel as weird behaviour.
So that's two nights in a row I've sat there feeling uncomfortable trying to hide myself while he plans holidays / weddings / golf trips with them that he knows full well he can't attend, he just doesn't want to slip into conversation that we could be a little busy in August and maybe we'll have to park those kinds of plans for a bit.

Ok that's just weird and annoying!!! It makes it seem like you're coming second to others.(*I'm sure however that's not how he intended or sees it).With the engagement party I can understand but not at the dinner. Is he self conscious or the kind who defers to others/takes a back seat?

@overwork yeh I'd have been a bit annoyed at him not saying either, my partner texted all his friends a photo of the scan at 10 weeks but he can't keep a secret to save himself I was shocked he lasted that long 😂

@BMK June 😵‍💫 but today was decent, it didn't feel overwhelming, everything was going well etc!
So I'm kinda torn if I should do days instead of nights more but I'd miss out on so much money 🤦🏼‍♀️

Could you do week on/off days/nights or mix of days and nights? You have your whole life to make money so the difference in that in the next 12 weeks shouldn't be determinative!

That's what I do atm! A week days and then nights but it's just childcare too, before I had DS I was able to just do anything but now I'm very limited to what I can do :( nights is usually easier but omg recently it's been chaos! I'm gonna see if I can maybe do a day then night so my weeks still worth it!

@overwork oh no! I bet you were sitting on edge as they were talking about being due in august, just waiting for him to say it too. It is going to get to the stage that itl be obvious if he doesn’t hurry up 🙈 It would have been nice to tell them in person but do you think he’d just do a text or something just to get it out there? The other couple will probably be so shocked