35 weeks pregnant, how to put baby up for adoption

[solosunflower]

As the title says really, how would I start this process?

How are you doing?

Hope you're good sunflower -the bouncer is a god send! Xx

Do you have a baby carrier/ sling?

Hello everyone!

Just wanted to give a little update. My son is four months tomorrow! We are moving into a much better place. There's definitely been a reduction in the crying. On reflection, I'm not sure there was a medical problem. I think he was simply getting use to the world in a loud way. When I look back, I am surprised we got through those first 12 weeks! I am seeing progress everywhere from sleep to play mat time. He's still pretty full-on, but we are gradually getting there. Thank you so much to everyone who offered support. It really did help!

Really glad to hear that, @solosunflower — I found the first few months absolutely awful, too, and wish I’d been able to see ahead to the gorgeous little boy that cross, fractious, sleepless, crying newborn would turn into!

Having a newborn so horribly hard. I found 3 months a turning point, then again at 6 months their personality is really coming through.
Enjoy your baby

I've been keeping an eye on your thread since the start OP and I'm so glad to read your latest update

My eldest is well into his teens now but I still remember how awful the first few months were. I don't know cried more, me or him - and he cried a lot!! I had no idea it would be so hard. But it really does get easier and I'm so pleased to hear that you're finding that now. You sound like such a lovely person, your baby is so lucky to have you. Enjoy every minute, the years fly by unfortunately!

@solosunflower Fantastic, happy baby = happy mummy! 😊

Glad it's all settling down. Are you getting out and about? It's good pram pushing weather!

No, OP, no judgement here. But I will say, that for so many adults who have been adopted, the tie to their birth parents, to meet them, to know them and why they were given up is very very strong, even with the happiest of adopted families.

Make sure you aren't thinking of a long term solution to a temporary problem. Explore all possibilities. Then the child will know that it wasn't a rushed decision and that you felt there was no other choice.

Late to it OP. Sorry. Will rft!!!

@solosunflower what a lovely update. Sounds like your doing a fantastic job and your little boy is thriving. 💕

You really need to read the entire thread, your comments don't match what has actually happened!

@Bluebellsbells maybe you should too!

So pleased to read your update, OP, you sound like a fabulous mum.
Your baby will still protest loudly about life from time to time, sensible baby, rational response, don't we all want to do that at times??!!

Hi @solosunflower so happy you are moving to a better place and life is getting better with the crying , I had my baby a little girl 1 week ago were doing well , keep letting us know how you get on please I like hearing from you I was worried at the beginning but it's so nice to know you and the baby are thriving together x

I agree with @airmaxJ i like hearing your updates as it’s nice to know how well you are doing after such a challenging situation you have overcome.

@airmaxJ congratulations on the birth of your little girl as well xxx

This is such a fab update.

Before you know it, he'll be a toddler - and that is the absolute best. The only bit of parenting I'd like to do again is toddlers. And you've got it still to come!

@solosunflower

What a lovely update, I can't believe he is 4 months already.
So happy for you that you stuck it out and better days are here.
Your baby has the mummy deserves. I hope you are proud of yourself

OP your post has given me a big smile. Well done for persevering through those hard weeks. I hope your move goes well. You really are a brilliant Mum .X

So pleased that you’re feeling brighter. I wish you both well.

@solosunflower How are you doing? hows your little man? xx

I saw a sunflower yesterday and thought of you. Sending my best and hoping you are both doing well.

Aw hello, thank you so much! Sunflowers are the cheeriest of flowers!
We are still plodding along. 6.5 months now and weaning :) It's still very tough, but we're trying.
I have reserved a nursery place for my son and the plan is to return to work 3 days in Feb. Long term plan is moving into a better paid role before I remortgage!

Good to hear from you.

Good to hear from you too , I had a little girl nearly 3 months now, she's a good baby just trying to get her to sleep earlier than 2 am , she's awake from 11 till 2 am every night but does sleep till 8 or 9 am . Glad you have plans and are doing well xx