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Just for fun - what was your 'push present'?

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AWholeNewWorls · 04/02/2023 09:48

I'm curious! I've only just come across this term!
What did your partner/husband give you if anything? And for which number baby?

I'm pregnant with my first and our midwife mentioned it in our NCT class, specifically an eternity ring! Apparently it's quite common..? I fit in the 'millennial generation' and apparently have been living under a rock 😂

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Kladebs · 04/02/2023 10:24

My eldest is 19 and my youngest is 8. I'd never heard of push presents until a couple of years ago ( going to my ex to collect what I'm owed now😉)
Won't be expecting anything this time either. Just food as most people have said

Dippyeggz · 04/02/2023 10:25

A baby

PinkButtercups · 04/02/2023 10:25

My healthy children. That's all I needed.

Minimalme · 04/02/2023 10:25

I know people who got an eternity ring, which I would have gladly asked for/accepted but we didn't have the money.

I think it may have been a tradition with the upper classes originally. They probably got summat for having a son and heir and generally being a good little breeder.

Mercurial123 · 04/02/2023 10:26

It's just another way for the gullible to be parted from their money.

Donotgogentle · 04/02/2023 10:26

Friends have had an eternity ring or diamond studs.

IME it’s something the high earner finance type group do as well as the Insta crowd. Being pregnant and giving birth is such a burden which fathers don’t have to shoulder, part of me thinks why not?

TheLastDreamOfTheOak · 04/02/2023 10:26

Very much a thing in the circles we were in 17 and 15 years ago when I had DD's.
I got nothing when I had dd1. I got a bracelet from a local jewellery Maker when I had dd2. I still have it and wear it (though I don't have the husband that gave it me!)

SusanPerbCallMeSue · 04/02/2023 10:27

Nothing for any of my 5. Maybe it's because I didn't push them out, they were all born by c-section.

Or maybe it's because it wasn't a thing back then (my lot are aged 23-15)

pavinganeweoadtowalkon · 04/02/2023 10:27

I'd never heard of it until my friend's husband bought her a diamond ring when she had their first.
My ExH gave me an Eternity ring first time, a diamond necklace the second. Divorced now and my adult daughter has them both (and my engagement and wedding rings).
Good luck to you and your baby x

chupachump · 04/02/2023 10:27

Mercurial123 · 04/02/2023 10:26

It's just another way for the gullible to be parted from their money.

Is that how you feel about all presents?
Anniversary
Graduation
Dog's birthday

4thonthe4th · 04/02/2023 10:28

My husband has bought me a gift each time. We haven’t called it a push present and I certainly didn’t ask for anything. He is generally thoughtful though and really lovely with gifts. I get fresh flowers every Friday.
DD1 I got some beautiful earrings, flowers & chocolates
DS1 I got a pair of diamond studs

DS2 I got a necklace with the childrens initials on

Can you tell I love jewellery 😂 I’m currently pregnant with our 4th.

PrimrosesandPears · 04/02/2023 10:28

I got a sandwich and a bag of Percy pigs from the on site M&S 🤣.

My husband did buy a beautiful necklace for my baby daughter to “give me” for my first Mother’s Day and I like having that to mark her arrival.

4thonthe4th · 04/02/2023 10:28

SusanPerbCallMeSue · 04/02/2023 10:27

Nothing for any of my 5. Maybe it's because I didn't push them out, they were all born by c-section.

Or maybe it's because it wasn't a thing back then (my lot are aged 23-15)

My dad bought my mum a gift each time she gave birth. This was late 80s - mid 90s. Since when was buying a loved one a gift not a thing :/

Faradalla · 04/02/2023 10:29

I also didn't have a sex reveal party or baby shower. There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting some kind of object to keep forever to commemorate a special time in your life. People get tattoos, make casts of their babies feet, get given family heirlooms etc. Honestly, the only tacky thing is the name. It's not about how hard you've pushed a baby out of your vagina: it's a pretty innocent and sweet intentioned gesture to show acknowledge the absolutely grim experiences that women go through to get abbay out safely, and just to mark that time. Don't let the cynicism put you off, OP. You can still love your baby and enjoy a nice gift of your own choosing. Honestly the postpartum experience can be hard enough, so if you want something for after the baby's birth, have it. Its not tacky, shallow or ungrateful.

Killerfail · 04/02/2023 10:30

Isn’t it another American import, like baby showers and gender reveals?

Newnamenewme23 · 04/02/2023 10:30

I had sections so didn’t push at any point.

do you only get gifts if you actually did some pushing?

Mooshroo · 04/02/2023 10:31

A Costa 😍 wouldn’t have said no to an eternity ring though 🤣

IncompleteSenten · 04/02/2023 10:31

Nothing. I'm 49 and had my kids in my mid 20s. It really wasn't a thing back then (as far as I am aware)

I would really have appreciated a rubber ring and being left the fuck alone though.

Johnnysgirl · 04/02/2023 10:32

IME it’s something the high earner finance type group do as well as the Insta crowd
Higher earner types? No. Insta crowd? Absolutely.

4thonthe4th · 04/02/2023 10:32

Newnamenewme23 · 04/02/2023 10:30

I had sections so didn’t push at any point.

do you only get gifts if you actually did some pushing?

Clearly not. I got gorgeous gifts and had csections 😂

WandaWonder · 04/02/2023 10:32

I have heard it is a thing, same with Elf on a shelf and Christmas Eve presents

A thing yes but not mine,

I take it back wine

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AWholeNewWorls · 04/02/2023 10:33

I am also a sucker for celebrating everything eg. taking DH out for promotion at work, sending sister flowers for starting work after a long period of sick leave, going away for anniversaries etc. but the more I hear about these, the more the greedy monster in me wants just a teeny weeny little something.

HOWEVER, we have just bought a bigger car and moving from our flat into a house that is needing ££ renovating so I must do my best to drown out greedy monster's voice!

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Isthisreasonable · 04/02/2023 10:33

Nothing. Expectations weren't high as I didn't get anything when we married either.

chupachump · 04/02/2023 10:33

Johnnysgirl · 04/02/2023 10:32

IME it’s something the high earner finance type group do as well as the Insta crowd
Higher earner types? No. Insta crowd? Absolutely.

They were a thing a long time before insta!

4thonthe4th · 04/02/2023 10:33

Killerfail · 04/02/2023 10:30

Isn’t it another American import, like baby showers and gender reveals?

Buying gifts for people? No, I believe it’s a world wide phenomenon