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Just for fun - what was your 'push present'?

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AWholeNewWorls · 04/02/2023 09:48

I'm curious! I've only just come across this term!
What did your partner/husband give you if anything? And for which number baby?

I'm pregnant with my first and our midwife mentioned it in our NCT class, specifically an eternity ring! Apparently it's quite common..? I fit in the 'millennial generation' and apparently have been living under a rock 😂

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Hadalifeonce · 04/02/2023 10:08

Baked camembert, pate, cured meats and some wonderful red wine.

northernmam · 04/02/2023 10:12

We never did "push presents" but I must admit, I did enjoy a rare steak and some camembert the day after we came home from the hospital. I'll be doing the same again this time round too 😊

jacult · 04/02/2023 10:14

Hadalifeonce · 04/02/2023 10:08

Baked camembert, pate, cured meats and some wonderful red wine.

Me too! I did a waitrose order the week before especially!! Was amazing!!

I’m a millennial too and never heard of a push present. Also didn’t do a reveal or baby shower, it’s not really my thing.

Bambala · 04/02/2023 10:14

My children were my presents. I find the idea vulgar that we need rewarding for something we wanted to do which is have a family.

Mydogatemypurse · 04/02/2023 10:15

Carton of ribena

WarrickDavisAsPlates · 04/02/2023 10:16

I'm 32, had three babies oldest is ten youngest is one never had a "push present" with each baby we had a special dinner at home the night we brought them home, just like... whatever takeaway I wanted and some cake or something so it felt a bit like a celebration.

I also don't know anybody that had a "push present" so although I have heard of them it's only been through the media and not something I've known of people doing in real life.

I do suppose it could be to do with the circles you move in aswell as i also have never been to a "gender reveal" only been to one baby shower (and avoided a couple of others) I feel like push presents may be more for that demographic?

OutofControl3 · 04/02/2023 10:16

He bought me a takeaway 1st night home! Chicken kabab and chips does that count 😋 🤣

Newbiesell · 04/02/2023 10:17

didnt do push presents but DH got me two bottles of wine with the first, was desperate for a glass over none for nine months!

eurochick · 04/02/2023 10:18

I've only ever heard this mentioned on MN. I don't know anyone IRL who got one.

Johnnysgirl · 04/02/2023 10:18

Cuppasoupmonster · 04/02/2023 10:02

Aren’t you hard 🙄 on a ‘just for fun’ thread

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Faradalla · 04/02/2023 10:18

I had a horrible birth with my first child. I wanted some diamonds afterwards. My husband gave me the money and I went and got an eternity ring myself, when my baby was about 6 months old. Very unsentimental, un 'romantic', kind of missing the point but i absolutely love it. I also have another ring for my second child that I bought myself and ring number 3 is pending for the most recent baby. My oldest child loves looking at 'his' ring and I tell him that I always think about him when I look at it. I dont think there is anything taçky about receiving or buying something to commemorate an important event. I mean, most married women wear a wedding ring and engagement ring to symbolise an important event. Maybe I should just take mine off and be grateful I have a healthy husband 🙄

MrsH497 · 04/02/2023 10:18

Rare steak and a glass of red wine after DD2, think actually might have been the same with DD1 but also just being home with DH as it was lockdown so I was on post natal alone

Sux2buthen · 04/02/2023 10:19

Mumsnet hates a gift for a celebration 😂only here for the sad pissy comments

Andanotherone01 · 04/02/2023 10:19

Push presents are in the same category for people who have baby showers and gender reveal parties

IBroughtTheBunny · 04/02/2023 10:20

McDonald’s breakfast!

Johnnysgirl · 04/02/2023 10:20

Andanotherone01 · 04/02/2023 10:19

Push presents are in the same category for people who have baby showers and gender reveal parties

This.
The tacky brigade.

MistyFrequencies · 04/02/2023 10:21

Its very sad that people think commemorating an important event in your life with a gift is tacky. Sure, the name "push present" is iffy at best but the gift is lovely. My kids talk abput their own art we bought when they were born regularly, they love ir. You celebrate every other birthday with a gift, why not the first one?

chupachump · 04/02/2023 10:22

Sux2buthen · 04/02/2023 10:19

Mumsnet hates a gift for a celebration 😂only here for the sad pissy comments

😂
I hate the name 'push present' but I also like gifts so bring it on.

I also think baby showers are a lovely way to celebrate our friends growing a baby and having fat ankles because I also like parties. 👍

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AWholeNewWorls · 04/02/2023 10:22

Ditto, I haven't had a baby shower or gender reveal and don't want/plan on having one.

I'll be honest, initially when I heard of it, I thought it might be nice to have something from a sentimental point of view to see the thing and remember that time. But really, all these foodie ideas are far more exciting right now!!

And I couldn't feel more in agreement with the sentiment of having a healthy baby that we've been praying for is all the gift I'd ever want anyway. I am tearing up just thinking about my little DC in my arms, I can't wait 😭😭😭

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overthinkersanonnymus · 04/02/2023 10:22

My colleagues husband bought her a YSL bag!

MistyFrequencies · 04/02/2023 10:22

Andanotherone01 · 04/02/2023 10:19

Push presents are in the same category for people who have baby showers and gender reveal parties

Not always. No baby shower. No sex-reveal party here. "Push present" with both babies.

JadeSeahorse · 04/02/2023 10:22

Definitely never thought of it as a "Push present" - I had an elective c section anyway so no pushing involved 😂 - but DH bought me a beautiful white gold diamond solitaire ring for my right hand
which I wear all the time and never take off.

However, to be fair, we had been trying to have our DC for years and had lots of treatment and 4 mmc's before our DD finally arrived 28 years ago.♥️

IfYoureGonnaBreakMyHeart · 04/02/2023 10:23

A lovely bouquet of flowers with each one.
Hate the term push present though

CallipyJean · 04/02/2023 10:24

I got a baby - and a massive scar across my abdomen. I wasn’t very good at the pushing, apparently

chupachump · 04/02/2023 10:24

If you can afford it then why say no to a diamond or a fancy bag like the PP's mate. I carried this child, couldn't drink, puked my guts up, had fucking rhoids and then had to have the bloody thing. Bring on the Mulberry.